Deck 3: Self-Awareness and Self-Disclosure

Question 1

Define
-Blind pane

Answer 1

The pane in the Johari Window that contains everything other people can see about you, but you can't see yourself.

Question 2

Define
-Cliché conversation

Answer 2

The level of communication with the least amount of self-disclosure, including niceties such as "Have a nice day."

Question 3

Define
-Gut-level communication

Answer 3

Level of communication in which feelings are expressed honestly.

Question 4

Define
-Hidden pane

Question 5

Define
-Ideas and judgments

Question 6

Define
-Johari Window

Question 7

Define
-Nonconversation

Question 8

Define
-Open pane

Question 9

Define
-Peak communication

Question 10

Define
-Repress

Question 11

Define
-Self-awareness

Question 12

Define
-Self-disclosure

Question 13

Define
-Unknown pane

Question 14

What does the term "self-awareness" mean to you after reading this chapter? Use an illustration from your own experience to clarify your definition.

Question 15

Why do people often withhold from others their true selves-or parts of who they really are?

Question 16

How can a lack of appropriate self-disclosure be a barrier to effective relations with others? Specifically, how can a failure to disclose affect your position in the workplace?

Question 17

Briefly explain each of the four panes of the Johari Window. How can this model help you understand yourself better by understanding your relationships with others?

Question 18

Think of an incident in your life when someone over-disclosed to you or someone else. How did the incident affect the relationship? What steps can you take to avoid over-disclosing?

Question 19

How might self-disclosure help you in your relationship with your manager? With co-workers? Can you think of examples that illustrate either negative or positive effects of self-disclosure in the workplace?

Question 20

Of John Powell's five levels of communication, what is the best one for everyday use? Explain why.

Question 21

Discuss Dale Carnegie's three rules for reducing fear. Would any of them work for you when self-disclosure is the issue? Why or why not?

Question 22

Have you ever experienced differences in people's level of self-disclosure based on where they live (in another country or a region of your country, for example)? What did you observe, if anything?

Question 23

Most anything you post on the Internet exists forever, even after you delete it. What kinds of information have you disclosed about yourself online? Are there items that you regret posting, or information you regret revealing? If a local newspaper wrote a headline about you based on your Internet postings, especially those to social networking sites, what would the headline say? How would this differ from what you would want it to say? What levels of communication in self-disclosure do you typically find online?

Question 24

Are you as self-aware as you would like to be? If not, what steps can you take to allow yourself to reach a higher level of self-awareness?

Question 25

Working it Out 3.4: Increase your Self-Awareness
Watch Tasha Eurich's TED Talk "Increase your Self-awareness with One Simple Fix" and answer the questions. See the video at: https://www.ted.com/talks/tasha_eurich_increase_your_self_awareness_with_one_simple_fix?
-What are the benefits of self-awareness?

Question 26

Working it Out 3.4: Increase your Self-Awareness
Watch Tasha Eurich's TED Talk "Increase your Self-awareness with One Simple Fix" and answer the questions. See the video at: https://www.ted.com/talks/tasha_eurich_increase_your_self_awareness_with_one_simple_fix?
-What is the one simple fix described by the speaker?

Question 27

Working it Out 3.4: Increase your Self-Awareness
Watch Tasha Eurich's TED Talk "Increase your Self-awareness with One Simple Fix" and answer the questions. See the video at: https://www.ted.com/talks/tasha_eurich_increase_your_self_awareness_with_one_simple_fix?
-What is the difference between introspection and self-awareness, according to the speaker? Why does she suggest that we are "doing it wrong" with introspection?

Question 28

Working it Out 3.4: Increase your Self-Awareness
Watch Tasha Eurich's TED Talk "Increase your Self-awareness with One Simple Fix" and answer the questions. See the video at: https://www.ted.com/talks/tasha_eurich_increase_your_self_awareness_with_one_simple_fix?
-What are self-awareness unicorns? Should you be one?

Question 29

Working it Out 3.4: Increase your Self-Awareness
Watch Tasha Eurich's TED Talk "Increase your Self-awareness with One Simple Fix" and answer the questions. See the video at: https://www.ted.com/talks/tasha_eurich_increase_your_self_awareness_with_one_simple_fix?
-What is the difference between the "why" and the "what" questions we ask ourselves, according to the author? Give an example. Which type of questions is more helpful? Explain.

Question 30

Case Study 3.1: Silent Sydney
Sydney Schoenberg, who by nature never felt comfortable confiding her inner thoughts to other people, was hired as a scheduling supervisor at Dune Travel Adventures. The CEO appreciated Sydney for her professionalism and praised her for not wasting time socializing and discussing her personal life with her co-workers. On the other hand, Sydney's co-workers referred to her as stuck up and always thought Sydney was avoiding them. When Sydney was asked by few of her co-workers as to why she was avoiding them, she wondered if she should share more with her colleagues at work, or continue to keep to herself as she had always been more comfortable doing.
-How did self-disclosure affect the situation that Sydney and her co-workers experienced?

Question 31

Case Study 3.1: Silent Sydney
Sydney Schoenberg, who by nature never felt comfortable confiding her inner thoughts to other people, was hired as a scheduling supervisor at Dune Travel Adventures. The CEO appreciated Sydney for her professionalism and praised her for not wasting time socializing and discussing her personal life with her co-workers. On the other hand, Sydney's co-workers referred to her as stuck up and always thought Sydney was avoiding them. When Sydney was asked by few of her co-workers as to why she was avoiding them, she wondered if she should share more with her colleagues at work, or continue to keep to herself as she had always been more comfortable doing.
-Were Sydney or her co-workers doing anything wrong in the situation described? Explain.

Question 32

Case Study 3.1: Silent Sydney
Sydney Schoenberg, who by nature never felt comfortable confiding her inner thoughts to other people, was hired as a scheduling supervisor at Dune Travel Adventures. The CEO appreciated Sydney for her professionalism and praised her for not wasting time socializing and discussing her personal life with her co-workers. On the other hand, Sydney's co-workers referred to her as stuck up and always thought Sydney was avoiding them. When Sydney was asked by few of her co-workers as to why she was avoiding them, she wondered if she should share more with her colleagues at work, or continue to keep to herself as she had always been more comfortable doing.
-How could the discomfort in this situation between Sydney and others at her company have been avoided?

Question 33

Case Study 3.2: Fred Lincoln
Fred Lincoln, a popular administrator at a local college, was well-liked and well-known around campus because he was an avid technology buff and also for the amusing fact that he was always on his cellphone. He would talk loudly in public places, talk while ordering food, and talk while with friends in social situations. However, Fred's colleagues and students never complained about this problematic nature of his, since he was otherwise very nice and caring about them.
-How self-aware is Fred? On what do you base your assessment?

Question 34

Case Study 3.2: Fred Lincoln
Fred Lincoln, a popular administrator at a local college, was well-liked and well-known around campus because he was an avid technology buff and also for the amusing fact that he was always on his cellphone. He would talk loudly in public places, talk while ordering food, and talk while with friends in social situations. However, Fred's colleagues and students never complained about this problematic nature of his, since he was otherwise very nice and caring about them.
-How might Fred's cellphone habit affect his work at the college?

Question 35

Case Study 3.2: Fred Lincoln
Fred Lincoln, a popular administrator at a local college, was well-liked and well-known around campus because he was an avid technology buff and also for the amusing fact that he was always on his cellphone. He would talk loudly in public places, talk while ordering food, and talk while with friends in social situations. However, Fred's colleagues and students never complained about this problematic nature of his, since he was otherwise very nice and caring about them.
-How would you approach Fred about his problematic cellphone usage?