Deck 10: Staying Close

Question 1

The concept of ___________________ has been used to explain why some couples become disillusioned and less relationally satisfied when their formerly long distance relationships become proximal.

A) possessive jealousy
B) idealization
C) out of sight out of mind
D) maintenance switching

Answer 1

B

Question 2

In terms of sex differences in maintenance behaviors, the authors of your text book takes the position that:

A) Men and women are from different galaxies.
B) Men are from Mars; Women are from Venus.
C) Men are from North Dakota; Women are from South Dakota.
D) Men and women are from the same city.

Answer 2

C

Question 3

Tyler and Brianna are best friends, but sometimes they can't help thinking about each other as potential romantic partners rather than friends. The challenge they are dealing with is:

A) the emotional bond challenge
B) the sexual challenge
C) the equality challenge
D) the public presentation challenge

Answer 3

A

Question 4

The text book summarizes a study that compared maintenance behavior in virtual, Pinocchio, cyber-emigrant, and real-world relationships. According to this study, the amount of maintenance behavior people use is best predicted by:

A) modality
B) commitment level
C) satisfaction level
D) personality variables

Question 5

Although gay and lesbian couples report using many of the same maintenance behaviors as straight couples, _____________________ is especially important for maintaining gay and lesbian relationships.

A) self-disclosure
B) bonding communication
C) affection
D) communicating equality

Question 6

Research suggests that the most common reason cross-sex friends keep their relationship platonic is:

A) to safeguard the relationship.
B) to avoid network disapproval.
C) because they are not physically attracted to each other.
D) because they do not want a romantic relationship with anyone at the present time.

Question 7

In which situation are people LEAST likely to use antisocial maintenance behaviors?

A) When their relationships are satisfying.
B) When they are desperate to hang onto a relationship.
C) When they want to keep the relationship from getting closer.
D) When they want to control the partner.

Question 8

Which of the following maintenance behaviors do men friends use more than women friends?

A) openness (self-disclosure)
B) joint activities
C) affection
D) supportiveness

Question 9

According to research reported in your text book, the biggest disadvantage that college students associate with friends with benefits relationships is that:

A) there are risks associated with having sex.
B) there is a low level of commitment in the relationship.
C) one partner might develop romantic feelings.
D) their social network might disapprove of their relationship.

Question 10

Which of the following statements is FALSE:

A) Routine behaviors are generally more important for maintaining relationships than are strategic behaviors.
B) Married and engaged couples report using more assurances and task sharing than dating couples.
C) Couples who are in serious dating relationships report using more openness and positivity than couples who are married or casually dating.
D) After the honeymoon stage, married couples report a steady decrease in their use of maintenance behavior such that maintenance is lower the longer they have been married.

Question 11

Which type of cross-sex friendship has been found to contain the most maintenance behavior?

A) strictly platonic
B) mutual romance
C) desires romance
D) rejects romance

Question 12

A "friends with benefits" relationship is different from a "romantic relationship" because:

A) of the sexual nature of the romantic relationship.
B) friends with benefits relationships often last longer than romantic relationships.
C) jealousy is more acceptable in friends with benefits relationships than romantic. relationships.
D) romantic relationships are usually defined by more commitment and exclusivity.

Question 13

Talking about the future of the relationship falls under the maintenance behavior called:

A) assurances
B) avoidance
C) openness and routine talk
D) social networking

Question 14

Which of the following behaviors is the best example of the maintenance behavior called positivity?

A) planning separate activities
B) acting cheerful and optimistic
C) giving your partner an especially nice gift
D) spending a holiday with your partner's family

Question 15

According to research discussed in the textbook, the #1 activity that middle school and high school girls would hate to have to give up is:

A) playing computer games
B) going to the mall
C) talking on the telephone
D) wearing designer clothing

Question 16

Maureen and Michael are platonic cross-sex friends. Maureen's boyfriend gets jealous when she spends a lot of time with Michael; and Michael constantly has to explain to everyone that he is not interested in Maureen in a romantic way. The challenge they are dealing with is:

A) the emotional bond challenge
B) the sexual challenge
C) the equity challenge
D) the public presentation challenge

Question 17

Which of the following was not discussed in the textbook as a way of defining relational maintenance?

A) keeping a relationship in existence
B) keeping a relationship in repair
C) keeping a relationship in a specified state or condition
D) keeping a relationship highly committed

Question 18

Which of the following behaviors is a prosocial maintenance behavior?

A) allowing control
B)avoidance
C) talking about others
D) task sharing

Question 19

Which of the following statements about friends with benefits relationships is FALSE according to the research reported in your text book?

A) Women tend to emphasize the "friends" part of the relationship, whereas men tend to emphasize the "benefits" part of the relationship
B) Most partners negotiate ground rules in their friends with benefits relationships.
C) The most common ground rule in friends with benefits relationships is to stay emotionally detached.
D) About half of partners in these relationships report feeling uncertainty about their friends with benefits relationship.

Question 20

Which of the following statements is NOT one of the principles of equity theory as presented in your textbook?

A) People in groups and dyads develop rules for distributing resources fairly.
B) When individuals are in inequitable relationships, they will experience distress.
C) Individuals in equitable relationships engage in more pro-social behavior than do individuals in inequitable relationships.
D) The most satisfying relationships occur when both partners in the relationship believe that they are over benefited.

Question 21

Based on the basic principles of equity theory, which of the following men would be dissatisfied with his relationship?

A) Terrell, whose partner lets him makes all the decisions and does all the cooking and cleaning for him.
B) Will, who ends up doing most of the household tasks and is given little say in major decisions that affect the family.
C) Rick, who perceives that he puts in more resources into the marriage than his wife, but also gets more resources from the marriage.
D) both Terrell and Will

Question 22

Which of the following is true of cohabiting couples?

A) Cohabitating couples are less likely to break up than married couples are to divorce.
B) Married couples who cohabitate are more likely to stay married than those who never cohabitated.
C) Satisfaction levels decrease over time in marriages regardless of whether couples cohabited or not.
D) Cohabitating couple experience less conflict than other couple types.

Question 23

Tim receives 30 benefits for every 15 contributions he makes to his relationship with Sarah. Sarah, on the other hand, receives 25 benefits for every 5 contributions she makes. According to equity theory:

A) Tim is over benefitted and Sarah is underbenefitted.
B) Tim is underbenefitted and Sarah is over benefitted.
C) Both Tim and Sarah are underbenefitted.
D) Both Tim and Sarah are over benefitted.

Question 24

Individuals in inequitable relationships experience more satisfaction.

Question 25

One study showed that college students text their romantic partners an average of 6 times a day and call them on their cell phones 15 to 20 times a day.

Question 26

Teens and young adults see their cell phones as critical for maintaining relationships and keeping in contact with members of their social network.

Question 27

List and describe four definitions of relationship maintenance. Argue for the definition you prefer.

Question 28

An over benefitted person is more likely than an underbenefitted person to:

A) be happy
B) feel guilty.
C) feel distressed.
D) a and b

Question 29

Openness and social networking are two prosocial maintenance behaviors.

Question 30

The amount of time people spend together is also negatively related to relational satisfaction.

Question 31

Cohabitating couples who plan to get married are no more likely to get married that cohabitating couples that do not plan to get married.

Question 32

Marital satisfaction increases after parenthood.

Question 33

Your textbook reports that rather than valuing equity, people in Asia and Eastern believe that:

A) resources should be distributed equally among people regardless of their contributions
B) resources should be distributed based on the contributions people make.
C) over- and under-benefitted individuals should have the same amount of decision-making power when it comes to distributing resources.
D) resources should be distributed based on social class rather than the number of contributions people make.

Question 34

According to research discussed in the text, which of the following strategies is an effective means of restoring equity?

A) An over benefited person starts to put less into the relationship.
B) An under benefited person starts to put more into the relationship.
C) A person re-evaluates her or his degree of underbenefitedness after considering all the contributions her or his partner makes to the relationship.
D) all of the above strategies are effective for restoring equity

Question 35

People in Asia and Eastern Europe prefer equality over equity.

Question 36

General equity (or inequity) represents an overall assessment of balance between two people's benefits and contributions.

Question 37

A relationship can be unbalanced in terms of specific equity, but balanced overall.

Question 38

Around half of spouses report that their marriages are equitable.

Question 39

An under benefitted person is more likely than an over benefitted person to:

A) be angry and aggressive.
B) feel guilty.
C) use prosocial maintenance behaviors.
D) a and b

Question 40

Married people tend to report being happier and more satisfied with their lives than do single people.

Question 41

What is equity theory and how can it be used to understand the following: a) fairness, b) relational satisfaction, c) financial resources, and d) consequences of being underbenefitted.

Question 42

What are prosocial maintenance10behaviors and discuss five of these.

Question 43

List and discuss five behaviors that you believe are most important in relationship maintenance. Argue for the importance of each behavior.

Question 44

Describe the research on cohabitation with regard to relational satisfaction and relational longevity. Be sure to compare cohabitators to married people.