Deck 11: Coping With Conflict

Question 1

Most romantic couples have ______disagreements per week, with _____ disagreements per month being particularly unpleasant

A) 1 to 3, 1 or 2
B) 2, 6
C) 2 to 4, 3 or 4
D) few, 1 or 2

Answer 1

A

Question 2

Alex and Erika have been in a relationship for 15 years. Both of them describe their relationship as being happy and satisfying. One day while trying to make plans for the weekend, Erika snaps at Alex, saying that Alex's ideas sound uninteresting and uncreative and that they might as well just stay home. Based on the quality of their relationship, how is Alex most likely to explain Erika's insulting behavior?

A) Erika is a scrooge who is always critical of my ideas.
B) Erika is a good person and is always honest. That's why we get along so great.
C) Here we go again. Erika must be saying that to make me feel guilty.
D) Erika isn't usually so critical. She is probably having a bad day because of all the stress at work.

Answer 2

D

Question 3

If people make _________ attributions, they believe that the cause of another person's behavior is based on their personality. When they make __________ attributions, they believe that another person's behavior is caused by situational factors.

A) specific, global
B) stable, unstable
C) internal, external
D) relationship enhancing, distress maintaining

Answer 3

C

Question 4

Studies have shown that there is a positive correlation between relational closeness and conflict. According to the text, this makes sense because:

A) people in close relationships feel freer to express disagreement.
B) people who spend a lot of time together have more opportunity to have conflict.
C) people who have been together for a long time have more problems to fight about.
D) both a and b are True.

Question 5

Take another look at Question #4. If Nikolai and Teresa searched the Internet for new restaurants and then decided to take Thomas to a very modern restaurant that serves Vietnamese food in a French style, their conflict style would best be described as:

A) avoiding.
B) compromising.
C) collaborating.
D) yielding.

Question 6

In one of your classes, you are assigned to work in a small group with a person who consistently refutes certain positions. Without directly teasing or insulting others, he attacks other people's ideas by explaining flaws in their reasoning. Which of the following types of social ability is this person displaying?

A) verbal aggressiveness
B) argumentativeness
C) interpersonal violence
D) collaborative conflict tactics

Question 7

Which indirect conflict style can be either cooperative or uncooperative depending on the situation?

A) avoiding
B) indirect fighting
C) yielding
D) compromising

Question 8

Which of the following best represents the definition of conflict provided in the text?

A) verbal aggressiveness
B) the four horsemen of the apocalypse
C) a disagreement over incompatible goals
D) relationship termination

Question 9

If people engage in gunnysacking, it means that they:

A) try to accommodate the other person's needs over their own to resolve the issue.
B) insult the other person in ways that they know will be especially hurtful.
C) store up many small issues over time, ultimately bringing them all up during one conflict.
D) try to resolve a conflict by giving up part of their needs so that both parties win something.

Question 10

According to spill-over effect, children who witness their parents engaging in frequent, aggressive conflict are more likely to have trouble interacting with their peers and performing at their full potential in school because:

A) they model their parents' aggressive behavior.
B) parents who engage in dysfunctional conflict are also likely to have dysfunctional parenting styles.
C) they are preoccupied with problems at home.
D) their parents tend to communicate differently with each than with the children, leading to role confusion.

Question 11

In terms of the effects of conflict on relationships, which of the following is true about conflict?

A) The frequency with which conflict occurs determines whether a relationship will end.
B) The way conflict is managed can determine how satisfying a relationship is.
C) All conflicts involve aggression, which are inherently detrimental to a relationship.
D) A couple's "first big fight" has a more powerful influence on relational satisfaction than do any subsequent arguments.

Question 12

Behaviors such as sighing, rolling one's eyes, and giving the silent treatment fall under the conflict style called:

A) avoiding.
B) indirect fighting.
C) competitive fighting.
D) yielding.

Question 13

Conflict generally:

A) includes yelling and screaming
B) is synonymous with disagreement
C) is a function of goal compatibility but incompatible methods
D) all of the above

Question 14

Which two conflict styles are considered to be the most cooperative?

A) compromising and collaborating
B) collaborating and yielding
C) avoiding and yielding
D) compromising and indirect fighting.

Question 15

The cascade of the four horsemen of the apocalypse begins when:

A) one or both partners stonewall.
B) contempt or disgust arise in an interaction.
C) one person complains or criticizes the other.
D) one or both partners become defensive and deny responsibility for problems, make accusations, whine, or mindread the other person's intentions.

Question 16

When parties in conflict begin to stonewall, it means that they

A) begin to fight back instead of accommodating the other person's needs.
B) withdraw from the interaction.
C) accommodate the problematic behavior.
D) collaborate and try to reach an agreement, even if it means giving up part of their needs.

Question 17

According to research by Gottman , satisfied couples provide about positive statement(s) for every negative statement.

A) 1
B) 5
C) 10
D) 15

Question 18

In contrast to the spill-over effect mentioned in Question #10, the socialization effect suggests that children:

A) model their parents' conflict behavior.
B) are most likely to have an aggressive conflict style when their parents use dysfunctional parenting styles with them and aggressive conflict styles with each other.
C) of aggressive parents become so preoccupied with family problems that they find it difficult to make new friends.
D) are likely to develop aggressive conflict styles when their parents communicate differently with each than with the them, leading to role confusion.

Question 19

The negative spiral sequence characterized by one partner wanting to talk about an issue, while the other continually avoids the issue is

A) reciprocal negative behavior.
B) double withdrawal.
C) demand-withdrawal.
D) accommodation.

Question 20

Nikolai and Teresa are trying to decide which restaurant they should take their friend Thomas to for his birthday. Nikolai wants to take Thomas to a Vietnamese restaurant (which serves generous portions of inexpensive but delicious food), and Teresa wants to take Thomas to a French restaurant (which serves expensive and beautifully presented food). To resolve the issue, they decide to flip a coin. If Nikolai wins the coin toss they will take Thomas to the Vietnamese restaurant and the next time a friend of theirs has a birthday they will take her or him to the French restaurant Teresa likes. If Teresa wins the coin toss, they will go to the French restaurant first and the Vietnamese restaurant later. The conflict style they used is best described as:

A) avoidant.
B) compromising.
C) collaborating.
D) yielding.

Question 21

Is conflict inevitable in close relationships an it be prevented an it be managed?

Question 22

Discuss 3postitive and 3 negative responses to "flaming" on line. What do you believe are the best approaches?

Question 23

A procrastination effect often occurs with children of conflict-oriented parents reluctant to jump into a conflict they witness.

Question 24

Bringing third parties into the conflict conversation usually reduces defensiveness.

Question 25

In both face-to-face interaction or communicating online, hostile behaviors tend to be reciprocated during conflict.

Question 26

Which of the following constitutes competitive responses to flaming?

A) joking
B) reciprocal flaming
C) apologies
D) mediating
True False

Question 27

A socialization effect often occurs, with children adopting conflict styles similar to their parents' conflict styles.

Question 28

The frequency of conflict is the most potent predictor of divorce.

Question 29

Conflict is most likely to occur in the context of close relationships.

Question 30

People can make a choice to respond to flaming in a constructive way.

Question 31

Competitive Fighting is the same as which of the following conflict styles?

A) direct fighting
B) distributive communication
C) the contentious style.
D) all of the above

Question 32

Couples characterized by husband-to-wife violence are more likely than nonviolent couples to exhibit rigid patterns of husband demand and wife withdrawal.

Question 33

Competitive fighting is characterized by an uncooperative orientation and an indirect style of communication.

Question 34

"Attack positions, not people (no name-calling, button pushing, or violence)" is one of the ten "rules" for constructive conflict management mentioned in your text.

Question 35

Conflict is most likely when incompatible goals are important to both people and hard to obtain.

Question 36

What effect does conflict between a husband and a wife have on children?

Question 37

The collaborating style of conflict management is the same as which of the following

A) problem focused
B) integrative
C) disjunctive
D) yielding

Question 38

Same-sex siblings of about the same age are particularly likely to engage in frequent, competitive fighting.

Question 39

List and discuss 5 conflict styles. Which seems to be most harmful to a relationship?

Question 40

Couples who handle conflict in a calm, collaborative fashion

A) tend to reinforce conflict behavior in their children.
B) tend to be satisfied with their relationships.
C) are at great risk for divorce
D) typically do not have children

Question 41

What is the demand/withdrawal sequence s likely to do it are the consequences?