Deck 11: The Second Time Around

Question 1

According to the text,why do traditional gender roles work against stepfamilies?

A) Stepmothers are expected to be cruel.
B) Traditional gender roles include the nonresident parent in the family.
C) Traditional gender roles often do not fit the family reality.
D) Children may face the loss of accustomed roles.

Answer 1

C

Question 2

Which of the following is NOT an aspect of planning the remarriage?

A) Boundaries and roles need to be renegotiated.
B) Spouses need to accept that difficulties will not be solved overnight.
C) Children need to stay connected with the ex-spouse's family.
D) The relationship with the ex-spouse over child support needs to be maintained.

Answer 2

A

Question 3

How do boundaries differ between first marriages and remarriages?

A) They need to be more permeable in first-marriage families.
B) They must be more permeable in remarriages.
C) They are well defined in stepfamilies.
D) First-marriage families experience greater boundary ambiguity.

Answer 3

B

Question 4

What did the 2001 General Social Survey conducted by Stats Canada discover about,those Canadians who had been married?

A) One in ten had been married more than once.
B) Two in ten had been married more than once.
C) Three in ten had been married more than once.
D) Four in ten had been married more than once.

Question 5

According to the text,how do reconstituted families differ from nuclear families?

A) Reconstituted families are limited by norms and expectations.
B) Reconstituted families have a less complex structure.
C) Reconstituted families have few norms to guide their formation.
D) Reconstituted families are less likely to end in divorce.

Question 6

According to the text,what is one of the main difficulties in remarriage families?

A) There are too many candidates for available family roles.
B) The stepmother role is too rigid for most families.
C) There is insufficient role strain for a healthy family.
D) There is not enough role flexibility.

Question 7

Since World War II,which change has taken place regarding remarriage?

A) Recently there has been an increase in remarriage among the widowed.
B) There has been a shift from widowed to divorced individuals among those remarrying.
C) The widowed who now remarry were, on the average, older when their husbands died.
D) There has been a shift from divorced to widowed individuals among those remarrying.

Question 8

According to the text,which of the following BEST describes remarriages?

A) They are a guarantee of happiness.
B) They are mostly stable.
C) They are less likely to end in divorce than first marriages.
D) They follow different stages of formation than first-marriage families.

Question 9

Which of the following is NOT an aspect of planning the new marriage?

A) The new partners need to cut off all ties with the ex-spouse's family.
B) Spouses need to accept that difficulties will not be solved overnight.
C) Children need to stay connected with the ex-spouse's family.
D) The relationship with the ex-spouse over child support needs to be maintained.

Question 10

According to the text,how does the stepparent often act in successful reconstituted families?

A) as a stern disciplinarian to the children
B) as an adult friend to the children
C) as a substitute parent to the children
D) as a source of treats to the children

Question 11

Which is NOT a stage in establishing a second marriage?

A) planning the new marriage and family
B) courtship and falling in love
C) entering the new relationship
D) forming the remarriage family

Question 12

According to the text,why might remarriage families have boundary problems?

A) Children may belong to two families.
B) Such families keep their boundaries permeable.
C) Remarriage families try to establish their own stable lifestyle.
D) Children reject the nonresidential parent.

Question 13

Which of the following factors makes it difficult for children to understand stepfamily relationships?

A) Most stepfamilies are formed after one parent dies and the other remarries.
B) There is a lack of appropriate terms to describe these relationships.
C) Most children in stepfamilies are too young to understand complex relationships.
D) Boundaries between households are too permeable and lack structure.

Question 14

According to the text,which of the following is NOT a reason for an increase in remarriages?

A) More people are widowed.
B) More people are divorced.
C) Divorce adds two people to the pool of eligibles.
D) Divorced people tend to be younger than the widowed.

Question 15

According to the text,what happens if stepfamilies respond to boundary ambiguity by trying to become as much like a first-marriage family as possible?

A) They are realistically trying to follow social scripts.
B) They are using the most workable solution to visiting.
C) Children will feel less confusion about their roles.
D) It may throw children into a conflict of loyalties.

Question 16

In general,what is the most workable approach to ambiguity in stepfamilies?

A) to cut children off from their nonresidential parent
B) to reduce visits from nonresident children to a minimum
C) to keep boundaries permeable
D) to establish permanent family roles

Question 17

According to the text,before people can enter a new marriage emotionally,what do they need to do?

A) focus their anger on their ex-spouse
B) mimic a first-marriage family
C) draw tight boundaries around the new relationship
D) achieve an emotional divorce from their earlier union

Question 18

According to the National Longitudinal Survey of Children and Youth,about 20 percent of children born in 1983-84 had experienced family breakup before they were 10.Thirteen years after separation what percentage of these children had a new "parent"?

A) 85
B) 72
C) 60
D) 46

Question 19

After two years,Yana and Marec have finally worked out comfortable relationships with each others' children and are happy with visiting arrangements.According to the text,what is likely to happen in the years to come?

A)They will have to work hard to keep these arrangements from changing.
B)They will need to resolve role ambiguities.
C)They will need to make adjustments as circumstances change.
D)They must be vigilant so that family boundaries won't become permeable.

Question 20

Which of the following is a difference between the relationships of first-marriage and second-marriage couples?

A) Couples in second marriages are more romantic than those in first marriages.
B) Couples in first marriages are more honest about difficulties in the marriage than those in second marriages.
C) Couples in second marriages are more sensitive to conflict than couples in first marriages.
D) Couples in first marriages have less defined roles than couples in second marriages.

Question 21

Following his parents' divorce,Brendan lives with one parent and often sees the other.According to the text,when is frequent contact such as Brendan experiences most likely?

A) when the nonresidential parent has remarried
B) when the residential parent is unfriendly toward the ex-spouse
C) when the nonresidential parent is the mother
D) when the nonresidential parent has relatively low education and income

Question 22

According to the text,following their child's divorce,when are grandparents LEAST likely to lose contact with grandchildren?

A) if they have mixed into their son's marital disputes
B) if their daughter has primary custody of her children
C) if their ex-daughter-in-law has custody of the children
D) if they threaten to take the custodial parent to court

Question 23

What does a remarried couple need to do in addition to tasks faced by first-marriage families?

A) be more romantic so as to avoid conflict
B) keep relationships with their children and ex-spouse the same
C) cut off contact with former in-laws
D) adjust the relationship with their children and ex-spouse

Question 24

According to the text,who do both stepfathers and stepmothers report more positive relationships with?

A) adolescent girls
B) adolescent boys
C) younger girls
D) younger boys

Question 25

According to the text,what is one task a stepparent needs to accomplish in order to be successful?

A) to take over discipline to relieve the spouse of a heavy responsibility
B) to develop an appropriately affectionate relationship with the stepchild
C) to keep all family members happy with the new relationship
D) to remain detached from the child so as to avoid conflict

Question 26

According to the text,which of the following is NOT a reason that the relationship between stepparent and stepchild is important?

A) The stepparent relationship lasts only as long as the marriage does.
B) Many marriages are destroyed by problems in this relationship.
C) Adolescents in stepfamilies are at risk of developing behavioural problems.
D) The myths about stepparent-stepchild relations can cause family problems.

Question 27

According to the text,what do myths about stepfamilies do?

A) provide guidance in story form as to how stepfamilies should behave
B) set out roles and social scripts for stepfamily members
C) place unnecessary burdens on family members
D) relieve family members of the need to get along with each other

Question 28

Remarried couples may be especially sensitive to conflict.According to the text,what is a healthy response?

A) conceal differences behind a shield of apparent agreement
B) have greater awareness of the feelings of the new spouse
C) blame everything on the former spouse
D) acknowledging conflict is a normal part of all relationships

Question 29

According to the text,what is likely to happen if a second marriage does not dissolve quickly?

A) It will be more stable than a first marriage.
B) It will be as stable as any first marriage.
C) The couple will face serious difficulties within five years.
D) It will be an exceptionally happy marriage.

Question 30

Following her divorce,Susanna has been very disorganized and withdrawn.In order to keep the family functioning,her daughter has taken over an unusual level of responsibility for the care of a younger brother.What has the daughter become?

A) a parentified child
B) a bossy sibling
C) a mother's helper
D) a babysitter

Question 31

According to the text,what do some stepparents feel the need to do in order to prove to themselves and to the world that the new family is a success?

A) keep all family members happy
B) keep the stepchild in line
C) make up to the child for past suffering
D) love the stepchild right away

Question 32

What is a complication that may arise in the opposite-sex stepparent and stepchild?

A) It is easier to express affection verbally or through special privileges.
B) There is no explicit incest taboo surrounding this relationship.
C) Outsiders expect sexual overtones in a stepmother-stepson relationship.
D) The social taboo against showing physical affection is very strong.

Question 33

According to the text,which of the following beliefs can help a stepfamily succeed?

A) Immediate attachment is possible
B) We are one big happy family
C) Stepparents can make up for past family difficulties
D) Stepparenting can take many forms

Question 34

Sometimes a daughter becomes the confidante of her divorced mother.According to the text,when the mother remarries,which is the daughter's LEAST likely response?

A) feeling a sense of loss and resentment over giving up the role of confidante
B) becoming more demanding with acting-out behaviour
C) feeling a sense of relief that someone else is responsible for her mother
D) becoming depressed, withdrawn, and uncommunicative

Question 35

According to the text,what is likely to happen to Joel's ex-wife now that Amanda and Joel have remarried?

A) She can affect the new marriage because she is the mother of Joel's children.
B) She cannot affect the new marriage because Joel is still very angry at her.
C) She can cause problems in the new marriage because she refuses to call Joel about household repairs.
D) She has no more influence over Joel and cannot affect the new marriage.

Question 36

According to the text,what is the most common difficulty between spouses in a second marriage?

A) conflict over children
B) conflict over finances
C) jealousy over the previous spouse
D) negotiating new roles around the home

Question 37

According to the text,which of the following problems is often faced by nonresidential parents?

A) They are cut off from the daily life of their children.
B) They are seen as a source of social and fun activities.
C) They have little or no contact with their children.
D) Their ex-spouse expects too much child care from them.

Question 38

Which myth about stepparents is preserved in old tales like that of Cinderella?

A) the instant love myth
B) the one big happy family myth
C) the rescuer myth
D) the wicked stepmother myth

Question 39

Which of the following is LEAST likely to be a loyalty issue in stepfamilies?

A) stepfathers may feel disloyal to biological children who do not live with them
B) stepparents may feel disloyal to their biological children if they become attached to stepchildren
C) the remarried couple may feel disloyal to each other if they side with their biological children
D) child may feel disloyal to their same-sex biological parent if they become attached to their stepparent

Question 40

What might the problems a stepmother experiences be partly due to?

A) trying to overcome the wicked stepmother myth by trying too hard
B) taking away the past pain the stepchildren have experienced
C) holding up the nonresidential parent as a glowing example of parenting
D) taking realistic expectations into the stepfamily

Question 41

In remarriage families,the stepmother-____________________ relationship usually suffers the most problems.

Question 42

Stepfamilies often receive conflicting messages from society.What is this called?

A) role ambiguity
B) self-fulfilling prophecy
C) social scripting
D) petty criticism

Question 43

Another name for a remarriage family or stepfamily is a(n)____________________ family.

Question 44

Why is the stepfamily sometimes called an "incomplete institution"?

A) It does not come with ready-made roles and norms.
B) Not all the children live full-time in the household.
C) A stepparent is not considered to be a real parent.
D) There is duplication of roles and functions.

Question 45

Stepfamilies with adolescent members experience a number of strains.Which of the following is NOT one of them?

A) conflict between forming attachments and the need to separate
B) a confused relationship of the family to school and church
C) teenagers' skill at manipulating parents
D) problems caused in family relationships by adolescent sexuality

Question 46

When do particular problems in remarriage families occur?

A) when the remarried couple shares common problems because they are in the same life-cycle phase
B) when adult children shift their image of parents to include a stepparent
C) when one spouse is considerably older than the other and their life-cycle stages differ
D) when remarriage occurs after the death of a spouse

Question 47

Of all Canadians who have been married,about _____ in ten has been married more than once.

Question 48

According to the text,what do studies show about having a baby born into a stepfamily?

A) It is related to family stability.
B) It increases conflict among stepsiblings.
C) It makes stepchildren feel more wanted.
D) It increases husband-wife conflict over children.

Question 49

According to the text,which of the following is LEAST likely to account for difficulties stepchildren experience?

A) Stepchildren have undergone several family transitions.
B) Stepparents use an authoritative parenting style.
C) Stepfathers show less affection and supervise children less.
D) The problems may reach back before the formation of a stepfamily.

Question 50

According to the text,what is one positive aspect of stepsibling relationships?

A) romantic attachments that develop among stepsiblings
B) the importance of learning to share possessions and space
C) the ability to reduce conflict by gaining new roles
D) the emotional support they can provide each other

Question 51

Family boundaries that allow members to move through them are called ____________________ boundaries.

Question 52

The term ____________________ has been coined to refer to the relationship between current and ex-wives.

Question 53

____________________ parents are seen as a source of pleasure,but may be cut off from the mainstream of daily living.

Question 54

According to the text,what do children expect when they experience conflicts with stepsiblings?

A) to have their biological parent to side with them
B) to have family "rules" to draw upon when making decisions
C) to have different attitudes about each other's property
D) to have their parents mediate in major arguments

Question 55

Out of the need for a close relationship,some single mothers make their daughters their ____________________.

Question 56

Who are children living in a stepfamily most similar to,in terms of their adjustment in later life?

A) children raised by lesbian parents
B) children raised in traditional nuclear families
C) children raised by grandparents
D) children raised by single mothers

Question 57

According to the text,how has the likelihood of two sibling groups being combined in one household changed?

A) It has decreased because the trend is toward giving mothers custody.
B) It has decreased because it is not in the best interests of the children.
C) It has increased because more fathers are being given custody.
D) It has increased because families have been getting larger.

Question 58

Which of the following is LEAST likely to be a source of conflict between stepsiblings?

A) The children interpret any differences in treatment as favouritism.
B) There are difficulties over turf when a second set of children joins the household.
C) Visits are arranged so that there is only one set of children in the house at once.
D) Combining two groups of children produces a duplication in roles.

Question 59

It is predicted that remarriages will become ___________ common in the future.

Question 60

Which of the following is LEAST likely to be a source of discipline problems in stepfamilies?

A) There are differences between parents in child-rearing styles.
B) The biological parent handles most of the day-to-day discipline.
C) The stepparent is not seen as a real parent, and thus not as a disciplinarian.
D) The stepparent establishes his or her authority first and then develops love.

Question 61

Negotiating boundaries and roles are extremely important for remarriage families.Discuss the difficulties faced by family members in these two areas.

Question 62

Briefly explain the three stages of remarriage-family formation.

Question 63

How do boundaries in remarriage families differ from those in first-marriage families?

Question 64

The ____________________ myth has two versions: making up for what the poor child has been through or straightening the kid out.

Question 65

Discuss the effect of remarriage on the relationship between children and their biological parents.

Question 66

Give four factors that may lead to conflict between stepsiblings.

Question 67

Myths about stepfamilies may interfere with the development of healthy relationships.Describe common myths and explain why they are harmful.

Question 68

Some of the problems in stepfamily relationships arise from ____________________ and unrealistic expectations,which place unnecessary burdens on its members.

Question 69

One important area of conflict between stepparents and stepchildren is ______________ because stepparents are not regarded as "real" parents.

Question 70

What changes have occurred following World War II in remarriage patterns?

Question 71

What factors affect the frequency of visits between a nonresidential parent and his or her child?

Question 72

State why the relationship between stepparent and stepchild is important.

Question 73

Explain why remarriage families often face more problems than first-marriage families.Use examples to illustrate your points.

Question 74

Explain difficulties experienced by a parentified child when his or her parent remarries.

Question 75

How do traditional gender roles work against stepfamilies?