Deck 10: Healthy Relationships and Communication

Question 1

Effective communication includes making sure that your words match your body language.

Answer 1

True

Question 2

If you are the rejected person in a failed relationship, you should go out and begin a new relationship immediately.

Answer 2

False

Question 3

Lovers are usually more accepting and less critical than friendships.

Answer 3

False

Question 4

Most love relationships change over time.

Question 5

Men tend to talk more and disclose less than women do.

Question 6

Our adult styles of loving may be based on the style of attachment we established in infancy with our mothers, fathers, or other parenting figure.

Question 7

The ability to interpret nonverbal messages correctly is important to the success of relationships.

Question 8

Out of necessity, commitment and passion do diminish over time.

Question 9

Some of the difficulties people encounter in relationships can be traced to common gender differences in communication.

Question 10

Gender role includes the activities, abilities, and characteristics our culture deems appropriate for us based on whether we're male or female.

Question 11

Jealousy is an indicator of love.

Question 12

Even though gender differences exist in communication, when a man and a woman are talking about the same subject, their goals are usually the same.

Question 13

Love encompasses opposites such as affection and anger, excitement and boredom, and bonds and freedom.

Question 14

Much of the communication between two people is nonverbal.

Question 15

Female conversation patterns could be characterized as generally competitive.

Question 16

Violence in dating relationships can be precipitated by jealousy.

Question 17

Conflict is an inevitable part of any intimate relationship.

Question 18

Intimacy and sex are the same.

Question 19

Friendships have all the same characteristics as intimate partnerships.

Question 20

Having the conviction that you are always right is harmless competitiveness.

Question 21

The element that is least characteristic of enduring love relationships is

A) pursuit of common goals.
B) closeness.
C) absorption in each other.
D) promise of a shared future.

Question 22

In those cultures where marriages are arranged by parents, it is likely that the marriage will be very stable, even though the partners may have barely known each other before the marriage ceremony.

Question 23

Our first relationships outside our family are

A) friendships.
B) intimate relationships.
C) love relationships.
D) dependent relationships.

Question 24

Our gender role is first defined for us by our

A) heredity.
B) culture.
C) teachers.
D) sexual orientation.

Question 25

Real friends

A) can be tense with each other.
B) do not share past difficult experiences.
C) should not be altruistic.
D) include passion in their relationship.

Question 26

_____________ is an idealization of a loved one.

A) Infatuation
B) Passion
C) Intimacy
D) Commitment

Question 27

A characteristic of friendship includes reciprocity, which means

A) give-and-take between friends.
B) mutual respect.
C) acceptance.
D) loyalty.

Question 28

Which of the following is NOT a characteristic of commitment?

A) responsibility
B) passion
C) reliability
D) faithfulness

Question 29

The roots of our identity and sense of self are in our

A) childhood.
B) peer group.
C) heredity.
D) community.

Question 30

Individuals who had an anxious/ambivalent relationship with a parent may find that, as adults, they

A) avoid relationships with others.
B) avoid becoming dependent on others.
C) worry about being abandoned by others.
D) maintain their independence in a relationship.

Question 31

The most long-lasting element of love is

A) euphoria.
B) preoccupation with the loved one.
C) commitment.
D) idealization of the loved one.

Question 32

Conflict can be a sign that the relationship is growing.

Question 33

Characteristics of friendships include all the following, EXCEPT

A) respect.
B) trust.
C) dependence.
D) loyalty.

Question 34

Initial attraction is most likely to be based on looks, dress, and social status.

Question 35

Anxious/avoidant relationships with parents may produce children who, when they reach adulthood,

A) find it easy to establish relationships.
B) are satisfied living a solitary lifestyle.
C) tend to be married to the same person for a lifetime.
D) are inclined to run from relationships.

Question 36

Friendships usually include all the following characteristics, EXCEPT

A) companionship.
B) acceptance.
C) reciprocity.
D) passion.

Question 37

Cohabitation is defined as living together in a sexual relationship without being married.

Question 38

______________ includes the activities, abilities, and characteristics that a culture has deemed appropriate for us based on whether we are male or female.

A) Gender identity
B) Stereotype
C) Self-concept
D) Gender role

Question 39

All the following are common relationship challenges, EXCEPT

A) commitment.
B) self-disclosure.
C) expectations.
D) overfamiliarity.

Question 40

Intimate partnerships differ from friendships, in that intimate partnerships

A) do not require exclusiveness.
B) are more accepting and less critical.
C) are more stable and enduring over time.
D) include the presence of sexual desire.

Question 41

To develop a healthy intimate relationship, it is important to self-disclose

A) at a slow but steady rate.
B) early in the relationship.
C) rarely; you do not want to frighten your potential partner.
D) early and often; vulnerability is part of the game.

Question 42

A successful relationship has proven to improve an individual's

A) physical strength.
B) self-esteem.
C) immune system.
D) earning power.

Question 43

Mindfulness can be cultivated by

A) speeding up our thought process.
B) thinking ahead.
C) concentrating on multiple tasks.
D) maximizing awareness of ourselves.

Question 44

The three keys of good communication in a relationship include all the following, EXCEPT

A) critical analysis.
B) self-disclosure.
C) listening skills.
D) feedback skills.

Question 45

It appears that our partner may NOT be interested in what we are saying if he or she responds by

A) looking in our eyes.
B) touching our hand.
C) looking around the room.
D) leaning toward us as we speak.

Question 46

Jealousy is

A) proof that love exists.
B) a harmless emotion.
C) a measure of insecurity.
D) unrelated to self-esteem.

Question 47

If your partner expresses unhappiness in your relationship, it is best to

A) validate your partner's feelings and respond with self-disclosure.
B) defend yourself and your actions.
C) leave the room before saying something you will regret later.
D) offer constructive criticism on how your partner can meet your needs.

Question 48

When you want to have a serious discussion with your partner,

A) sooner is usually better.
B) state your concern in a general way, not too detailed.
C) focus on the whole person, not just one behaviour.
D) avoid blaming.

Question 49

Which of the following goals is MOST likely to be associated with male conversation?

A) achieving understanding
B) establishing closeness
C) establishing dominance
D) receiving support

Question 50

Emotions that can accompany physiological arousal include all the following, EXCEPT

A) love.
B) fear.
C) frustration.
D) betrayal.

Question 51

Male communication patterns can often be described as

A) affiliative.
B) negotiating.
C) cooperative.
D) competitive.

Question 52

Female communication patterns can often be described as

A) affiliative.
B) competitive.
C) dominating.
D) one-upping.

Question 53

"Revealing personal information that we ordinarily wouldn't reveal because of the risk involved" describes

A) non-verbal communication.
B) self-disclosure.
C) feedback.
D) constructive listening.

Question 54

Which is a common expectation that can hurt a relationship?

A) expecting your partner to change
B) expecting that your partner loves you
C) expecting intimacy
D) expecting that you can trust your partner

Question 55

____________ is a constructive response to another's self-disclosure.

A) Criticism
B) Feedback
C) Nonverbal cue
D) Issue clarification

Question 56

Which of the following is NOT a component of good listening?

A) judging
B) respecting
C) empathizing
D) maintaining eye contact

Question 57

The transformation of love progresses in the following way:

A) high levels of passion, increasing intimacy, diminished romance, enduring love.
B) high levels of passion, increasing intimacy, diminished romance, break up of relationship.
C) sex, passion, break up of relationship, increasing intimacy.
D) high levels of passion, increasing intimacy, diminished romance, enduring love or break up of relationship.

Question 58

Emotional intelligence includes

A) responding impulsively to feelings.
B) responding reactively to feelings.
C) recognizing feelings as they occur.
D) blocking feelings as they occur.

Question 59

Examples of unhealthy relationships include all the following, EXCEPT

A) physical or emotional abuse.
B) a level of tension.
C) codependency.
D) communicative withdrawal.

Question 60

All the following are important guidelines for ending a relationship, EXCEPT

A) "Give the relationship a fair chance before breaking up."
B) "Be fair and honest."
C) "Be tactful."
D) "Move on as quickly as possible."

Question 61

In cultures where parent-arranged marriages are common, marriages are

A) stable.
B) likely to end in divorce.
C) generally, part of polygamous relationships.
D) dependent on the fertility of the partners.

Question 62

If you want to pursue an online relationship,

A) use sexually oriented websites that will get your message across.
B) hold out for a "perfect" partner; after all, you have thousands to choose from.
C) give out only your name and placement of employment/school; never give out your phone number.
D) find out the other person's situation and intention.

Question 63

Of the following, which is the MOST constructive conflict resolution strategy?

A) providing selective information to minimize conflict
B) identifying alternatives to get what each person wants
C) using avoidance
D) using intimacy to smooth over disagreements

Question 64

All the following are steps in effective conflict resolution, EXCEPT

A) clarifying the issue.
B) finding out what each person wants.
C) not compromising your position.
D) reviewing and negotiating.

Question 65

Sexual orientation is best described as

A) sexual attraction to individuals of the opposite sex.
B) one's choice of sexual partner.
C) a consistent pattern of emotional and sexual attraction based on biological sex.
D) one's preference regarding the type of sexual activity in which one wants to engage.

Question 66

Living together in a sexual relationship without being married describes

A) roommates.
B) marriage.
C) compatibility.
D) cohabitation.

Question 67

The most important question for potential mates is,

A) "How much money do you make?"
B) "How much do we have in common?"
C) "How flexible are you?"
D) "Will your parents like me?"

Question 68

Which of the following is usually the basis of first attraction to another person?

A) socioeconomic background
B) appearance
C) religious affiliation
D) educational level

Question 69

Which of the following is NOT a constructive strategy for conflict resolution?

A) finding out what the other person wants
B) clarifying the issue
C) reviewing and renegotiating
D) providing selective information

Question 70

If you and your partner find that you argue again and again over the same issue, you should

A) seek professional help.
B) end the relationship.
C) accept the differences between yourselves.
D) put the issue aside and deal with it at another time.

Question 71

One advantage cohabitation has over marriage is

A) health insurance benefits are better.
B) most societies are more accepting of cohabitation.
C) inheritance rights are better.
D) partners have a greater sense of autonomy.

Question 72

Getting together in groups, a more casual form of contemporary dating, is probably a product of

A) fear of sexual assault.
B) equality of the sexes.
C) fear of commitment.
D) the media.

Question 73

Approximately __________ of couples live common-law.

A) 21%
B) 37%
C) 51%
D) 61%

Question 74

Which of the following factors is not associated with the increasing popularity of cohabitation?

A) increased availability of contraceptives
B) younger average age at marriage
C) greater social acceptance of premarital sex
D) economics

Question 75

Cohabitation is

A) diminishing in popularity.
B) increasing in popularity.
C) remaining stable.
D) limited to the younger population.

Question 76

In traditional male-female dating relationships, the development of the relationship follows the order of

A) casual dating, exclusive dating, cohabitation, marriage.
B) casual dating, exclusive dating, engagement, marriage.
C) exclusive dating, cohabitation, marriage.
D) casual dating, cohabitation, engagement, marriage.

Question 77

All the following are drawbacks to online relationships, EXCEPT

A) people can misrepresent themselves.
B) people can communicate in a relaxed way.
C) investing time and emotional resources in an unrealistic romance may be painful.
D) the relationship may become dangerous.

Question 78

All the following are liabilities associated with cohabitation, EXCEPT

A) absence of the legal protection of marriage.
B) loss of inheritance rights.
C) loss of spousal health insurance benefits.
D) loss of protection against domestic violence.

Question 79

A characteristic of one's partner that becomes important in determining the quality and depth of a relationship after the euphoria of first attraction and initial romance winds down is

A) social status.
B) appearance.
C) general interests.
D) future aspirations.

Question 80

Intimate partners with different cultural backgrounds

A) encounter the same obstacles as individuals with the same cultural backgrounds.
B) experience more anxiety during the later stages of the relationship than partners with similar backgrounds.
C) may differ in communication styles, values, and views of the world.
D) will need to adopt each other's culture.