Deck 9: Communication: Enriching Intimate Relationships

Question 1

The author of your text says that communication is both multigenerational and cultural.What is the intended meaning of this statement?

A)Our parents communicated, as did our grandparents, etc.
B)It's hard to talk if you don't speak the same language.
C)When we communicate, we use the things we have learned in our families.
D)None of the above.

Answer 1

C

Question 2

What is the main difference between relational and non-relational messages?

A)Relational messages are exchanged between family members; non-relational messages can be shared with others.
B)Relational messages have to do with your relationship; non-relational messages are communications that are not about your relationship.
C)Relative messages have ambiguous, or "relative" meanings; non-relational messages have concrete meanings.
D)Both B and C are true.

Answer 2

B

Question 3

In the context of psychology, communication is the process of

A)making sure you are heard and understood
B)making and sharing meanings
C)making sure you understand and hear others
D)None of the above.

Answer 3

B

Question 4

What is a metamessage, based on Tannen's research?

A)The underlying context in which communication takes place.
B)The time at which communication takes place.
C)The formality of the setting in which communication takes place
D)None of the above.

Question 5

What is communication effectiveness?

A)The ability to express yourself with the intended accuracy.
B)The ability to get others to say what you want them to say to you.
C)A measure of how well you communicate in writing.
D)All of the above.

Question 6

Which of the following are forms of sexual slang used among couples?

A)Rewording sexual acts to make them sound "cuter."
B)Rewording sexual acts to make them sound more graphic.
C)Making up special private terms for their particular body parts.
D)All of the above

Question 7

According to your text, what does decoding have to do with relationship communication?

A)It concerns our ability to decode unspoken messages within a couple.
B)It is seen as predictive of marital adjustment and satisfaction for couples.
C)It is seen as predictive of the strength of the relationship.
D)All of the above

Question 8

What does scholar Deborah Tannen call the cross-sex style communication differences found in her research?

A)Sex-patois
B)Genderlects
C)Sex-derlects
D)Gender patois

Question 9

Sexual communication is ________________ of communication between couples.

A)a separate realm
B)an extension of the rest
C)an over examined form
D)a minor part

Question 10

According to the story that opens the chapter on communication, which of the following, if any, is an important rule of thumb to follow?

A)Better to keep your private thoughts to yourself than to over-disclose.
B)As long as you can have a lively conversation with your partner, all is well.
C)If you can't talk about sex with your partner, you shouldn't be having it.
D)A and C only.

Question 11

What would a psychologist call it when members of a couple talk about their sexual lives with one another?

A)Sexting
B)A bad idea; actions speak louder than words
C)Foreplay
D)Sexual communication

Question 12

What is one of the easiest ways to get yourself in trouble when decoding communication?

A)Thinking a partner's message is relational when it is not.
B)Personalizing non-relational messages by accident.
C)Getting caught reading your partner's email.
D)Both A and B are true

Question 13

What do men tend to do in response to trouble talk?

A)Keep quiet.
B)Make jokes.
C)Offer advice.
D)All of the above.

Question 14

What does Tannen call it when people talk about their emotional and relationship problems?

A)Argument preludes
B)Complaint hour
C)Gathering storm clouds
D)Trouble talk

Question 15

Which of the following is not something that scholars of nonverbal communications between couples are likely to monitor?

A)Self touch
B)Eye gaze
C)Body orientation
D)Grooming rituals

Question 16

The many sociocultural messages that we get on a daily basis that help us know how to do the things that go with our gender are called

A)competence scripts
B)home training
C)gender cues
D)adult rules

Question 17

Methods of nonverbal communication include which, if any, of the following?

A)Gestures made while speaking.
B)Eye contact patterns.
C)Patterns of interpersonal space.
D)All of the above.

Question 18

Effectiveness of communication is a good predictor of

A)degree of extroversion.
B)relationship success.
C)sexual performance.
D)traditional intelligence

Question 19

Which of the following is not considered a part of the psychosexual/psychosocial realm of human sexuality?

A)Experiences of love and loving
B)Bodily responses to sexual activities
C)Body image
D)Gender identity

Question 20

Which of the following, if any, is a difference in nonverbal communication found in recent research on non-heterosexual couples?

A)They displayed a great deal of open male body positioning.
B)Each partner took on male or female body posturing so that both heterosexual roles were fulfilled.
C)They used a great deal more full face-to-face orientation when talking.
D)None of the above.

Question 21

According to your text, which of the following types of poor listeners would be most likely to pay more attention to themselves in an attempt to impress the other speaker with their thoughts and ideas when it is their turn to speak?

A)The faker
B)The judge and jury listener
C)The self-conscious listener
D)The intellectual listener

Question 22

What do women tend to do in response to trouble talk?

A)Express sympathy.
B)Make jokes.
C)Offer advice.
D)All of the above.

Question 23

_____ attachment types are likely to report that they never find "real" love and intimacy in adulthood and display very little ability to trust.

A)Secure
B)Anxious
C)Avoidant
D)None of the above.

Question 24

The meaning of __________ changes from couple to couple and over time.

A)Intimacy
B)Personal space
C)The word "love"
D)None of the above

Question 25

According to your text, recent studies show that men were _______________ than women when discussing their problems with friends.

A)more communicative
B)less communicative
C)similar in levels of communication
D)less uncomfortable

Question 26

In order to self-disclose, you need a high degree of trust, which is referred to by some scholars as _______________.

A)global safety
B)emotional safety
C)situational safety
D)bodily safety

Question 27

_______________adults are least likely to seek out sexual intimacy outside of committed relationships.

A)Avoidant attached
B)Anxious/Ambivalent attached
C)Securely attached
D)None of the above

Question 28

Bowlby's attachment theory explains that our early close emotional and affectionate bonds help us develop a sense of security and the ability to

A)Trust others in close relationships.
B)Be a self-sufficient adult who does not need others to feel secure.
C)End intimate relationships quickly if things get unbalanced.
D)Enter marriages that are less likely to end in divorce.

Question 29

Using attachment theories developed on _______, attachment theorists were able to realize certain patterns were present in _______.

A)men, women
B)children, adults
C)homosexual couples, heterosexual couples
D)animals, humans

Question 30

Despite its importance in developing relationship satisfaction, there has been relatively little research done on _____________.

A)sexual communication
B)gender communication
C)childhood communication
D)attached communication

Question 31

The drive for intimacy is innate, and thought to fulfill important

A)physiological needs.
B)psychological needs.
C)social expectations.
D)None of the above.

Question 32

Which of the following, if any, can be an issue underlying fear of intimacy?

A)Most people have some fear of vulnerability.
B)Some people are not even aware they have fear of intimacy.
C)Some people are so confident they consider themselves to be above the need for intimacy.
D)Both A and B are true.

Question 33

According to your text, close personal relationships have ways of meeting certain essential needs that cannot be met in other interpersonal relationships.Which of the following is among those needs?

A)Intimacy
B)Nurturing and being nurtured
C)Reassurance of personal worth
D)All of the above

Question 34

How did the men in Tannen's research feel when women offered sympathy in response to their trouble talk?

A)They felt comforted by the women.
B)They felt the women were being dishonest.
C)They felt the women loved them.
D)They felt the women were being condescending.

Question 35

Why do women tend to go to public restrooms in groups, according to recent research on gender role scripts?

A)They are driven to show empathy and understanding as often as possible when in social interactions.
B)They fear that any women left behind might disclose secrets to others.
C)They are so attuned to peer pressure that sensors in the bladder are triggered when the lead woman in a social group announces the need to go.
D)None of the above.

Question 36

Research on psychological needs only began to explore the role of relationship needs in personal fulfillment in which decade?

A)1970s
B)1980s
C)1990s
D)2000s

Question 37

What did Tannen find that women wanted when they communicated with others?

A)To feel connected with others.
B)To be seen as witty.
C)To build relationships.
D)Both A and C are true.

Question 38

Why does Tannen believe that men choose to react to trouble talk with silence?

A)So they can listen more closely.
B)Because they are not paying attention.
C)So they can avoid emotional expression.
D)There was nothing in Tannen's research to explain this pattern.

Question 39

Given the discussion of current knowledge on gender and communication, which of the following, if any, would be constructive ways to improve misunderstandings between men and women.

A)Increasing knowledge of the gendered nature of personal expression.
B)Not taking comments made by romantic partners so personally; seeing that they are shaped by gender roles.
C)Do whatever possible to avoid getting frustrated and ending communication.
D)All of the above

Question 40

According to Bowlby, attachment is best defined as an emotional bond that connects a person to his or her______________.

A)parent
B)sibling
C)primary caregiver
D)Both A and C are true.

Question 41

Healthy intimate relationships have been found to contribute to each partner's overall well-being.

Question 42

Once they are married, men tend to disclose their feelings with other men more than women disclose with other women.

Question 43

Piaget was the originator of attachment theory.

Question 44

According to your text, is "talking dirty" an important component of a couple's health sexual communication?

A)Almost always.
B)Almost never.
C)Sometimes, depending on the preferences of the couple.
D)None of the above.

Question 45

Nonverbal communication is sometimes referred to emotional communication because of the information it gives us about each other?

Question 46

In what 1967 case did the Supreme Court rule that people could marry and have children without being the same race, nationality and religion?

A)Brown v.Board of Education
B)The Scopes Monkey Trial
C)Loving v.Virginia
D)Roe v.Wade

Question 47

It is not necessary for any couples to "talk dirty" to have a mutually satisfying intimate relationship.

Question 48

Which of the following, if any, are components of Cognitive Valence Theory (CVT)?

A)Responsiveness to the behaviors of your partner.
B)Using sexual scripts.
C)Knowing the best and worst of your partner and liking them anyway.
D)All of the above.

Question 49

Among couples, sexual communication should not be considered a separate area of communication from the rest of their regular communication.

Question 50

Men report high levels of satisfaction with the way their female partners tend to use cute sexual slang to refer to sexual acts instead of more straightforward, graphic language like men tend to use.

Question 51

Which of the following topics preferred by male brains is supported by recent research about the influence of testosterone?

A)People
B)Analyzing
C)Intellectual understanding
D)B and C only.

Question 52

Which of the following does your textbook say are components of sexual assertiveness?

A)Initiating sexual activity.
B)Refusing unwanted sexual activity.
C)Discuss the use of contraceptives.
D)All of the above.

Question 53

All communication is multigenerational and cultural in some way; it draws on the things we learn from our families

Question 54

What is miscegenation?

A)The result of people of different races producing children together.
B)The result of people of different ethnicities producing children together.
C)The result of people of different religions producing children together.
D)All of the above.

Question 55

According to research on the impact of social and cultural identity on self-disclosure, what differences are there between people in collectivist and individualist cultures, if any?

A)Collectivist cultures encourage more self-disclosure.
B)Individualist cultures encourage less self-disclosure.
C)Collectivist and individualist cultures encourage about the same amount of self-disclosure.
D)None of the above.

Question 56

Communication during early stages of intimate relationships tends to rely heavily on our sexual _______.

A)scripts
B)experiences
C)research
D)All of the above.

Question 57

The cultural practice of __________ is not very compatible with self disclosure in intimate relationships.

A)chain migration
B)other-mothering
C)machismo
D)transnational parenting

Question 58

Attachment patterns in early life have little to no influence on adult relationships and attachments

Question 59

According to your text, which of the following research findings about communication has been recently asserted?

A)Men and women really do seem to speak "different languages."
B)The idea of gender differences in language is largely overrated.
C)Men and women in couples with large age differences consistently have trouble communicating verbally.
D)None of the above

Question 60

Sexual scripts help us know what is acceptable and appropriate in our society in intimate interpersonal situations.

Question 61

What is included in the psychosocial/psychosexual domain of psychology and why is it important to the process of communication in intimate relationships?

Question 62

Do we have an inborn need to belong to a social group? Why or why not?

Question 63

What are the basic assumptions of Bowlby's attachment theory?

Question 64

After reading what your text says about Deborah Tannen's research on gender and communication, why do you think she named one of her most successful books, "You Just Don't Understand?" Please include your version of her possible rationale in detail.

Question 65

In terms of body language, homosexual couples what kind of strategies are used to present each person's role in the partnership? Are they comparable to male and female roles?

Question 66

Describe the four categories of nonverbal communication and discuss what current research says about their relationship to sexual orientation.

Question 67

What kind of decoding skills must we have to achieve positive relationship adjustment and satisfaction?

Question 68

What kind of outcomes does childhood Anxious/Ambivalent attachment make for in intimate adult relationships?

Question 69

It is possible to improve problematic intimate relationships as an adult? What would you have to relearn to do this successfully?

Question 70

What terminology describes your ability to correctly anticipate how your verbal expression will impact the person with whom you are communicating?

Question 71

Please discuss one of the positive outcomes of sexual self-disclosure.
Essay:

Question 72

Do you know anyone who has had difficulty communicating in a heterosexual relationship because of male and female different expressions of sexual slang? What were the main problems? Do they fit in with your text's assumptions of how gender and slang work?

Question 73

If you cannot talk to someone about having sex, what should you do if you desire to have sex with them, and have your long term best interests in mind?

Question 74

According to scholars of communication, what provides the basis for all satisfying intimate relationships?

Question 75

What are the five kind of poor listeners as described in your text? Choose three of the types and suggest possible ways to improve the relevant communication skills.