Deck 7: Love and Intimacy

Question 1

During which era did the idea that romantic love is the most desirable form of love become popular?

A) Ancient Egypt
B) Middle Ages
C) 19th century
D) Current generation

Answer 1

C

Question 2

There is a strong correlation between a person's childhood attachment style and how he/she relates to future intimate relationships.

Answer 2

True

Question 3

There is significant variation across cultures in what characteristics are desired in an ideal mate.

Answer 3

False

Question 4

In long-lasting healthy relationships, the description of a couple's love for each other is not likely to vary over the span of their relationship.

Question 5

One's culture has a more powerful impact on love beliefs than one's gender.

Question 6

According to recent research, when people feel loved and can open up and talk with each other, which of the following becomes stronger?

A) Religious commitment
B) Financial well-being
C) Immune functioning
D) Cultural identity

Question 7

What method did psychologist John Alan Lee use to identify the six different ways to love which he called "colors" of love?

A) He asked college students to identify feelings associated with their most recent romantic relationship.
B) He interviewed couples who had been married for 20 years or longer.
C) Using lists of feelings words, he asked individuals between the ages of 10 and 95 to identify the words they most associated with feeling loved.
D) He collected statements about love from works of fiction and nonfiction including both ancient and modern authors.

Question 8

Folklore has sayings that "birds of a feather flock together" and "opposites attract," and current research on attraction supports both sayings.

Question 9

Passionate love is more valued in individualistic cultures than in collectivist cultures.

Question 10

Being in love can produce a sense of ecstasy, euphoria, and a feeling of well-being, much like a powerful drug.

Question 11

A person is more likely to be jealous in situations where his/her partner is flirting with someone who has characteristics similar to their own.

Question 12

Companionate love is the passionate, highly sexual part of loving.

Question 13

What is the term used to describe love that will never be returned?

A) Platonic
B) Companionate
C) Agape
D) Unrequited

Question 14

Research has found that age and relationship length are both positively related to intimacy and commitment.

Question 15

Brian and Ann have been married for over 20 years and they describe their feelings for each other as intimate, trusting, loyal, and romantic. What term best describes their love?

A) Romantic love
B) Passionate love
C) Companionate love
D) Sacrificial love

Question 16

Conjugal love is another name for companionate love.

Question 17

People use their body language to reveal their level of attraction when meeting someone for the first time.

Question 18

Self-love is another name used for narcissism.

Question 19

According to behavioral reinforcement theory, a person may dislike someone based on the experience of an unrelated negative association in his or her presence.

Question 20

More men than women report "hooking up" behavior on college campuses.

Question 21

According to Sternberg, what differentiates romantic love from other kinds of love?

A) Intimacy
B) Passion
C) Commitment
D) Jealousy

Question 22

According to Sternberg, what best describes intimacy?

A) It involves feelings of closeness, connectedness, and bonding in a loving relationship.
B) It is sparked by physical attraction and sexual desire driving a person to pursue a romantic relationship.
C) It is the short term decision to love someone and the long term decision to maintain that love.
D) It is one of the first elements to build in a relationship but also one of the first to fade as the relationship continues.

Question 23

Lott and Lott found that children who were rewarded continually by their teachers came to like their classmates more than children who were not rewarded. What theory of love does this research finding reflect?

A) Evolutionary
B) Cognitive
C) Behavioral reinforcement
D) Physiological arousal

Question 24

"I feel very possessive about _____" is an example from which part of Rubin's Love Scale?

A) Needing
B) Trusting
C) Affection
D) Passion

Question 25

Rick and Lindsey were on the same airplane during an emergency landing. They met at the airport while waiting for another airplane. Over the next 4 months they formed a long distance relationship. Lindsey says her heart races whenever she sees Rick. What theory best exemplifies this?

A) Behavioral reinforcement
B) Cognitive
C) Physiological arousal
D) Evolutionary

Question 26

Which theory of love suggests that we are likely to become attracted to someone we think likes us?

A) Proximity theory
B) Cognitive theory
C) Evolutionary theory
D) Behavioral theory

Question 27

What did Robert Sternberg's research propose?

A) Love is made up of three different elements combined in different ways.
B) Each person has a style of love that remains consistent over time.
C) Most people will choose relationships with those who have similar love styles.
D) Love that begins as romantic love is not likely to be long lasting.

Question 28

"I would do almost anything for her" is an example from which part of Rubin's Love Scale?

A) Trusting
B) Caring
C) Loyalty
D) Commitment

Question 29

Natasha and Jake have been dating for about 1 year. Natasha makes Jake feel good about himself. Whenever they are together he seems to feel happier and more confident. What theory does this best exemplify?

A) Behavioral reinforcement
B) Cognitive
C) Physiological arousal
D) Evolutionary

Question 30

What are the three components of attachment measure by Rubin's "Love Scale"?

A) Passion, intimacy, commitment
B) Affection, loyalty, openness
C) Security, insecurity, avoidance
D) Needing, caring, trusting

Question 31

"If I could never be with ____, I would feel miserable" is an example from which part of Rubin's Love Scale?

A) Needing
B) Caring
C) Intimacy
D) Security

Question 32

Which theory of love suggests that we are likely to fall in love with people whom we think have positive traits that will later be passed on to our children?

A) Cognitive
B) Proximity
C) Evolutionary
D) Physiological

Question 33

According to research, what lovestyles identified by Lee are associated with poorer psychological health?

A) Manic and ludic
B) Erotic and manic
C) Erotic and pragmatic
D) Storge and ludic

Question 34

Michelle likes to do sweet and romantic things for her partner. In fact, she will often put her partner's needs above her own. Her partner's happiness is more important than her own. According to Lee what is Michelle's love style?

A) Storge
B) Agape
C) Pragma
D) Ludic

Question 35

When asked to describe his relationship with his partner, Jason says he knew it was love at first sight and that he loves to close his eyes and sensethe touch and smell of his lover. According to Lee what is Jason's love style?

A) Ludic
B) Storge
C) Manic
D) Erotic

Question 36

Thao thinks Nick may like him because they have made prolonged eye contact several times during class. Thao finds himself grabbing an extra soda for Nick, offering him help on his homework and spending time hanging out after class with him. As he thinks about this, he realizes he is falling for Nick. What theory does this best exemplify?

A) Behavioral reinforcement
B) Cognitive
C) Physiological arousal
D) Evolutionary

Question 37

According to Sternberg's love triangles, what term is used for the absence of the three building blocks of love?

A) Jealousy
B) Unrequited love
C) Nonlove
D) Manic love

Question 38

Erik says "Love is a shopping list. You go through life trying to find a partner who has all of the items on your list." According to Lee what is Erik's love style?

A) Storge
B) Agape
C) Pragma
D) Ludic

Question 39

What was one example given in the text for how a couple's score on Rubin's love scale correlates with their behavior?

A) Probability they will get married
B) Probability they will cheat on each other
C) How many sexual partners they have had
D) How many years they have been together

Question 40

According to Sternberg's research, what is "passion"?

A) It involves feelings of closeness, connectedness, and bonding in a loving relationship.
B) It is sparked by physical attraction and sexual desire driving a person to pursue a romantic relationship.
C) It is a set of behaviors used to forge close relationships throughout the lifespan.
D) All of these

Question 41

Which style of attachment is most likely used to describe babies who have caregivers who are uncomfortable with affection and force separation at an early age?

A) Secure
B) Ambivalent
C) Avoidant
D) Inflexible

Question 42

According to your text, what is one of the most reliable predictors of whom a person will date?

A) Those who are opposite of one another
B) Education background
C) Acceptance of peers
D) Proximity

Question 43

Research has found a strong correlation between intimacy and the ability to do what?

A) Compromise
B) Show affection
C) Self-disclose
D) Be assertive

Question 44

In which of the following countries is it most likely for a person to think first of how a mate would be received by family and friends over one's own sense of romance?

A) Mexico
B) China
C) United States
D) France

Question 45

According to information in your text, what is a significant characteristic that distinguishes love from intimacy?

A) Reciprocity
B) Passion
C) Commitment
D) Loyalty

Question 46

Related to attachment, divorce and future relationships, what factor has been found to reduce the negative effects ofdivorce on children?

A) If the child has a good relationship with at least one sibling
B) If the divorce occurred before the children were teenagers
C) If both parents remained in the same community
D) If a child has a good relationship with at least one parent after the divorce

Question 47

What have love researchers determined about the role of one's mother and father in the development of healthy, intimate relationships?

A) Those who do not experience intimacy growing up will not experience it as adults.
B) People who did not experience intimacy growing up can experience it as adults.
C) Childhood intimacy is not related to adult intimacy.
D) None of these

Question 48

Which of the following countries tends to have the lowest degree of conflict in intimate relationships?

A) France
B) United States
C) Japan
D) Brazil

Question 49

When it comes to choosing an ideal mate, what does the most current research show?

A) Both men and women rate physical attractiveness as the most important feature in finding a romantic partner.
B) Heterosexual men rate educational achievement higher than heterosexual women do.
C) Heterosexual women and men rate financial stability as an important factor in attraction.
D) There is significant variation across cultures in what characteristics are desired in an ideal mate.

Question 50

By what age is a child's attachment style typically established?

A) 3 months
B) 9 months
C) 2 years
D) 5 years

Question 51

16-month old Latesha doesn't mind if her father leaves the room because she knows he will respond if she needs him. What style of attachment is Latesha most likely to have?

A) Avoidant
B) Loyal
C) Secure
D) Companionate

Question 52

What is the term used to describe the set of behaviors developed in adolescence that we use to forge close relationships throughout our lives?

A) Intimacy repertoire
B) Attachment style
C) Relationship roles
D) Love styles

Question 53

According to attachment researchers, what style of attachment in infancy leads adults to have a difficult time trusting their partners?

A) Anxious/ambivalent
B) Secure
C) Avoidant
D) Irritable/insecure

Question 54

Which of the following is TRUE according to recent research on pheromones?

A) We tend to be attracted to someone with a similar major histocompatibility complex (MHC) as our own.
B) Pheromones are more influential on human sexual behavior than on animal behavior.
C) Colognes containing pheromones are effective in attracting a compatible partner.
D) Homosexual men respond to pheromones involved in sexual attraction similarly to heterosexual women.

Question 55

Which statement is descriptive of the matching hypothesis?

A) As couples are together longer, their behaviors tend to become very similar.
B) People are drawn to others with traits and levels of attractiveness similar to themselves.
C) Heterosexual people tend to find a partner who is similar to their opposite sex parent.
D) People are more likely to choose partners with opposite characteristics to themselves.

Question 56

Which of the following aspects of love does a person's culture impact?

A) How easily he or she falls in love
B) With whom he or she falls in love
C) How the relationship proceeds
D) All of these

Question 57

What does Ainsworth's research suggest is highly correlated to the type of intimate relationship that you form in your adulthood?

A) The level of praise and encouragement you received as a child
B) Whether or not your parents were divorced when you were a child
C) Whether or not you developed a positive love role repertoire as a child
D) The type of attachment you formed as a child

Question 58

What is a term that identifies the group of people a person may be attracted to?

A) Love repertoire
B) Attraction index
C) Personality profile
D) Field of eligibles

Question 59

What was a significant problem with Davis Buss's methodology in studying attraction across cultures?

A) His sample size was very small, thus not representative.
B) He only surveyed people who were married for his study.
C) He only surveyed people who identified as Christian.
D) He assumed all respondents were heterosexual.

Question 60

The finding that gay men are more likely than heterosexual men to believe that "you should share your most intimate thoughts and feelings with the person you love" can possibly be explained by which statement?

A) Gay men tend to adopt more feminine gender roles.
B) Gay men tend to adopt fewer stereotyped beliefs about gender roles.
C) Gay men produce lower levels of testosterone.
D) Gay men tend to have greater ability to self-regulate emotionally.

Question 61

Describe the effects of pheromones on sexual attraction, and make reference to at least 2 research findings discussed in your text.

Question 62

Discuss three ways in which culture differences may impact patterns of intimacy.

Question 63

Provide an example either from your own experience or from research that illustrates each of the following perspectives on love: evolutionary, behavioral reinforcement, cognitive, and physiological arousal.

Question 64

First identify and briefly define the different styles of attachment in childhood, then discuss two examples of how they have been shown to impact the formation of intimacy in adulthood.

Question 65

In his observations of heterosexual strangers in bar situations, Perper found if people were mutually attracted to each other the first indication was what?

A) They turn their bodies more toward each other until they are facing each other.
B) Their facial expressions and posture starts to mirror each other.
C) One will casually lean against the other to create minimal body contact.
D) The man typically initiates physical contact by touching the arm of the female.

Question 66

Identify and describe each of John Alan Lee's colors of love.

Question 67

Research finds that jealousy is closely related to what two areas?

A) Trust and self-esteem
B) Loyalty and self-confidence
C) Self-disclosure and self-confidence
D) Caring and loyalty

Question 68

Six ways to enhance our ability to form relationships were discussed. Identify and explain 4 of the 6.

Question 69

When a person is in love, his or her body releases the drug phenylethylamine which is also found in which of the following?

A) Alcohol
B) Chocolate
C) Heroine
D) Breast milk

Question 70

Describe two problems discussed in your text that are related to measuring love.

Question 71

Katie is considering having a sexual relationship with Antonio. She is also thinking about what she learned from her family, education, and religion. Which of the following best explains Katie's thoughts?

A) Values clarification
B) Being honest with herself
C) Being honest with her partner
D) Taking sexual responsibility

Question 72

Explain how images of love in the media influence our concept of what love is. Give two specific examples.

Question 73

What area(s) have been studied related to loss of love?

A) Attachment style
B) Physiological responses
C) Brain activity
D) All of these

Question 74

Identify and describe the elements of love according to Robert Sternberg and how these elements combine to make seven different forms of love.

Question 75

Imagine you are asked to give a workshop on the dark side of love: jealousy, compulsiveness, and possessiveness. Choose 5 points that you would want to make to your audience. Be sure to reference information from your text.