Deck 7: Love and Communication in Intimate Relationships

Question 1

Philia refers to:

A) a passionate sexual relationship.
B) a concern for the other's well-being.
C) unrequited love.
D) the love between parent and child.

Answer 1

B

Question 2

Which of the following is TRUE?

A) Passionate love is less intense than companionate love.
B) Companionate love generally fades over time.
C) Companionate love tends to be emotionally less intense than passionate love.
D) Women are less likely to experience companionate love than men.

Answer 2

C

Question 3

Extreme absorption and strong physiological arousal in response to another is characteristics of :

A) companionate love.
B) passionate love.
C) agape.
D) practical love.

Answer 3

B

Question 4

Bruce and Robin have been married for several years. They are strongly physically attracted to each other and have frequent and very exciting sex. They are very emotionally close, and either will drop anything to help out the other. This could be called ____ love.

A) romantic
B) companionate
C) fatuous
D) consummate

Question 5

Shui Guo Jie wakes up in Las Vegas with a ring on her finger, and realizes that she has just married Travis, a man she has known for a couple of weeks. Shui Guo Jie and Travis are very physically attracted to each other, but she realizes she knows very little about him. Sternberg would call this:

A) fatuous love.
B) consummate love.
C) infatuation.
D) companionate love.

Question 6

Romantic love or infatuation is also known as:

A) philia.
B) paraphilia.
C) passionate love.
D) companionate love.

Question 7

Which of the following is LEAST characteristic of passionate love?

A) Generalized physiological arousal
B) Usually occurs early in a relationship
C) Involves friendly affection and a deep attachment based on familiarity
D) Usually does not last long

Question 8

Barry and John work in the same building and occasionally collaborate on projects. Their conversations at work are always job-related, and they do not spend time together outside of work. Sternberg would call this:

A) empty love.
B) nonlove.
C) fatuous love.
D) liking love.

Question 9

The three components of Sternberg's triangular theory of love are:

A) proximity, reciprocity, and similarity.
B) passion, commitment, and intimacy.
C) eros, agape, and pragma.
D) personality, attractiveness, and compatibility

Question 10

According to Sternberg, intimacy:

A) is present only in sexual relationships.
B) tends to fade with time in a relationship.
C) involves emotional closeness and sharing private thoughts and feelings.
D) is the behavioral component of his triangular theory.

Question 11

Passionate love:

A) is the longest lasting form of love.
B) often makes one more aware of the loved one's faults.
C) typically occurs early in a relationship.
D) usually increases as one gets to know the loved one better.

Question 12

Zarifa and Tuan met during new student orientation at their university and felt an immediate and powerful physical attraction for each other. They wanted to be together all the time, and whenever they were apart, they both annoyed their friends with their constant talking about each other. Zarifa described Tuan as her dream man, and Tuan could never say enough positive things about Zarifa. Now that they have been dating for over a year they are spending somewhat more time with their friends instead of each other, and they are starting to notice each other's flaws. Zarifa is worried that the relationship is ending. What would the authors of your book tell her?

A) Most relationships do end when passion fades.
B) It is normal for passion to fade somewhat with time.
C) They should spend more time together to see if that will rekindle their passion.
D) Most likely the relationship is over, because people who are truly in love will not notice each other's faults.

Question 13

Love that involves a thoughtful appreciation of one's partner and encompassing tolerance for another's shortcomings is referred to as:

A) infatuation.
B) passionate.
C) companionate.
D) intimacy.

Question 14

Love can be defined as all of the following EXCEPT it:

A) is a special kind of attitude.
B) has strong emotional and behavioral components.
C) is a phenomenon that eludes easy definition or explanation.
D) means the same thing to everyone.

Question 15

Eric and Debra talk a lot about their lives, including their likes and dislikes, frustrations and victories, and romantic relationships. Although they are close emotionally, they are not attracted to each other physically. This could be called:

A) empty love.
B) liking.
C) nonlove.
D) fatuous love.

Question 16

Research on Rubin's love scale revealed that "strong lovers":

A) made more eye contact with each other than weak lovers.
B) held hands more than weak lovers.
C) made more suggestive remarks to each other than weak lovers.
D) laughed together more than weak lovers.

Question 17

The physical chemistry that existed when Linh and Bryan met was overwhelming for both of them. They enjoy the sexual energy in their relationship and are becoming more intimate. Neither one is discussing long-term plans or commitments, as they both wish to pursue their education and careers. Sternberg would characterize their love experience as:

A) infatuation.
B) fatuous love.
C) empty love.
D) romantic love.

Question 18

Generalized physiological arousal and strong sexual desire are components of:

A) compassionate love.
B) companionate love.
C) paraphilic love.
D) passionate love.

Question 19

Diego's wife of many years, Aliyah, is so disabled by Alzheimer's disease she can no longer live independently and only occasionally recognizes him. Diego and Aliyah have not had sex in many years, and Aliyah is generally unable to carry on much of a conversation. Even though their relationship is very limited, Diego continues to visit Aliyah daily and makes sure her needs are met. What type of love is this?

A) Fatuous love
B) Consummate love
C) Empty love
D) Nonlove

Question 20

Hugh and Sidney have been married for 23 years. They have the same friends, the same interests, and lots of memories. Others can tell from the way they interact that they have a deep affection for each other combined with a tolerance of each others' shortcomings. Hugh and Sidney agree sex is less exciting now compared to when they were first together, but they still enjoy it. What type of love is this?

A) Fatuous love
B) Companionate love
C) Passionate love
D) Pragmatic love

Question 21

A chemical that causes an amphetamine-like rush of euphoria is:

A) serotonin.
B) zolpidem.
C) phenylethylamine.
D) gabapentin.

Question 22

Sean had difficulty getting to know women face-to-face because he felt awkward and embarrassed. In order to find a meaningful relationship what would be the best step for him to take?

A) Go to the local bar and get drunk.
B) Enroll in a speed dating program.
C) Try meeting someone online.
D) Ask a coworker out on a date.

Question 23

According to John Allan Lee, an altruistic love style is characterized by:

A) having a good time, but with no commitment.
B) taking a rational, practical approach to compatibility.
C) selfless, giving love with no expectation of reciprocity.
D) placing emphasis on physical attractiveness to the exclusion of other qualities.

Question 24

The continued progression from infatuation to the deep attachment characteristic of long-term loving relationships results, at least in part, from the brain gradually stepping up the production of:

A) endorphins.
B) norepinephrine.
C) PEA.
D) dopamine.

Question 25

The neurotransmitters that are partially responsible for the "high" that is associated with passionate love are chemically similar to:

A) morphine.
B) amphetamines.
C) antidepressants.
D) psychedelic drugs.

Question 26

Nevaeh is just over a year old. When Nevaeh's mother takes her to daycare, Nevaeh starts exploring the toys in the room and interacting with daycare staff members. When her mother leaves, Nevaeh cries a little bit at first, but then she goes back to her play. Nevaeh displays a ________ style of attachment.

A) secure
B) insecure
C) ambivalent
D) avoidant

Question 27

Some researchers liken the pain, anxiety, and despair that follow the break-up of a relationship to:

A) numbness caused by physical shock.
B) postpartum depression.
C) alcohol withdrawal due to the chemical similarity between dopamine and alcohol.
D) withdrawal from amphetamines.

Question 28

Carlos is a single, 24-year-old man who works as a third grade teacher. Which woman is Carlos likely to find the most attractive?

A) Lindsay, because her emotional volatility makes her really exciting to Carlos.
B) Maria, the nurse at the school where Carlos works.
C) Blair, because the fact that she can't stand Carlos makes her more of a challenge.
D) Lisbeth, because her very different views and life goals make her fascinating.

Question 29

According to functional magnetic resonance imaging (fMRI) scans, when people view a photo of their romantic partner:

A) PEA levels in the hindbrain drop significantly.
B) brain areas rich in dopamine "light up."
C) activity in the amygdala decreases while hippocampal activity increases.
D) the hypothalamus steps up production of GABA.

Question 30

In today's technological world, __________ has become less important in the forming of a relationship.

A) geographical proximity
B) communication
C) attraction
D) romantic connectedness

Question 31

Austin has had sex with almost 100 women, and he is very focused on reaching that 100-partner mark. Austin has a strategy in which he tries to make each woman feel that he is desperately in love with her, but he rarely keeps in touch with any of them for more than a month. Most of Austin's sexual encounters have been one-night stands. According to Lee, Austin's style of loving is:

A) romantic.
B) pragmatic.
C) altruistic.
D) game-playing.

Question 32

John Allan Lee believes that, in order to maximize satisfaction and success in a relationship, you should find a partner who:

A) would score similarly on Rubin's love scale.
B) is high on ludus .
C) has interests and values that would contradict yours.
D) would share your same approach to loving.

Question 33

According to Sternberg's triangular theory of love, passion often declines in a relationship, whereas ____ builds gradually over time.

A) intimacy
B) passion
C) frustration
D) nonlove love

Question 34

When we are repeatedly exposed to a person who lives or works near us, we tend to find that person more appealing. This is called:

A) the equidistant effect.
B) reciprocity.
C) the mere exposure effect.
D) the proximal relationship effect.

Question 35

Homophily refers to:

A) the tendency to form relationships with people of similar or equal status in various social and personal attributes.
B) an altruistic orientation to members of the human race.
C) a preference for relationships with members of one's own gender.
D) a preference for romantic partners from different ethic, social, educational, religious, and/or occupational groups.

Question 36

According to one study of dating couples, which of the following love components were predictive of relationship stability and longevity?

A) Intimacy only
B) Intimacy and commitment
C) Passion and commitment
D) Commitment only

Question 37

According to Buss's cross-cultural study on sex differences in partner preferences, men placed more value on youth and attractivenes, and women placed more value on ____.

A) youth and attractiveness
B) financial responsibility and dependability
C) sociability
D) career ambition

Question 38

Ever since Thach met his new girlfriend at school, he feels that his life is like a roller coaster. He can't stop thinking about Anh and feels intensely jealous whenever he sees her talking to any other men. According to Lee, Thach's style of loving is:

A) romantic love.
B) altruistic love.
C) possessive love.
D) game-playing love.

Question 39

Factors that can help explain why someone may fall in love with a particular person include all of the following EXCEPT:

A) proximity.
B) similarity.
C) reciprocity.
D) large distances.

Question 40

Amie decided she needed to be in a loving and committed relationship. She wanted to date a man who had a good job with stability, enjoyed the same activities she did, and had similar religious beliefs. Which of the following styles of loving would describe Amie?

A) Possessive love style
B) Altruistic love style
C) Pragmatic love style
D) Romantic love style

Question 41

A lasting love relationship:

A) is facilitated by avoiding conflict.
B) requires frequent positive interaction.
C) is probably easier today than in the past.
D) won't happen if you are aware of your partner's flaws.

Question 42

Alex and Faith, who attend the same college, sometimes have sex with each other. When people ask if they are a couple Alex and Faith insist that they are just friends. Alex and Faith :

A) are more likely than people in romantic relationships to practice safer sex techniques.
B) by definition have no interest in eventually transitioning to a more stable romantic relationship.
C) likely will have fewer sexual partners in their lives than people who do not engage in this sexual interaction pattern.
D) are engaging in a highly unusual behavior for college students.

Question 43

Which of the following statements is TRUE?

A) Paired couples are often similar in their styles of attachment.
B) Slightly less than half of U.S. adults are securely attached.
C) About 60% of U.S. adults are insecurely attached.
D) Paired couples are often dissimilar in their styles of attachment.

Question 44

Short-term, loveless sexual liaisons that occur during a brief interval are known as:

A) homophily.
B) hook-ups.
C) "friends with benefits" relationships.
D) infatuations.

Question 45

Research reveals that violence precipitated by jealousy is MOST commonly directed toward:

A) one's self.
B) one's partner or lover.
C) the third-party rival.
D) anyone or anything within range.

Question 46

What does research suggest regarding differences between men and women in how they view the relationship between love and sex?

A) Women report feeling more comfortable than men pursuing sexual intercourse for pleasure and physical release without an emotional commitment.
B) Casual sex is associated with an increase in psychological distress and a lowered sense of well-being for women but not for men.
C) Men are more likely than women to define being in love, and to assess the quality of the romantic involvement, in terms of sexual satisfaction.
D) Older women are much less likely than either younger women or men to list desire for physical pleasure as an important motivation for sex.

Question 47

For which of the following relationships would an individual involved be MOST likely to separate sex and love?

A) A lesbian pair
B) A gay male pair
C) A cohabiting heterosexual couple
D) A married heterosexual couple

Question 48

Which of the following is TRUE regarding differences in the ways men and women experience and react to jealousy?

A) Men are more likely than women to acknowledge feeling jealous.
B) A man's jealousy is more likely to focus on his partner's emotional involvement with another person, whereas a woman's jealousy is more likely to focus on her partner's sexual involvement with another.
C) Women are more likely than men to admit attempting to deliberately provoking jealousy in their partners.
D) Men tend to blame themselves when a conflict over jealousy arises, whereas women typically attribute their jealousy to a third party or to their partner's behavior.

Question 49

Avoidant adults generally want:

A) others close to them.
B) to be close to others but believe that others may not want to be close to them.
C) less closeness than their partners seem to desire.
D) to merge completely and be engulfed by partner.

Question 50

Which one of the following was NOT found to be characteristic of long-term successful marriages?

A) They place value on being friends.
B) The couple had at least one child.
C) There was an open communication and willingness to discuss difficult issues.
D) They had similar attitudes and personality styles.

Question 51

If your partner says, "You don't love me anymore," it is LIKELY that you:

A) are being dysfunctional in the relationship.
B) don't love your partner anymore.
C) are not doing the little things that you used to do to show that you care for your partner.
D) should think about relationship counseling.

Question 52

Mothers of securely attached infants are more likely than mothers of babies with other attachment styles to:

A) feed their babies when the babies are hungry rather than on a set schedule.
B) vary their level of responsiveness to their babies to prevent over-attachment.
C) minimize physical contact with their babies.
D) feed their babies on a set schedule, and not respond when babies cry for food outside of this schedule.

Question 53

Micah wants to be close to others but believes that others don't want to be close to him. Micah displays:

A) avoidant attachment.
B) anxious-ambivalent attachment.
C) avoidant-ambivalent attachment.
D) anxious attachment.

Question 54

According to Robert Barker, which of the following would NOT motivate a person to work on his or her jealousy?

A) If the person is assured that the problem comes from the relationship rather than defects in his or her character
B) If the person is able to empathize with the person who has been hurt by the jealous behavior
C) If the person is sure that the relationship is threatened
D) If the person is not provoked into feeling shame or guilt

Question 55

Sexual interaction between friends who do not define their relationship as romantic is termed:

A) fatuous love.
B) mania.
C) hook-ups.
D) "friends with benefits" relationships.

Question 56

With regard to attachment styles of people in relationships, research has indicated the most common pairing is:

A) one securely attached person with someone who has an anxious-ambivalent attachment style.
B) one securely attached person with someone who has an avoidant attachment style.
C) people who both have secure attachment styles.
D) people who both have avoidant attachment styles.

Question 57

Which of the following is LEAST likely to be one of the traits possessed by people prone to jealousy?

A) Having high self-esteem
B) Seeing a large discrepancy between who they are and who they would like to be
C) Placing a high value on wealth, fame, and popularity
D) Placing a high value on physical attractiveness

Question 58

Elements of a high-quality relationship include all of the following EXCEPT:

A) supportive communication.
B) companionship.
C) sexual expression.
D) more than one child.

Question 59

Susan and Gina, both women, have just begun dating each other. Susan and Gina:

A) are more likely than a male couple to be comfortable having sex without commitment.
B) likely will base their evaluation of their relationship on the quality of their sexual interactions.
C) likely will postpone physical intimacy until they have established emotional intimacy.
D) likely were not initially attracted to each other based on physical qualities.

Question 60

Norman is 15 months old. When Norman's mother takes him to the home of one of her friends, Norman is very reluctant to leave her side, despite the fact that the friend's home is filled with interesting baby toys. When Norman's mother leaves the house briefly to run an errand Norman is inconsolable, and when she returns he seems more angry at her than glad to see her. Norman displays a ________ style of attachment.

A) secure
B) insecure
C) normal
D) avoidant

Question 61

When you reassure your partner and encourage him or her to talk about specific needs or feelings, you are using the communication skill called:

A) unconditional positive regard.
B) giving permission.
C) mutual empathy.
D) active listening.

Question 62

When we value our partners regardless of what they say or do, we are:

A) expressing mutual empathy.
B) using paraphrasing.
C) expressing unconditional positive regard.
D) practicing self-disclosure.

Question 63

People who respond to conversation by staring into space, perhaps murmuring an "uh-huh" now and then, are called passive listeners; people who respond by making brief comments, asking questions, and changing their facial expressions are called ____.

A) validators
B) paraphrasers
C) passive listeners
D) active listeners

Question 64

Which of the following was NOT discussed in your text regarding sexual variety?

A) Sexual variety is essential for a quality long-term relationship.
B) Communication is an important aspect of sexual variety.
C) Planning for sexual time can help maintain closeness.
D) Reading books together on sexual techniques may enhance sexual relationships.

Question 65

Which of the following is an example of an open-ended question?

A) Do you like it when I touch you this way?
B) Was it good for you?
C) Do you want to talk now or later?
D) How do you feel about oral sex?

Question 66

In an effort to get her partner to begin talking more openly about sex, Sharon asks questions about how she learned about sex at home and at school, how nudity and physical affection were dealt with at home, etc. She also shares information concerning herself. She is using the "getting started talking" strategy of:

A) talking about talking.
B) unconditional positive regard.
C) sharing sexual histories.
D) mutual empathy.

Question 67

Which of the following attitudes is associated with taking responsibility for your own pleasure?

A) "We've been together for two years, and he usually knows what I want by now."
B) "I'll make sure that you are always sexually satisfied."
C) "If you really loved me, you would be able to satisfy me sexually."
D) "I know that I'm unable to orgasm consistently, but it's not your fault."

Question 68

The knowledge that each partner in a relationship cares for the other and knows the care is reciprocated is called:

A) reciprocal rapport.
B) mutual empathy.
C) inclusion.
D) unconditional positive regard.

Question 69

In reference to the discussion on how to ask for what you want, which of the following requests would MOST likely be understood?

A) "I would like you to be more affectionate."
B) "I would like our intimate time to be sensual as well as sexual."
C) "I would like you to hold my hand or put your arm around me when we are out together."
D) "I would like you to touch me more when we make love."

Question 70

Which of the following is LEAST likely to be a suggestion for maintaining sexual variety?

A) Sharing fantasies
B) Avoiding the routine of time and place
C) Making your partner just a little jealous
D) Not letting questions of what is "normal" get in the way of an enriched and varied erotic life

Question 71

Sexual consent should be all of the following EXCEPT:

A) freely given, without pressure or manipulation.
B) something you can take back at any time.
C) informed, in that prospective partners should be told about any STIs a person has, whether birth control is being used, and whether the person is being sexually active with others.
D) about just letting it happen.

Question 72

Research suggests people who are consistent recipients of affectionate communication are all of the following EXCEPT:

A) less likely to be involved in interpersonal violence.
B) at less risk for psychological stress, depression, and loneliness.
C) more likely to exhibit enhanced ability to heal from the effects of illness or injuries.
D) at higher risk for alcohol abuse.

Question 73

Andrew decided he wanted to talk to his partner to find out what she thinks is pleasurable during sex. Which of the following questions would NOT be helpful to ask?

A) What things in our sexual relationship would you most like us to change?
B) What are your feelings about oral sex?
C) Is this the way you want to be touched or should we experiment with a different kind of touch?
D) Why don't you get turned on by me anymore?

Question 74

Which of the following is an example of supporting a partner's communication efforts?

A) "You know what I think you should do about that?"
B) "You know I love you no matter what."
C) "Thanks for caring enough to tell me what was on your mind."
D) "Okay . . . now it's my turn."

Question 75

According to the authors, couples should be having sex ____ in order to maintain intimacy.

A) at least twice a week
B) at least one every two weeks
C) at least once a month
D) as often as they like

Question 76

Nathan tells his partner that he is afraid to discuss their sexual relationship out of fear of embarrassing or hurting his partner. Nathan is using the communication strategy of:

A) talking about talking.
B) mutual empathy.
C) sharing sexual histories.
D) paraphrasing.

Question 77

"Would you prefer to be on top tonight?" is an example of a(n) ____ question.

A) yes-no
B) either-or
C) open-ended
D) passive

Question 78

When asking for what you want from a partner, it is BEST if you:

A) are very specific about what you would like.
B) ask in the form of a yes-no question in order to get a definitive response.
C) practice "you" language while making your request.
D) be somewhat general in your request to avoid putting your partner on the defensive.

Question 79

Marwan would like his partner, Julia, to help him with a self-treatment for premature ejaculation. Because Marwan is uncomfortable talking about this with Julia, he asks her to read the pamphlet about the treatment before they discuss and attempt it. Marwan is using the communication strategy of :

A) talking about talking.
B) mutual empathy.
C) sharing sexual histories.
D) reading and discussing.

Question 80

Which of the following is NOT a listening and feedback skill?

A) Advising
B) Expressing unconditional positive regard
C) Maintaining eye contact
D) Paraphrasing