Deck 8: Relational Difficulties

Question 1

Physical aggression is as common as communicative aggression in a relationship.

Answer 1

False

Question 2

Conflict is very often damaging to a relationship.

Answer 2

False

Question 3

Aiyana hears that her professor is giving a pop quiz in class today and tells her classmate, who panics and crams in some study time before class. If it turns out that there is no pop quiz, this is NOT deception on Aiyana's part.

Answer 3

True

Question 4

While there are not necessarily infallible, universal "tells"
that show that a person might be lying, if you know a person well, you may be able to detect if he or she is being deceptive by his or her behavior.

Question 5

Infidelity can include even seemingly innocent actions such as holding hands or sending flirty text messages with someone other than one's romantic partner.

Question 6

If you and your roommate write down who is responsible for specific chores around your apartment, you have created:

A) a transgression.
B) implicit rules.
C) explicit rules.
D) isolation.

Question 7

Which of the following is true of relational aggression?

A) NOT engaging with a relational partner can be a form of aggression.
B) It is most egregious when implicit relationship rules are being broken.
C) The kinds of aggression that are not acceptable in a relationship are agreed upon by most people.
D) Most communicative aggression involves yelling.

Question 8

Christie's husband puts only enough gas in her car to get her to the grocery store and back. This is:

A) humiliation.
B) freedom restriction.
C) withdrawal.
D) risk taking.

Question 9

One of the main characteristics of _______ is tone of voice.

A) verbal aggression
B) withdrawal
C) isolation
D) insecurity induction

Question 10

When Horatio tries to talk to his girlfriend about problems in their relationship, she will often roll her eyes or close them and "snore" as though she is bored to sleep by the conversation. This is an example of:

A) criticism.
B) contempt.
C) defensiveness.
D) stonewalling.

Question 11

Criticism is most destructive when it focuses on:

A) defending one's behavior.
B) both partners' faults.
C) changeable behaviors.
D) a partner's character.

Question 12

Arlene gets angry every day when she gets home from work and finds that her husband has left a mess in the kitchen. She cleans it up, and then doesn't speak to him for at least an hour after he gets home from work. Her conflict management style is:

A) accommodating.
B) competing.
C) avoiding.
D) compromising.

Question 13

The compromising conflict style is:

A) uncooperative and unassertive.
B) cooperative and assertive.
C) cooperative and unassertive.
D) uncooperative and assertive.

Question 14

Kelly calls her husband to let him know that she'll be home late because she's going out with a group of friends for a drink after work. She fails to mention that one of those "friends" is her ex-fiancée. This is:

A) exaggeration.
B) equivocation.
C) falsification.
D) omission.

Question 15

Carl often changes the subject when his girlfriend asks him how he's feeling about their relationship, which demonstrates:

A) equivocation.
B) exaggeration.
C) omission.
D) falsification.

Question 16

Katrina has been talking to her co-worker Will about the problems in her marriage with her husband, Greg. Will listens sympathetically and tries to bolster Katrina's self-esteem. Katrina thinks about Will all the time and begins to talk to him about her life more than she does with Greg. Which of the following is true?

A) This would not be considered a betrayal of Greg.
B) This could be considered emotional infidelity.
C) Katrina is equivocating.
D) Greg would likely be more upset about this than if Katrina had a sexual relationship with Will.

Question 17

Which of the following is NOT true about infidelity?

A) Responses to different types of infidelity differ by gender, which may be explained using an evolutionary perspective.
B) Emotional infidelity can be just as damaging to a relationship as sexual infidelity.
C) What constitutes infidelity may differ from one relationship to another or even from one partner to another within a relationship.
D) Men get more upset if their partner engages in sexual infidelity because they are less emotionally "plugged in" than women.

Question 18

If you do not want your partner to go out with her friends because you fear she will find someone new, you are acting out of:

A) betrayal.
B) envy.
C) jealousy.
D) hostility.

Question 19

Why are criticism, contempt, defensiveness, and stonewalling considered the Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse in a relationship? What characteristics of each of these make them especially toxic to relationships?

Question 20

Give examples of self-focused, partner-focused, and relationship-focused motives for deception in a relationship. Are any of these motivations inherently better than the others? Why or why not?