Deck 6: Finding Happiness and Enhancing Your Personal Life

Question 1

To lessen an accusatory tone in conflicts with a partner, it is recommended that you:

A) use a term of endearment for the other person.
B) begin each accusation with "I'm sorry."
C) make "I" statements instead of "You" statements.
D) make "You" statements instead of "I" statements.

Answer 1

C

Question 2

As part of finding romance, quest fatigue may occur when:

A) you exceed your budget for finding a date or mate.
B) your attempts to find a date or mate fail.
C) you can no longer find happiness in the present moment.
D) the date or mate you find proves to be a disappointment.

Answer 2

B

Question 3

According to the balance theory of attraction, people are more likely to be attracted to people who are:

A) optimists.
B) well-balanced.
C) unlike themselves.
D) like themselves.

Answer 3

D

Question 4

Many people believe that ________________can be acquired and developed; much like a person can learn to become more extraverted or learn to control his or her intelligence.

A) Cognitive intelligence
B) Emotional intelligence
C) Social intelligence
D) Physical intelligence

Question 5

Studies of gender differences in communication found that:

A) women are reluctant to share feelings.
B) men are reluctant to share feelings.
C) women and men prefer to focus on objects and things.
D) major changes in communication style are not uncommon.

Question 6

The social exchange theory of attraction contends that relationships are based mostly on:

A) love for others.
B) self-interest.
C) a desire for intimacy.
D) romantic infatuation.

Question 7

According to the biochemical explanation of attractiveness:

A) we seek out partners of similar genetic makeup.
B) we seek out partners of different genetic makeup.
C) our hormones direct us toward potential mates.
D) chemistry between people determines the success of a relationship.

Question 8

The general approach to meeting new people described in the human relations text encourages you to use:

A) referrals by friends.
B) fate, chance, and luck.
C) school contacts.
D) problem-solving skills.

Question 9

A key component of emotional intelligence, Relationship management is:

A) Includes the interpersonal skills of being able to communicate clearly and convincingly, disarm conflicts, and build strong personal bonds.
B) Includes having empathy for others and having intuition about work problems.
C) The ability to control one's emotions and act with honesty and integrity in a consistent and acceptable manner.
D) The ability to understand your moods, emotions, and needs as well as their impact on others.

Question 10

According to the spheres of life model, happiness occurs when:

A) the two hemispheres of the brain support each other.
B) a person has at least six spheres of life.
C) the six spheres of life are spinning rapidly.
D) the various components of life work together in harmony.

Question 11

A key component of emotional intelligence, self-awareness is:

A) Includes the interpersonal skills of being able to communicate clearly and convincingly, disarm conflicts, and build strong personal bonds.
B) Includes having empathy for others and having intuition about work problems.
C) The ability to control one's emotions and act with honesty and integrity in a consistent and acceptable manner.
D) The ability to understand your moods, emotions, and needs as well as their impact on others.

Question 12

According to the spheres of life model, unhappiness results when:

A) a deficiency takes place in any of the six spheres.
B) the six spheres spin too rapidly.
C) a person attempts to juggle too many spheres at once.
D) a person does not have enough spheres to juggle.

Question 13

According to one of the principles of psychological functioning, the present moment:

A) is where people find happiness and inner peace.
B) brings about more conflict for people than does the past.
C) controls our moods.
D) creates separate psychological realities.

Question 14

The supposed role of pheromones in finding a relationship is that:

A) pheromones act as repellants, much like bug spray.
B) people with high doses of pheromones attract more partners.
C) rational factors do not count in choosing a date or mate.
D) people with the same pheromone level attract each other.

Question 15

Self-esteem contributes to happiness because:

A) self-confident people have the most fun.
B) people have to love you before you can love them.
C) you need to be boastful to be happy.
D) self-love must precede love for others.

Question 16

The purpose of the five principles of psychological functioning is to:

A) learn how to juggle the spheres of life.
B) act as a guide to deal with difficult people.
C) act as a guide toward achieving inner happiness.
D) overcome adversity in everyday life.

Question 17

Romantic love plays the biggest role in:

A) sustaining a relationship.
B) launching a relationship.
C) attracting a wealthy partner.
D) finding a compatible mate.

Question 18

An important contributor to happiness is to:

A) live with what you cannot change.
B) change yourself to meet society's aesthetic standards.
C) establish goals for changing conditions that are difficult to change.
D) avoid vigorous physical exercise.

Question 19

Which one of the following is a key recommendation for making a two-wage-earner couple have a smooth relationship?

A) Carefully manage time.
B) Ignore feelings of competitiveness.
C) Appoint one person responsible for making the major decisions.
D) Minimize discussions about who pays for what.

Question 20

A key component of emotional intelligence, Self-management is:

A) Includes the interpersonal skills of being able to communicate clearly and convincingly, disarm conflicts, and build strong personal bonds.
B) Includes having empathy for others and having intuition about work problems.
C) The ability to control one's emotions and act with honesty and integrity in a consistent and acceptable manner.
D) The ability to understand your moods, emotions, and needs as well as their impact on others.

Question 21

Problem-solving skills are too rigid to be applied to improving personal life.

Question 22

As described by a famous psychiatrist, true love enables a person to be more concerned about his or her welfare than the welfare of the partner.

Question 23

An advantage of meeting people through chat rooms on the Internet is that these people are usually carefully screened.

Question 24

According to the principle of separate psychological realities, people who view the same event separately usually come to an agreement on what the event means.

Question 25

In a non-possessive relationship, both parties:

A) maintain separate identities.
B) are free to see each other.
C) maintain their own possessions.
D) have an equal vote in choosing friends and relatives to entertain.

Question 26

One biochemical explanation of attractiveness contends that a person who emits a high level of pheromones will attract more romantic partners.

Question 27

A key contributor to happiness is to believe in yourself rather than something external to yourself.

Question 28

Garth maintains a differentiation of self in a relationship so he can:

A) date other women without feeling guilty.
B) achieve a reasonable degree of autonomy.
C) act differently in various situations as he chooses.
D) act completely different from his partner.

Question 29

Luke has been searching for a prospective partner at bars for one year with no positive results. To overcome the quest fatigue he is now experiencing, Luke should now search for partners on the Internet or the personal ads.

Question 30

One of the keys to happiness is to concentrate more on the past and future than on the present.

Question 31

According to the thinking principle of psychological functioning, feelings come about after you have thought about something or somebody.

Question 32

Although many people may have similar spheres of life, the importance they attach to each sphere may differ substantially.

Question 33

The balance theory of attraction helps explain why opposites attract.

Question 34

To develop self-esteem in our society, it is important to place a high premium on earning and investing money.

Question 35

According to the feeling principle of psychological functioning, if a person focuses on personal concerns, he or she will conquer the concerns and will experience well-being as a result.

Question 36

The spheres of the sphere of life model of happiness refer to the different stages in life most people pass through.

Question 37

Planning to be happy appears to be more under our control than preventing unhappiness.

Question 38

Novelty is often threatening in a relationship and should be avoided.

Question 39

According to the biochemical explanation of attractiveness, in choosing a mate of date we first take into account our conscious psychological preferences. Next, our hormones are activated in making the selection.

Question 40

Keeping romantic love in perspective means:

A) maintaining romantic love just as it was the day you met.
B) expecting your marriage to meet all your needs.
C) accepting that romantic love normally fades somewhat over time.
D) discounting romantic love in favour of a more business-like arrangement.

Question 41

Many people believe that emotional intelligence can be acquired and developed; much like a person can learn to become more extraverted or learn to control his or her intelligence.

Question 42

All issues are just fair to bring up in a marital dispute.

Question 43

At times, a couple may be so emotionally charged that resolving conflicts face-to-face is not possible.

Question 44

A recommended way of arranging responsibilities in a dual-career family is for the partner who earns less to be inconvenienced when an emergency occurs.

Question 45

One way to help keep a relationship going is to confront your partner when he or she communicates in a gender-appropriate way.

Question 46

A loving relationship will benefit from formal communication sessions in which you tell each other almost everything on your mind.

Question 47

The key point of a non-possessive relationship is that both partners maintain separate identities.

Question 48

To keep a dual-earner relationship running smoothly, it is best to leave time management and priority-setting back at the office.

Question 49

If both couples maintain a differentiation of self in a relationship they are highly subject to pressures from the partner and family members.

Question 50

In general, recent research shows that common-law relationships tend to be temporary and transitory and rarely transform into marriage.