Deck 10: Communication in Close Relationships

Question 1

DO NOT USEDialectical tensions exist in relationships when two incompatible forces or pressures exist at the same time.

Answer 1

True

Question 2

DO NOT USEThere are two types of relational control: decision control and conversation control.

Answer 2

True

Question 3

DO NOT USESocial circles merge and the relational partners take on a new relational identity in the intensifying stage of relationships.

Answer 3

False

Question 4

DO NOT USEAccording to Chapter Eight, we are usually attracted to people who are similar to us.

Question 5

DO NOT USE​Dialectical tensions arise when a relationship is new and tend to disappear after the first two years.

Question 6

DO NOT USEMetacommunication is communication about communication.

Question 7

DO NOT USEReciprocal liking builds attractiveness.

Question 8

DO NOT USEThe circumscribing stage of interpersonal relationships involves total avoidance of the other.

Question 9

DO NOT USEDialectical tensions exist in relationships when two incompatible forces or pressures exist at the same time.

Question 10

DO NOT USEA person can be "too competent." We are generally attracted to those who are talented yet have visible flaws like us.

Question 11

DO NOT USE​Attraction to others is greatest when we perceive we are similar to them in a high percentage of important areas, like goals and beliefs.

Question 12

DO NOT USEDifferences strengthen a relationship when they are complementary.

Question 13

DO NOT USEThe experimenting stage of interpersonal relationships is characterized by small talk.

Question 14

DO NOT USESmall talk typically occurs during the initiating stage of an interpersonal relationship.

Question 15

DO NOT USEThe person who exercises the greatest amount of conversational control doesn't always make the decisions in interpersonal relationships.

Question 16

DO NOT USE​The initiating stage of interpersonal relationships is usually brief.

Question 17

DO NOT USEAccording to your text, we are more attracted to people who are good at what they do but admit their mistakes.

Question 18

DO NOT USEAffinity is defined as the degree to which people like or appreciate one another.

Question 19

DO NOT USEDifferentiation in relationships is always negative, since it is part of the "coming apart" process.

Question 20

DO NOT USEImmediacy only occurs through nonverbal behavior such as eye contact and facial expressions.

Question 21

DO NOT USEAccording to Knapp's model of interaction stages, symbolic public gestures that show the world that a relationship exists usually occur in which stage in interpersonal relationships?​

A)​experimenting
B)​intensifying
C)​bonding
D)​integrating
E)​circumscribing

Question 22

Because men share less personal information and feelings than women, they are not capable of achieving the type of intimate relationships that women have.

Question 23

Because cultures like Japan and Taiwan are collectivist, people there communicate the same with members of "in-groups" and "out-groups" alike.

Question 24

The way parents communicate with their young children creates secure or insecure bonds that have powerful and lasting effects.

Question 25

Friendships are either task-oriented or relationship-oriented, but not both.

Question 26

DO NOT USEA study of 78 Internet dating profiles showed that about __________ percent strayed from the truth on some level.

A)20
B)​50
C)​65
D)​80
E)​98

Question 27

Managing your privacy settings on social network sites could have an impact on intimacy in cyber-relationships.

Question 28

DO NOT USEA couple might declare themselves "Facebook official" (or FBO) in which stage of relational development?​

A)​initiating
B)​intensifying
C)​integrating
D)​bonding
E)​circumscribing

Question 29

Focusing on having intimate communication daily will lead to extremely satisfying relationships.

Question 30

One researcher concluded that close relationships "may be the single most important source of life satisfaction and emotional well-being, across different ages and cultures."

Question 31

Telling someone "You can count on me" will usually guarantee loyalty because it's a measure of surefire commitment.

Question 32

By definition, an intimate relationship must exhibit all four intimacy dimensions.

Question 33

Attachment theory argues that, while secure attachment in childhood leads to confident adult communicators, insecure attachment has little to no impact on later life.

Question 34

Whereas most other interpersonal communication is transactional, as described in Chapter One, families tend to have more linear interactions.

Question 35

Friendships are more likely to end than any other relationship.

Question 36

It is quite possible to have a wide range of relationships with coworkers, roommates, and even family members without having much intimacy at all.

Question 37

While workplace romances can be messy, some research has shown that 34 percent of people who said they dated a coworker ended up marrying that person.

Question 38

Young adults from laissez-faire backgrounds are more confident listeners and more intellectually flexible than those from consensual or pluralistic families.

Question 39

Intimacy can come from intellectual sharing.

Question 40

DO NOT USEAccording to the text, we are usually attracted to people who​

A)​like us.
B)​are high self-disclosers.
C)​are perfect.
D)​approve of us even in ways we know are inaccurate.
E)​live far away from us

Question 41

DO NOT USEWhich of the following does not typically occur in the intensifying stage of interpersonal relationships?​

A)​The parties spend an increasing amount of time together.
B)​The parties begin to take on an identity as a social unit.
C)​The parties hint and flirt.
D)​Feelings are expressed nonverbally.
E)​The parties might take trips together.

Question 42

DO NOT USE​The stage where a couple might come up with "our song" is

A)​initiating.
B)​experimenting.
C)​intensifying.
D)​integrating.
E)​bonding.

Question 43

DO NOT USEYour roommate says, "It's your turn to take out the trash" in a demanding tone of voice.If you want to find out the relational dimension of the message, you should​

A)​remind your roommate nicely that you took the trash out last night
B)​use perception checking to see if your roommate is upset with you.
C)​negotiate other ways of dealing with the trash problem.
D)​ask your roommate's friends to explain the real problem.
E)​point out how defensive your roommate sounds.

Question 44

Most family members do their own thing and make their own decisions without much discussion.

A)​consensual
B)​pluralistic
C)​protective
D)​laissez-faire

Question 45

DO NOT USEThe relational dimension of a message

A)​makes statements about how the parties feel toward one another.
B)​deals with one or more social needs.
C)​are usually expressed nonverbally.
D)​All of these choices are correct.
E)​None of these choices are correct.

Question 46

DO NOT USE​The strategy where communicators respond to one end of the dialectical spectrum and ignore the other is

A)​denial.
B)​disorientation.
C)​alternation.
D)​segmentation.
E)​recalibration.

Question 47

DO NOT USEMolly makes an excuse not to attend a party she knows Jack is invited to.She's most likely in which stage with Jack?​

A)​initiating
B)​avoiding
C)​circumscribing
D)​experimenting
E)​bonding

Question 48

DO NOT USEThe degree to which the partners in an interpersonal relationship like or appreciate one another is called​

A)​appreciation.
B)​the communication of honesty.
C)​self-respect.
D)​affinity.
E)​the like-love phenomenon.

Question 49

DO NOT USE​Talking the most, interrupting the other person, and changing the topic most often are all common indicators of

A)​conversation control.
B)​decision control.
C)​powerful control.
D)​context control.
E)​distributional control.

Question 50

DO NOT USEIn any relationship, the power to determine what will happen in the relationship is a type of relational control called​

A)​decision control.
B)​conversation control.
C)​distributional control.
D)​powerful control.
E)​context control.

Question 51

DO NOT USE​Social exchange theory suggests that we often seek out people who can give us

A)​rewards greater than or equal to the costs we encounter in dealing with them.
B)​more self-esteem.
C)​relational rewards rather than physical ones.
D)​something in exchange for what we give them.
E)​both relational and physical things without demanding anything of us.

Question 52

DO NOT USEConflicting desires for both intimacy and the lack of it in an interpersonal relationship lead to the

A)​connection-autonomy dialectic.
B)​cohesion-revolt dialectic.
C)​predictability-novelty dialectic.
D)​openness-privacy dialectic.

Question 53

DO NOT USE​When two opposing or incompatible forces exist simultaneously in an interpersonal relationship, the struggle to achieve these opposing goals creates what is called a

A)​collectivistic tension.
B)​differentiating end state.
C)​counterfeit goal state.
D)​dialectical tension.
E)​proximity problem.

Question 54

DO NOT USEWhenever we discuss a relationship with another, we are​

A)​arguing.
B)​improving our relationship.
C)​self-disclosing.
D)​metacommunicating.
E)​receiving double messages.

Question 55

DO NOT USEJudith and Natalie work for the same employer and often have lunch together to talk about their current romances, problems with their families, and apartment headaches.Most Saturday afternoons they play tennis together.Which relationship stage do they seem to be in?​

A)​initiating
B)​differentiating
C)​bonding
D)​intensifying
E)​circumscribing

Question 56

DO NOT USE"Why don't you go ahead and visit your friends without me this weekend.I'll stick around and catch up on my studies." This statement typifies which relational stage?​

A)​integrating
B)​differentiating
C)​bonding
D)​terminating
E)​intensifying

Question 57

Twelve-year old Russell asks his parents if he can attend a rock concert.They say "no" and end the discussion there.Russell does not bring it up again.

A)​consensual
B)​pluralistic
C)​protective
D)​laissez-faire

Question 58

Fifteen-year old Bela wants to get her nose pierced.She feels comfortable making her case and discussing the idea with other family members, but the decision rests with her parents.

A)​consensual
B)​pluralistic
C)​protective
D)​laissez-faire

Question 59

The family is trying to decide where to go for summer vacation.All family members-and maybe even other relatives-get to weigh in with their perspectives until a consensus is reached.

A)​consensual
B)​pluralistic
C)​protective
D)​laissez-faire

Question 60

DO NOT USEAlmost every message has​

A)​content dimension.
B)​relational dimension.
C)​both a content and a relational dimension.
D)​no dimensions unless the communicators intend them to.
E)​an unintentional message.

Question 61

The text states that romantic partners who fear rejection and abandonment are likely to act in ways that increase the odds of their fears coming to pass.This example best relates to which concept from Chapter Three?​

A)​identity management
B)​self-congruence
C)​self-fulfilling prophecy
D)​self-serving bias
E)​halo effect

Question 62

Describe the characteristics of family systems, and explain how they apply to your own family.

Question 63

Social psychologist Roy Baumeister makes the case that, on average, most people want ___________ close, important relationships in their lives at any given time.

A)​one to two
B)​two to three
C)​three to four
D)​four to six
E)​more than six

Question 64

Having too many online friends can mean others perceive you as

A)not very social.
B)someone whose relationships are less than genuine.
C)not very friendly.
D)both b and c.
E)all of the above.

Question 65

Siblings who are ___________ are often more extraverted and concerned with control than their brothers and sisters.

A)​first-born
B)​middle-born
C)​last-born
D)​"caboose" children
E)​none of the above

Question 66

Discuss the four dimensions of intimacy in a relationship that is important to you.Explain your satisfaction with the intimacy or distance in each area.Relate any other factors (change, independence, culture, gender, etc.) that affect your intimacy in this relationship.

Question 67

Explain why relationships require maintenance and the five strategies couples use to help maintain them.

Question 68

Envisioning our family members represented in a mobile, with photos of each member suspended by a thread and connected to bars containing images of other members, may help us better understand the idea that

A)​family communication is involuntary.
B)​family communication is role-driven.
C)​family communication is formative.
D)​family communication patterns vary significantly.
E)​families are systems.

Question 69

Define a relational transgression and provide some examples of specific types of transgressions.Also, explain the four categories of transgressions.

Question 70

Research of male and female intimacy styles shows that

A)​differences are not as great as some people might think.
B)​women disclose more than men.
C)​women disclose more personal information than men.women disclose more personal information than men.
D)​men grow close by doing things together.
E)​All of these answer are correct.

Question 71

Members of an individualistic culture like the United States

A)​disclose the same no matter what group is being disclosed to.
B)​rarely show emotions.
C)​are not considered very romantic.
D)​act more familiar with strangers and disclose more personal information.
E)​shy away from public displays of affection.

Question 72

When Marlina and Zach fight, they blow things out of proportion, interrupt each other, and yell.Their conflict style is most likely

A)​volatile.
B)​avoidant.
C)​validating.
D)​protective.
E)​laissez-faire.

Question 73

An example of a romantic turning point might be

A)​a specific date.
B)​a Facebook declaration.
C)​the first big fight.
D)​the first kiss.
E)​All of the above are examples.

Question 74

Describe how the roles in your family are created and perpetuated through communication.

Question 75

According to research studies, which family communication pattern produces more productive and satisfying results?

A)​No pattern is necessarily better than another.
B)​consensual
C)​both consensual and pluralistic
D)​protective
E)​both protective and laissez-faire

Question 76

Which of the following statements summarizes Scott Johnson's thoughts about his bi-racial family in the "Looking At Diversity" reading?

A)He is certain racial differences will not impact the children in his bi-racial family.
B)He is certain racial differences will significantly impact the children in his bi-racial family.
C)He is unsure how much of an impact racial differences will have on the children in his bi-racial family.
D)He is sure that they are all learning a lot and communicating frankly about the role of race in their lives.
E)Both c and d.