Deck 7: Interpersonal Relationships

Question 1

To successfully terminate a relationship,we should _______.

A)avoid the other person
B)spend less and less time together until we don't see each other
C)engage in direct conversation about our desire to end the relationship
D)persuade the other person that it's for the best

Answer 1

C

Question 2

Cassie knows that she has difficulty reading.She does not disclose this information to her friends.This information falls into the quadrant of her Johari window labeled _______.

A)secret
B)unknown
C)open
D)blind

Answer 2

A

Question 3

The relationship stage characterized by looking for feelings of relaxation and confirmation is _______.

A)beginning and developing
B)maintaining
C)de-escalating
D)none of the above

Answer 3

A

Question 4

Delia and Eloise are so bored of their routines that they decide to completely disregard predictability and spend a week doing lots of new things they have never done.This is an example of which strategy of managing relationship dialectics?

A)temporal selection
B)topical segmentation
C)neutralization
D)reframing

Question 5

In the previous question Delia and Eloise are attempting to deal with which relational dialectic?

A)autonomy/connection
B)openness/closedness
C)novelty/predictability
D)temporal/topical

Question 6

The relationship stage in which we are more likely to act selflessly is ________.

A)the beginning stage of a friendship
B)the beginning stage of a acquaintance
C)the ending stage of an intimate relationship
D)none of the above

Question 7

The relationship stage characterized by merging social networks is ________.

A)beginning and developing
B)maintaining
C)de-escalating
D)none of the above

Question 8

Susan knows I blush when I am praised;I do not.My reaction to praise would fall into the quadrant of my Johari window labeled _______.

A)secret
B)unknown
C)open
D)blind

Question 9

Jocelyn is one of Violet's Facebook "friends." They went to high school together but never saw each other outside of school.When Facebook reminds Jocelyn that it's Violet's birthday,she writes "Happy Birthday!" on her wall,but they do not communicate otherwise.Jocelyn and Violet are _______.

A)acquaintances
B)friends
C)close friends
D)intimates

Question 10

Anita is realizing that her idea of "spontaneous" is very different from her partner's and that is why they fight about vacations every year.She is engaging in which strategy?

A)temporal selection
B)topical segmentation
C)neutralization
D)reframing

Question 11

One of the signs that we recognize we are dissatisfied with a relationship is when _______.

A)one person begins to lose interest in the opinions and feelings of the other
B)formerly open subjects are now off-limits
C)we begin to think in terms of "I" instead of "we"
D)all of the above

Question 12

Nick wants to spend lots of time with his new partner,David.He likes feeling like a bonded couple and enjoys the time they share.However,he also doesn't want to lose his feeling of independence.What relationship dialectic is Nick struggling with?

A)autonomy/connection
B)openness/closedness
C)novelty/predictability
D)all of the above

Question 13

Ian and Kelly still have date night every Thursday in order to have time together away from the family,but lately they barely talk and they have started just going to the same restaurant instead of trying new things every week like they had originally planned.They are experiencing _______.

A)circumscribing
B)stagnating
C)avoiding
D)terminating

Question 14

A healthy relationship is characterized by _______.

A)getting your own way with another person when you want to
B)being well liked
C)developing a mutually satisfying interaction
D)fostering contrasting interpersonal needs

Question 15

One benefit of electronically-mediated relationships is that they ________.

A)may offer the participant the opportunity for rapid intimacy
B)make it easy to trust and gain credibility
C)incorporate both verbal and nonverbal messages
D)have very limited conflict and miscommunication

Question 16

Linh is upset with her boyfriend,Aaron.Instead of telling Aaron why she is upset,Linh talks to her friends and her mother about her feelings.When Aaron asks what is wrong,Linh replies,"Nothing." What guideline about communicating in intimate relationships is Linh violating?

A)Be faithful to your partner.
B)Be responsive in meeting your partner's needs.
C)Be dependable.
D)Be transparent.

Question 17

Todd knows he is a talented public speaker,and his audiences praise his speeches.Todd's speaking talent falls into which quadrant of his Johari window?

A)secret
B)unknown
C)open
D)blind

Question 18

All of the following are guidelines for maintaining friendships except _______.

A)you must share similar values
B)you must provide emotional support
C)you must find an effective way to manage conflict
D)you must be proactive in setting up times to spend together

Question 19

_______ is a practice of emphasizing someone's positive qualities and focusing less on their negative ones.

A)Neutralization
B)Positive illusion
C)Temporal selection
D)Topical segmentation

Question 20

What is the difference between an acquaintance and a friend?

A)Friends are people that we have known for a longer period of time.
B)Acquaintances are context bound,and friends are not.
C)Friends are people with whom our interactions are less role bound.
D)None of the above.

Question 21

Electronically-mediated communication isn't as intimate as face-to-face communication.

Question 22

Your Johari window is not fixed;it will change over time to reflect changes in your relationship.

Question 23

All too often we use withdrawal,avoidance,or manipulation to end relationships.Think about a relationship that you ended or a relationship you watched end.How could direct,open honesty have helped this relationship end better,or even transformed it into a different kind of functioning relationship?

Question 24

Many relationships remain static over time.

Question 25

The need for physical contact doesn't apply to online relationships.

Question 26

According to your textbook,a platonic relationship is less intimate than a romantic relationship.

Question 27

Imagine you are a relationship advice columnist.You receive the following email.Using what you know about relationship dialectics,respond to this person.Be sure to use at least 3 terms from the chapter:students should identify the dialectic [autonomy-connection],identify the current management strategy [temporal selection],and suggest another strategy [e.g.reframing])
Dear Communication Expert.
I'm having a problem in my relationship.I love spending time with my boyfriend Max.We have fun together,he's really nice,and I really like him.However,I don't want to be with him all of the time.I like doing my own thing too.My friends say this is weird and that if I love Max,I should want to be with him as much as possible.Max also seems hurt when I say I want time alone.Right now,I'm just giving in and spending most of my time with him because it seems like the right thing to do;but I'm not happy.I don't want to break up with Max,but I also don't want him to be my whole life.Is something wrong with me? Can I fix this problem?
Thank you!
Confused in California

Question 28

Define the four quadrants of the Johari window.Describe your own Johari window,and explain how it changes in a relationship with a family member compared with a relationship with a classmate.