Deck 3: Communication: Enriching Your Sexuality

Question 1

According to Maltz and Borker, what is true of men and women's communication styles?

A) Early play experiences are related to later communication styles.
B) Men and women learn differing communication styles as they progress through different stages of romantic relationships.
C) Men from divorced families tend to have more gender neutral styles of communication.
D) Lesbian women have communication styles very similar to men.

Answer 1

A

Question 2

Which of the following would men be more likely than women to do in conversations?

A) Use disclaimers
B) Use tag questions
C) Use hedge words
D) None of these

Answer 2

D

Question 3

Critics of Tannen's work regarding gender and communication question her assumption that:

A) Gender is biologically based.
B) Gender is socially constructed.
C) There are no gender differences.
D) Sexual orientation is biologically based.

Answer 3

A

Question 4

According to communication researcher, Deborah Tannen, women tend to use more ________talk while men use more _______ talk.

A) Rapport, Report
B) Intimate, Erotic
C) Knowledge, Networking
D) Status, Relational

Question 5

What is an example of using a hedge in conversation?

A) It's really cold in here, isn't it?
B) I think it is kind of cold in here, would you mind turning down there air?
C) I may be wrong but it feels way colder today than yesterday.
D) It feels much colder today. Am I wrong?

Question 6

When we want to project an image with our message, which of the three goals of communication are we focusing on?

A) Relational
B) Identify management
C) Getting the job done
D) Communication filtering

Question 7

What does the term "genderlects" refer to?

A) Using language that reflects negative views and stereotypes related to gender
B) The term given to the communication styles of lesbian and gay individuals
C) Couples who illustrate gender neutral patterns of communication
D) The fundamental differences in the way men and women communicate

Question 8

According to your text, which best describes a benefit that good communication can add to a relationship?

A) Help avoid disagreements
B) Increase emotional intimacy
C) Allow us to "read" the other person's mind
D) Give us a template for future fights

Question 9

What factor(s) contribute to communication problems for couples?

A) Health problems
B) Inability to self-disclose
C) Economic stressors
D) All of these

Question 10

According to communication experts, what type of speech pattern decreases the speaker's perceived assertiveness in speech?

A) Overgeneralizations
B) Name-calling
C) Disclaimers
D) Overkill

Question 11

When we have a message for someone and want to communicate that message, which of the three goals of communication are we focusing on?

A) Relational
B) Identity management
C) Getting the job done
D) Communication filtering

Question 12

According to the Onion Theory of communication, what best describes how we reveal ourselves to others?

A) We begin with our unpleasant qualities first to be upfront with the other person.
B) We share about ourselves from the inside out.
C) We share about ourselves beginning with the least personal.
D) We begin with our best qualities to paint the best picture possible.

Question 13

When we want to maintain the relationship and not offend someone with our message, which of the three goals of communication are we focusing on?

A) Relational
B) Identity management
C) Getting the job done
D) Communication filtering

Question 14

Latoya says, "I might be wrong, but I think it is going to rain today." What is this an example of?

A) A tag question
B) A disclaimer
C) A hedge statement
D) A question statement

Question 15

What type of communication skills are women more likely to use?

A) Affectively-oriented
B) Status-oriented
C) Instrumentally-oriented
D) Network-oriented

Question 16

What category/style of communication skills do people tend to prefer when they want to discuss strategies or learn more about a topic?

A) Affectively-oriented
B) Status-oriented
C) Instrumentally-oriented
D) Network-oriented

Question 17

What best describes the three goals of communication discussed in your chapter?

A) After someone meets the first goal, their messages can progress to the next goal level.
B) Messages related to the first goal of communication are not as personal in nature.
C) The three goals are not related to each other.
D) The three goals compete with each other.

Question 18

What category/style of communication skills are referred to as more comforting and involve a significant amount of listening?

A) Affectively-oriented
B) Status-oriented
C) Instrumentally-oriented
D) Network-oriented

Question 19

If someone is trying to weigh his/her options to make a decision about whether to take a new job in a different city, he/she is likely to prefer talking with a friend who has this style of communication.

A) Affectively-oriented
B) Status-oriented
C) Instrumentally-oriented
D) Network-oriented

Question 20

What statement best describes research findings related to gender and communication?

A) Overall gender differences in many areas of communication are small.
B) Gender differences explain a significant amount of the variation between men and women's communication styles.
C) Younger men and women show less gender differences than older generations did.
D) While the stereotype is that women talk more than men, research shows that men use many more words per day than women.

Question 21

What does research show related to information posted on people's Facebook pages?

A) The information tends to be exaggerated to highlight a person's positive qualities.
B) The information is not accurate because the person can self-select what information to share or not share.
C) The information can provide a fairly accurate picture of a person's personality.
D) The information provides information about the person's social skills but not their overall personality.

Question 22

What is the name of the communication technique where the listener uses nodding and eye contact to signal that he/she is attentive to the speaker?

A) Active expression
B) Active listening
C) Nondefensive listening
D) Nonverbal listening

Question 23

According to your text, what is one crucial factor that nondefensive listening relies on?

A) Self-assertiveness
B) Self-efficacy
C) Self-disclosure
D) Self-restraint

Question 24

What is an important characteristic of active listening?

A) Nonverbal communication
B) Self-disclosure
C) Expressing one's own thoughts and feelings
D) Physical proximity

Question 25

What does the author of your textbook suggest helps facilitate a meaningful conversation about sexuality in a relationship?

A) Know correct terminology and have a sexual vocabulary
B) Know detailed information about each of your partner's past sexual experiences
C) Use the scientific terms for sexual organs, behaviors, and activities even if this is uncomfortable for you
D) Wait until later in the relationship to have conversations related to values-based sexuality topics

Question 26

What is a potential benefit of online communication?

A) Self-disclosure goes more slowly.
B) Less intimacy leads to less relationship problems.
C) Less nonverbal communication to less disagreement.
D) Physical characteristics are less important.

Question 27

John Gottman found that the ratio of positive to negative interactions in a relationship:

A) Is unrelated to level of distress.
B) Goes up as couples experience more distress.
C) Goes down as couples experience more distress.
D) Cannot be measure in distressed couples.

Question 28

Research finds that couples who communicate with each other about sexuality issues are:

A) More sexually adventurous than those who do not.
B) More sexually promiscuous than those who do not.
C) More likely to report higher levels of relationship satisfaction.
D) More likely to report higher levels of jealousy.

Question 29

Which culture is more likely to rely on nonverbal cues in communication?

A) North American
B) Canadian
C) German
D) Arab

Question 30

According to research findings, what is characteristic of gay men's speech patterns?

A) Higher use of adjectives
B) A wider than usual pitch range
C) More use of arm and hand gestures
D) All of these

Question 31

What is characteristic of individualistic cultures?

A) Individuals feel more comfortable disclosing personal information to a variety of people.
B) Individuals feel less comfortable disclosing personal information to a variety of people.
C) Individuals emphasize the communication needs of everyone in the group equally.
D) Individuals emphasize the communication needs of others before their own.

Question 32

In one research study that asked men and women to report how they express their consent to engage in sex with a partner, what did most report?

A) Most said verbal things such as "Let's do it," "I want you bad," or "Let's have sex."
B) Most used non-verbal gestures such as pulling closer to the other person, changing body positioning, or reciprocating touch.
C) Men reported more verbal exchanges and women reported more nonverbal exchanges.
D) Most said nothing at all.

Question 33

Who would likely be the BEST at decoding and translating nonverbal communication?

A) Jeremy, a 10-year-old boy
B) Morgan, a 25-year-old woman
C) Esther, a 75-year-old woman
D) Daniel, a 40-year-old man

Question 34

What do Maltz and Borker suggest related to head-nodding in conversations between men and women?

A) Men are signaling they are listening.
B) Women are signaling they agree.
C) There are no gender differences in head nodding during conversations between men and women.
D) There are differences in meanings between women's nods and men's nods during conversations.

Question 35

What best describes emoticons?

A) They are used more often by females.
B) They can detract from the seriousness of the statement.
C) They are similar to tag questions used during face-to-face conversations.
D) All of these are true.

Question 36

What conversation technique is critical in maintaining healthy and satisfying relationships?

A) Projection
B) Self-disclosure
C) Question statements
D) Disclaimers

Question 37

According to research findings, what is true related to nonverbal communication patterns?

A) Young children are equal to young adults in detecting nonverbal cues.
B) Young children tend to identify a wider range of emotional expressions than teens or college students.
C) As people age, they begin to lose their ability to recognize emotional expressions.
D) While verbal communication differs greatly from culture to culture, nonverbal communication is fairly consistent among cultures.

Question 38

The use of online avatars falls under what category of communication?

A) Nonverbal communication
B) Computer-mediated communication
C) Cross-cultural communication
D) Technology-enhanced communication

Question 39

Which type of culture is more likely to express thoughts, feelings, and ideas as directly as possible?

A) A "low context" culture
B) A "high context" culture
C) A collectivist culture
D) A bargainist culture

Question 40

Nadia says, "We never make love anymore." She and her partner have sex about twice a week which is less often than they used to. What is her statement an example of?

A) Overkill
B) Overgeneralization
C) Defensiveness
D) Validation

Question 41

Men and women raised in individualist cultures have a greater concern for the feelings of those around them than those raised in collectivist cultures.

Question 42

Couples who report disagreements in their relationship tend to experience higher levels of satisfaction than couples who report that they do not fight at all.

Question 43

What is a characteristic of a good lover?

A) He or she rarely engages in disagreements with a partner.
B) He or she is direct in telling a partner what he/she needs for sexual satisfaction.
C) He or she puts a partner's sexual needs before his or her own.
D) He or she has had more than one but not too many past sexual partners.

Question 44

In the heat of the moment, Jordan tells his partner if he doesn't do what he wants, he will pack all of his things and move out when in reality he has no plans to leave. What is this an example of?

A) Overkill
B) Overgeneralization
C) Defensiveness
D) Validation

Question 45

According to Tannen, women tend to use rapport talk while men use report talk.

Question 46

What question would someone be LEAST likely to ask earlier in a relationship?

A) What led you to pick your major?
B) How do you get along with your roommates?
C) What are your hobbies?
D) How did you get along with your parents growing up?

Question 47

When we want to project an image with our message, we are focusing on the goal of getting the job done.

Question 48

The term, genderlects, refers to using negative and gender stereotyping words during conversations.

Question 49

What is characteristic of men and gossiping?

A) Men do not typically engage in gossiping.
B) When men gossip, they are more likely to gossip to acquaintances.
C) When men gossip, they are more likely to gossip to romantic partners.
D) Research shows there are actually no gender differences related to gossiping.

Question 50

What best characterizes couples' relationship satisfaction and level of disagreements?

A) Couples who report higher level of relationship satisfaction report the least disagreements.
B) Couples with the highest level of relationship satisfaction report moderate amounts of both verbal and physical disagreements.
C) Relationship satisfaction and level of disagreements are not related.
D) Couples who report higher level of relationship satisfaction report both public issue arguments and personal disagreements.

Question 51

What does the author of your textbook suggest is responsible for the level of body dissatisfaction in the United States?

A) Education
B) Gender roles
C) Advertising
D) Family expectations

Question 52

Using disclaimers during conversation is found to be an indicator of high relationship satisfaction.

Question 53

Students self-disclose on Facebook more than they would in other situations.

Question 54

Where is the majority of a person's gaze directed during a typical conversation?

A) Just over the shoulder of the other person
B) The eyes, nose and mouth of the other person
C) To the things going on in the immediate environment
D) The hands of the other person

Question 55

Who is more likely to apologize in relationships?

A) Homosexual men
B) Heterosexual men
C) Heterosexual women
D) Men and women equally regardless of sexual orientation

Question 56

According to the Onion Theory of communication people have the tendency to reveal information about themselves from the inside out.

Question 57

In the United States, there is a particularly high value on:

A) Physical attractiveness.
B) Accepting one's body as it is.
C) Being satisfied with less than perfect bodies.
D) Being attractive while young but not when old.

Question 58

According to your text, what is one way self-esteem impacts a person's relationships?

A) How often they go on dates
B) The level of acceptance or rejection they expect
C) The level of sexual activity they expect
D) How much time they spend alone

Question 59

According to communication experts, hedge words decreases the speaker's perceived assertiveness of speech.

Question 60

The use of tag questions seems to be a universal feature of men's and women's communication patterns.

Question 61

What do we know about the impact of sexual orientation on communication? Discuss and critique two major points brought up in the chapter. Give a real life example related to each of your points.

Question 62

What do we know about the impact of culture on communication? Discuss and critique two major points brought up in the chapter? Give a real life example related to each of your points.

Question 63

Using the information in your textbook, describe the differences between complaining, gossiping and bitching. How do men and women differ related to each?

Question 64

How can the Internet reduce some of the common communication problems that couples experience in face-to-face conversations?

Question 65

Identify and explain two obstacles to sexual communication.

Question 66

Negative emotional facial expressions are more similar across cultures than positive emotional facial expressions.

Question 67

According to your textbook, what are some skills that good listeners have? Be sure to use specific terms from your textbook and define what they mean.

Question 68

Couples who talk about sexuality related issues report higher levels of relationship satisfaction.

Question 69

First define self-disclosure and give an example. Then discuss how it can be used both effectively and ineffectively in communication.

Question 70

What do we know about the impact of gender on communication? Discuss and critique two major points brought up in the chapter. Give a real life example related to each of your points.

Question 71

In the United States, personal health is valued over personal beauty.

Question 72

Validating each other's opinions is a suggestion for fighting fairly.

Question 73

Trust in a relationship is highly correlated to level of self-disclosure.

Question 74

According to your textbook, when we communicate with people we have three goals. Identify each goal describing the speaker's purpose for each and include how the three goals interact with each other.

Question 75

Describe two non-constructive communication strategies and explain why they could lead to a communication shutdown.