Deck 10: Healthy Relationships and Communication

Question 1

All of the following are steps in effective conflict resolution, EXCEPT

A) finding out what each person wants.
B) reviewing and negotiating.
C) clarifying the issue.
D) not compromising your position.

Answer 1

not compromising your position.

Question 2

Jake and Sally have dated for several months. They have talked briefly about marriage and more extensively about living together. They have a strong sexual attraction to each other and describe their relationship as passionate. Sally feels very lucky to have met someone like Jake and wants to spend all of their free time together. She is even willing to take up Jake's hobbies so that they can be together all of the time. Lately, Sally has developed an intense jealousy over Jake spending time with his friends from work. Jake cares for Sally but wants to maintain some degree of freedom. If Jake and Sally were to marry without changes in the basic elements of their relationship it is not likely that the marriage would be successful because

A) Sally has unrealistic expectations about their relationship.
B) Jake's desire to be with friends indicates he is unable to make a true commitment to Sally.
C) Jake does not love Sally.
D) Sally does not love Jake.

Answer 2

Sally has unrealistic expectations about their relationship.

Question 3

The primary problems for single-parent families headed by women are

A) scholastic.
B) social.
C) religious.
D) economic.

Answer 3

economic.

Question 4

Qualities of strong families include all of the following, EXCEPT:

A) commitment.
B) communication.
C) appreciation.
D) avoiding stress.

Question 5

Which of the following goals is MOST likely to be associated with male conversation?

A) establishing dominance
B) receiving support
C) achieving understanding
D) establishing closeness

Question 6

Which of the following statements is FALSE for most strong families?

A) Family members express appreciation for one another.
B) Family members communicate with one another.
C) Family members share a sense of spiritual wellness.
D) Family members rarely seek counseling.

Question 7

Jealousy is

A) a measure of insecurity.
B) proof that love exists.
C) unrelated to self-esteem.
D) a harmless emotion.

Question 8

Male communication patterns can often be described as

A) negotiating.
B) cooperative.
C) competitive.
D) affiliative.

Question 9

Intimate partnerships differ from friendships, in that intimate partnerships

A) are more accepting and less critical.
B) include the presence of sexual desire.
C) are more stable and enduring over time.
D) do not require exclusiveness.

Question 10

It appears that our partner may NOT be interested in what we are saying if he or she responds by

A) looking around the room.
B) looking in our eyes.
C) leaning toward us as we speak.
D) touching our hand.

Question 11

Having strong social relationships may do all of the following, EXCEPT

A) reduce the risk of illness.
B) decrease measures of physical health.
C) speed recovery from illness.
D) improve measures of mental health.

Question 12

The four general parenting styles include all the following, EXCEPT

A) authoritative.
B) authoritarian.
C) indulgent.
D) absence.

Question 13

If you want to pursue an online relationship,

A) use sexually oriented websites that will get your message across.
B) hold out for a "perfect" partner; after all, you have thousands to choose from.
C) find out the other person's situation and intention.
D) give out only your name and placement of employment/school; never give out your phone number.

Question 14

The degree to which we can skillfully and adaptively deal with our emotions and those of others is called:

A) emotional intelligence.
B) adaptation.
C) emotional understanding.
D) emotional sensitivity.

Question 15

According to Statistics Canada, by the year 2035, about of couples who married in 2004 will be divorced.

A) 52%
B) 38%
C) 27%
D) 15%

Question 16

The high Canadian divorce rate probably represents

A) increased mobility in our society.
B) a growing need to be independent.
C) greater maturity of married partners.
D) high emotional expectations of marriage.

Question 17

A characteristic of friendship includes reciprocity, which means

A) give-and-take between friends.
B) acceptance.
C) loyalty.
D) mutual respect.

Question 18

What percentage of Canadians consider extramarital affairs to be immoral?

A) 24%
B) 44%
C) 74%
D) 84%

Question 19

Approximately of couples live together before marrying.

A) 35%
B) 50%
C) 20%
D) 60%

Question 20

The roots of our identity and sense of self are in our

A) community.
B) childhood.
C) peer group.
D) heredity.

Question 21

If you and your partner find that you argue again and again over the same issue, you should

A) end the relationship.
B) seek professional help.
C) put the issue aside and deal with it at another time.
D) accept the differences between yourselves.

Question 22

The transformation of love progresses in the following way:

A) high levels of passion, increasing intimacy, diminished romance, break up of relationship
B) high levels of passion, increasing intimacy, diminished romance, enduring love or break up of relationship
C) sex, passion, break up of relationship, increasing intimacy.
D) high levels of passion, increasing intimacy, diminished romance, enduring love.

Question 23

The percentage of Canadians that have no one to confide in is about _____________ percent.

A) 20
B) 30
C) 50
D) 10

Question 24

Intimate partners with different cultural backgrounds

A) experience more anxiety during the later stages of the relationship than partners with similar backgrounds.
B) may differ in communication styles, values, and views of the world.
C) encounter the same obstacles as individuals with the same cultural backgrounds.
D) will need to adopt each other's culture.

Question 25

The number of Canadian women with children who are single and have never been married is:

A) remaining the same.
B) increasing.
C) unknown.
D) decreasing.

Question 26

A characteristic of one's partner that becomes important in determining the quality and depth of a relationship after the euphoria of first attraction and initial romance winds down is

A) future aspirations.
B) appearance.
C) general interests.
D) social status.

Question 27

In traditional male-female dating relationships, the development of the relationship follows the order of

A) exclusive dating, cohabitation, marriage.
B) casual dating, exclusive dating, cohabitation, marriage.
C) casual dating, exclusive dating, engagement, marriage.
D) casual dating, cohabitation, engagement, marriage.

Question 28

What percentage of Canadians 15 years of age and older have never been married?

A) 53%
B) 6%
C) 34%
D) 24%

Question 29

Keys to good communication include all of the following, EXCEPT:

A) listening.
B) openness.
C) feedback.
D) self-disclosure.

Question 30

"Revealing personal information that we ordinarily wouldn't reveal because of the risk involved" describes

A) non-verbal communication.
B) constructive listening.
C) self-disclosure.
D) feedback.

Question 31

All of the following are important guidelines for ending a relationship, EXCEPT

A) "Give the relationship a fair chance before breaking up."
B) "Be tactful."
C) "Move on as quickly as possible."
D) "Be fair and honest."

Question 32

Living together in a sexual relationship without being married describes

A) cohabitation.
B) compatibility.
C) roommates.
D) marriage.

Question 33

All of the following are important for effective listening, EXCEPT:

A) avoid interrupting.
B) provide unsolicited advice.
C) provide appropriate nonverbal feedback.
D) clarify your understanding of what your partner has said.

Question 34

Although evidence has suggested that children from single-parent families are less successful in school, this could actually be attributed to and not the absence of the second parent.

A) drug abuse
B) gang affiliation
C) low educational attainment of the single parent
D) lack of an extended family

Question 35

Anxious/avoidant relationships with parents may produce children who, when they reach adulthood,

A) tend to be married to the same person for a lifetime.
B) are inclined to run from relationships.
C) are satisfied living a solitary lifestyle.
D) find it easy to establish relationships.

Question 36

Approximately percent of married people will have an affair during their marriage.

A) 15-20
B) 20-25
C) 25-30
D) over 30

Question 37

All of the following are common relationship challenges, EXCEPT

A) overfamiliarity.
B) self-disclosure.
C) commitment.
D) expectations.

Question 38

Which is a common expectation that can hurt a relationship?

A) expecting that your partner loves you
B) expecting that you can trust your partner
C) expecting your partner to change
D) expecting intimacy

Question 39

To develop a healthy intimate relationship, it is important to self-disclose

A) rarely; you do not want to frighten your potential partner.
B) at a slow but steady rate.
C) early and often; vulnerability is part of the game.
D) early in the relationship.

Question 40

The three keys of good communication in a relationship include all of the following, EXCEPT

A) feedback skills.
B) listening skills.
C) self-disclosure.
D) critical analysis.

Question 41

Which of the following statements is NOT TRUE of many gay and lesbian relationships?

A) Each partner assumes a traditional gender role.
B) They provide intimacy, security, and support.
C) Household tasks are often shared or split between partners.
D) Both partners are usually self-supporting.

Question 42

Children who are fussy, fearful in new situations or with strangers, and have irregular eating and sleeping habits are:

A) easy.
B) difficult.
C) slow-to-warm-up.
D) nice.

Question 43

All of the following contribute to the increasing popularity of singlehood, EXCEPT

A) low divorce rates.
B) greater sexual freedom.
C) career goals.
D) desire for financial independence.

Question 44

All of the following are important for women to have effective communication with men, EXCEPT:

A) try not to be critical of your partner's responses.
B) try to speak in ways not to provoke defensiveness.
C) try to be calm when approaching conflict.
D) do not run away from the issue.

Question 45

The arrival of the first child is most likely to

A) cause very little change in a marriage.
B) reduce relationship stress.
C) reinforce traditional marital roles.
D) cause an equal degree of job changes for fathers and mothers.

Question 46

The give-and-take between friends and the feeling that both share joys and burdens more or less equally over time is called:

A) respect.
B) mutuality.
C) companionship.
D) reciprocity.

Question 47

The median age for marriage for men and women respectively in Canada is:

A) 27 and 26 years.
B) 31 and 29 years.
C) 29 and 28 years.
D) 28 and 26 years.

Question 48

Jake and Sally have dated for several months. They have talked briefly about marriage and more extensively about living together. They have a strong sexual attraction to each other and describe their relationship as passionate. Sally feels very lucky to have met someone like Jake and wants to spend all of their free time together. She is even willing to take up Jake's hobbies so that they can be together all of the time. Lately, Sally has developed an intense jealousy over Jake spending time with his friends from work. Jake cares for Sally but wants to maintain some degree of freedom. According to Sternberg, Jake and Sally's relationship is based on which type of love?

A) companionate
B) consummate
C) liking
D) infatuation

Question 49

All of the following are important for men to have effective communication with women, EXCEPT:

A) try not to think of her comments as personal attacks.
B) do not run away from the issue.
C) calm yourself if necessary.
D) try not to be critical of your partner's responses.

Question 50

Emotions that can accompany physiological arousal include all of the following, EXCEPT

A) frustration.
B) betrayal.
C) love.
D) fear.

Question 51

After death of a spouse or family member, which of the following is the greatest stress-producing event in life usually?

A) marital separation
B) social isolation
C) divorce
D) marriage

Question 52

Our gender role is first defined for us by our

A) culture.
B) sexual orientation.
C) teachers.
D) heredity.

Question 53

_ includes the activities, abilities, and characteristics that a culture has deemed appropriate for us based on whether we are male or female.

A) Gender role
B) Gender identity
C) Self-concept
D) Stereotype

Question 54

Emotional intelligence includes

A) blocking feelings as they occur.
B) responding impulsively to feelings.
C) recognizing feelings as they occur.
D) responding reactively to feelings.

Question 55

All of the following are health benefits of marriage, EXCEPT

A) longer life expectancy.
B) greater mental health.
C) more effective fitness programs.
D) less likelihood of catching colds.

Question 56

A successful relationship has proven to improve an individual's

A) earning power.
B) self-esteem.
C) physical strength.
D) immune system.

Question 57

What percentage of Canadian children live in a single-parent home?

A) 25.8%
B) 16.3%
C) 2.5%
D) 5%

Question 58

Predictors of a happy marriage include all of the following, EXCEPT:

A) communicate well.
B) share extensive common interests and leisure activities.
C) effective ways of resolving conflicts.
D) partners have realistic expectations of each other.

Question 59

Authoritative parents are ___________ on demandingness and on responsiveness.

A) high; high
B) low; low
C) high; low
D) low; high

Question 60

The greatest stress-producing event in life is usually

A) divorce.
B) marriage.
C) marital separation.
D) death of spouse or family member.

Question 61

Real friends

A) include passion in their relationship.
B) should not be altruistic.
C) can be tense with each other.
D) do not share past difficult experiences.

Question 62

Authoritarian parents are ___________ on demandingness and on responsiveness.

A) high; high
B) low; low
C) high; low
D) low; high

Question 63

is a constructive response to another's self-disclosure.

A) Nonverbal cue
B) Criticism
C) Feedback
D) Issue clarification

Question 64

Marital status affects all of the following, EXCEPT

A) tax status
B) inheritance
C) employment
D) medical decision making

Question 65

About 75 percent of divorced people remarry, often within year(s).

A) 3
B) 1
C) 5
D) 7

Question 66

Which of the following emotions is NOT accompanied by physiological arousal?

A) fear
B) respect
C) rejection
D) love

Question 67

All of the following are liabilities associated with cohabitation, EXCEPT

A) loss of inheritance rights.
B) loss of protection against domestic violence.
C) absence of the legal protection of marriage.
D) loss of spousal health insurance benefits.

Question 68

Once children grow up and leave home, marital satisfaction

A) increases.
B) severely decreases.
C) is not changed.
D) decreases.

Question 69

If your partner expresses unhappiness in your relationship, it is best to

A) validate your partner's feelings and respond with self-disclosure.
B) offer constructive criticism on how your partner can meet your needs.
C) leave the room before saying something you will regret later.
D) defend yourself and your actions.

Question 70

Friendships usually include all of the following characteristics, EXCEPT

A) reciprocity.
B) passion.
C) acceptance.
D) companionship.

Question 71

The birth of the first child is most likely to

A) increase pressure to maintain social relationships.
B) make the parents' relationship more egalitarian.
C) lessen marital satisfaction.
D) increase a mother's contentment.

Question 72

Children in single-parent families are more likely to

A) have academic difficulty.
B) have professional success at an early age.
C) experience early school success.
D) be motivated to avoid relationships with others.

Question 73

Which of the following is usually the basis of first attraction to another person?

A) appearance
B) religious affiliation
C) educational level
D) socioeconomic background

Question 74

Fear or hatred of gay people is called:

A) discrimination.
B) homophobia.
C) arrhenphobia.
D) arachnophobia.

Question 75

The most long lasting element of love is

A) preoccupation with the loved one.
B) euphoria.
C) commitment.
D) idealization of the loved one.

Question 76

Mindfulness can be cultivated by

A) thinking ahead.
B) speeding up our thought process.
C) concentrating on multiple tasks.
D) maximizing awareness of ourselves.

Question 77

Our first relationships outside our family are

A) intimate relationships.
B) friendships.
C) dependent relationships.
D) love relationships.

Question 78

Which of the following is NOT a constructive strategy for conflict resolution?

A) providing selective information
B) finding out what the other person wants
C) reviewing and renegotiating
D) clarifying the issue

Question 79

When you want to have a serious discussion with your partner,

A) focus on the whole person, not just one behaviour.
B) avoid blaming.
C) sooner is usually better.
D) state your concern in a general way, not too detailed.

Question 80

Children who are happy, content, and have regular eating and sleeping habits are:

A) easy.
B) difficult.
C) slow-to-warm-up.
D) nice.