Deck 9: Communication in Close Relationships

Question 1

Telling someone "You can count on me" will usually guarantee loyalty because it's a measure of surefire commitment.

Answer 1

False

Question 2

Research shows that transgressors who have been forgiven are less likely to repeat their offenses than those who have not received forgiveness.

Answer 2

True

Question 3

Physical intimacy is obviously the best type of relational intimacy.

Answer 3

False

Question 4

Because men share less personal information and feelings than women, they are not capable of achieving the type of intimate relationships that women have.

Question 5

Managing your privacy settings on social network sites could have an impact on intimacy in cyber-relationships.

Question 6

Commitment is only important in some types of interpersonal relationships.

Question 7

By definition, an intimate relationship must exhibit all four intimacy dimensions.

Question 8

While workplace romances can be messy, some research has shown that 34 percent of people who said they dated a coworker ended up marrying that person.

Question 9

Intimacy can come from intellectual sharing.

Question 10

Focusing on having intimate communication daily will lead to extremely satisfying relationships.

Question 11

Expressing regret can be more important in repairing a relational transgression than saying "I'm sorry."

Question 12

One researcher concluded that close relationships "may be the single most important source of life satisfaction and emotional well-being, across different ages and cultures."

Question 13

Some studies show that relational intimacy may develop more quickly through computer-mediated communication than face-to-face.

Question 14

Intimacy is closely linked to life satisfaction.

Question 15

Recent research has shown that men achieve intimacy through shared activities.

Question 16

IM-ing, blogging, and Facebooking do not enhance intimacy in interpersonal relationships.

Question 17

It is quite possible to have a wide range of relationships with coworkers, roommates, and even family members without having much intimacy at all.

Question 18

Male-male relationships involve less disclosure than male-female relationships.

Question 19

Emotional expression is the only way to develop close relationships.

Question 20

Because cultures like Japan and Taiwan are collectivist, people there communicate the same with members of "in-groups" and "out-groups" alike.

Question 21

Children who experience insecure bonds with family in their early life often grow up anxious about new relationships, uncomfortable with intimacy, and worried about losing relationships.

Question 22

Whereas most other interpersonal communication is transactional, as described in Chapter One, families tend to have more linear interactions.

Question 23

The way we communicate in our families is shaped by birth order.

Question 24

Research suggests that the most effective conversations about forgiveness contain two elements-an explicit statement of your thoughts or feelings, and a discussion of the implications of the transgression and the future of the relationship.

Question 25

Men are more likely to create and express closeness through shared activities than through talking about personal matters.

Question 26

Young adults from laissez-faire backgrounds are more confident listeners and more intellectually flexible than those from consensual or pluralistic families.

Question 27

Children who grow up in families with high conversation orientation have a greater number of interpersonal skills in their later relationships.

Question 28

Research demonstrates that one family communication pattern isn't necessarily more productive or satisfying than another.

Question 29

Friendships are either task-oriented or relationship-oriented, but not both.

Question 30

The way parents communicate with their young children creates secure or insecure bonds that have powerful and lasting effects.

Question 31

Labels used by family members such as "the smart one" and "the cute one" can create self-fulfilling prophecies.

Question 32

Attachment theory argues that, while secure attachment in childhood leads to confident adult communicators, insecure attachment has little to no impact on later life.

Question 33

Transgressions are always intentional.

Question 34

Practical action such as helping a friend move is more characteristic of female-to-female rather than male-to-male expressions of friendship.

Question 35

One type of communication that helps maintain relationships is evaluation.

Question 36

According to the text, parents and children do not really change their communication patterns during the transitional years of emerging adulthood.

Question 37

The only benefit of forgiving a transgression is that the relationship might be repaired.

Question 38

One study found that the two least forgivable offenses of dating partners were sexual infidelity and unjustified suspicion.

Question 39

Communicating effectively with family members is important because we can't choose them, and we will likely always feel their influence even if we cut them from our lives.

Question 40

Friendships are more likely to end than any other relationship.

Question 41

The love language that expresses love more clearly than any other is "words of affirmation."

Question 42

The average Facebook user has 400 friends.

Question 43

According to research studies, which family communication pattern produces more productive and satisfying results?

A)No pattern is necessarily better than another.
B)consensual
C)both consensual and pluralistic
D)protective
E)both protective and laissez-faire

Question 44

Research suggests that relationships are more likely to be happy and successful if the couple has at least five times more positive interactions than negative ones.

Question 45

Siblings who are ___________ are often more extraverted and concerned with control than their brothers and sisters.

A)first-born
B)middle-born
C)last-born
D)"caboose" children
E)none of the above

Question 46

Research suggests the validating conflict style is ideal for all couples.

Question 47

The giving of gifts is a shallow and materialistic act and certainly does not express one's love toward another.

Question 48

Research supports the idea that-in "friends with benefits" relationships-women are more typically focused on "friends" and men are more likely to be interested in "benefits."

Question 49

One researcher suggests that if couples maintain a "magic ratio" of positive to negative interactions they will be likely to be more successful.

Question 50

Social psychologist Roy Baumeister makes the case that, on average, most people want ___________ close, important relationships in their lives at any given time.

A)one to two
B)two to three
C)three to four
D)four to six
E)more than six

Question 51

A romantic turning point is always positive.

Question 52

The text states that romantic partners who fear rejection and abandonment are likely to act in ways that increase the odds of their fears coming to pass.This example best relates to which concept from Chapter Two?

A)identity management
B)self-congruence
C)self-fulfilling prophecy
D)self-serving bias
E)halo effect

Question 53

It is possible to have close quality friendships with more than 150 people.

Question 54

The first big fight in a relationship is a common romantic turning point.

Question 55

When Marlina and Zach fight, they blow things out of proportion, interrupt each other, and yell.Their conflict style is most likely

A)volatile.
B)avoidant
C)validating.
D)protective
E)laissez-faire.

Question 56

Assuming your partner speaks the same love language as you is the key to success.

Question 57

Which of the following is not a characteristic of families described in the text?

A)Family systems are interdependent.
B)Family systems are manifested through communication.
C)Family systems are nested.
D)Families are more than just the sum of their parts.
E)All of the above are characteristics of families.

Question 58

Most Facebook "friends" could probably be more accurately labeled "acquaintances."

Question 59

Envisioning our family members represented in a mobile, with photos of each member suspended by a thread and connected to bars containing images of other members, may help us better understand the idea that

A)family communication is involuntary.
B)family communication is role-driven.
C)family communication is formative.
D)family communication patterns vary significantly.
E)families are systems.

Question 60

It is difficult to learn a new love language.Therefore, we are probably better off finding a romantic partner with a style for expressing love that matches ours.

Question 61

Of the following, what is not a category of relational transgressions?

A)minor vs.significant
B)one-time vs.incremental
C)deliberate vs.intentional
D)social vs.relational
E)open vs.private

Question 62

Some studies show that computer-mediated communication

A)always ensures intimacy.
B)enhances verbal, emotional, and social intimacy in interpersonal relationships.
C)is harmful to sustaining intimacy.
D)results in one level of self-disclosure.
E)None of these answers are correct.

Question 63

All of the following are dimensions of intimacy except which one?

A)physical
B)emotional
C)shared activities
D)intellectual
E)All of these answer are correct dimensions.

Question 64

INSTRUCTIONS for questions 81-84: Match each statement with the family communication pattern it characterizes.
a.consensual
b.pluralistic
c.protective
d.laissez-faire
Most family members do their own thing and make their own decisions without much discussion.

Question 65

INSTRUCTIONS for questions 81-84: Match each statement with the family communication pattern it characterizes.
a.consensual
b.pluralistic
c.protective
d.laissez-faire
The family is trying to decide where to go for summer vacation.All family members-and maybe even other relatives-get to weigh in with their perspectives until a consensus is reached.

Question 66

All of the following are major indicators of a committed romantic relationship except for

A)providing affection.
B)maintaining integrity.
C)create a relational future.
D)making an effort to not over-communicate.
E)creating a positive relational atmosphere.

Question 67

Omid and Micayla have an agreement that he will call to tell her when he will be late from work so she won't worry.When he forgets, Micayla is upset because of what type of transgression?

A)minor
B)significant
C)relational
D)deliberate
E)incremental

Question 68

INSTRUCTIONS for questions 81-84: Match each statement with the family communication pattern it characterizes.
a.consensual
b.pluralistic
c.protective
d.laissez-faire
Twelve-year old Russell asks his parents if he can attend a rock concert.They say "no" and end the discussion there.Russell does not bring it up again.

Question 69

Research of male and female intimacy styles shows that

A)differences are not as great as some people might think.
B)women disclose more than men.
C)women disclose more personal information than men.
D)men grow close by doing things together.
E)All of these answer are correct.

Question 70

An intimate relationship

A)may only exhibit one or two dimensions.
B)can be achieved by sharing activities.
C)can be created through exchanging important feelings.
D)can come from exchanging ideas.
E)All of these answer are correct.

Question 71

According to the text, all of the following are strategies that couples use to keep their relationships satisfying except

A)positivity.
B)social networks.
C)openness.
D)dividing chores equally.
E)assurances.

Question 72

INSTRUCTIONS for questions 81-84: Match each statement with the family communication pattern it characterizes.
a.consensual
b.pluralistic
c.protective
d.laissez-faire
Fifteen-year old Bela wants to get her nose pierced.She feels comfortable making her case and discussing the idea with other family members, but the decision rests with her parents.

Question 73

One type of relational transgression is

A)unfaithfulness.
B)verbal hostility.
C)rage.
D)criticism in front of others.
E)All of these choices are types of relational transgressions.

Question 74

A research study found that college students use the following relational maintenance strategies most in email.

A)openness and social networks
B)social networks and sharing tasks
C)positivity and assurances
D)openness and assurances
E)sharing tasks and openness

Question 75

The benefit of forgiveness is

A)less emotional distress.
B)less aggression.
C)improvement of cardiovascular functioning.
D)restoration of the damaged relationship.
E)All of these choices are beneficial.

Question 76

Members of an individualistic culture like the United States

A)disclose the same no matter what group is being disclosed to.
C)are not considered very romantic.
D)act more familiar with strangers and disclose more personal information.
D)rarely show emotions.
E)shy away from public displays of affection.