Deck 9: Gendered Close Relationships

Question 1

The demand-withdraw pattern explains why sexual tension often exists in cross-sex friendships

Answer 1

False

Question 2

How do masculine people,often men,who are friends tend to build closeness?

A) share activities
B) talk about their friendship
C) engage in personal disclosure
D) engage in small talk
E) masculine people who are friends do not build closeness

Answer 2

A

Question 3

Kim surveyed her friends and found that,although her male and female friends both said that they made efforts to show others that they care for them,male friends were more likely to show caring through doing something for or with the person than to share a personal disclosure.Kim concluded that both males and females care,but they may show that in different ways.Kim's results confirm which theory?

A) Male deficit model
B) Alternate paths model
C) Ego boundaries theory
D) Bonding rituals
E) Relational dialectics

Answer 3

B

Question 4

Which of the following are features of feminine (often female)friendships.

A) They often contain covert intimacy.
B) Doing activities together is the primary way to build closeness.
C) The friends do things for each other to show that they care.
D) They are less likely than men's friendships to last if one friend moves away.
E) None of the above

Question 5

Lesbian and gay partners typically follow a dating script similar to those followed by heterosexual partners.

Question 6

Gay and lesbian relationships tend to follow a best-friend model with the additional dimensions of sexuality and romance.

Question 7

What explains the fact that in heterosexual co-habitating couples,women continue to do the bulk of the domestic labor?

A) gender ideologies
B) women's alternatives to relationships
C) equity
D) the ideology of "choice"
E) all of the above

Question 8

Regardless of sexual orientation,most couples have one partner that takes on most of the burden of caring for the relational health of the couple.

Question 9

Lesbian relationships tend to be ____.

A) nonmonogamous
B) low in disclosure and support
C) egalitarian in distributing responsibilities for maintaining the relationship
D) primarily based on doing things rather than talking
E) longer-lasting than heterosexual relationships

Question 10

Working women in heterosexual relationships typically engage in the majority of home and family care taking duties,which are frequently routine,repetitive,and constrained by deadlines.The term that this statement best defines is ____.

A) psychological responsibility
B) wonder woman syndrome
C) soccer mom
D) second-shift job
E) the Mommy Myth

Question 11

Which of the following statements reflects the beliefs of the male deficit model?

A) Men are less able than women to express their feelings.
B) There are multiple ways to build closeness.
C) Men are just as able as women to interpret and express their emotions.
D) Men tend to build closeness by doing things for one another.
E) All of the above.

Question 12

Emily feels that she and her partner Luke spend too much time together,and she wants more time for her individual interests and activities.Luke feels that they should spend most of their time with each other.The tension between them reflects ____.

A) tension over autonomy and connection
B) tension over bonding rituals
C) differences between desires for doing and talking
D) differences between desires for expression and instrumentality
E) none of the above

Question 13

Which of the following is true about non-romantic friendships between men and women?

A) For many women, a primary benefit of friendships with men is that they are emotionally closer than their friendships with women.
B) For many men, a primary benefit of friendships with women is that they are lighter and more fun than their friendships with men.
C) In friendships between women and men, men typically talk more and get more attention than they offer.
D) Non-romantic friendships between women and men have the advantage of being free from sexual tension.
E) Both women and men tend to seek out men in times of stress.

Question 14

Which of the following is true about romantic relationships?

A) Women tend to fall in love faster and harder than men.
B) Women perceive of love in terms of taking trips to romantic places, spontaneously making love, and surprising their partners.
C) In romantic relationships between women and men, attitudes toward sexual activity have undergone profound changes over the last several decades.
D) Women are more likely than men to focus on relationship dynamics.
E) All of the above.

Question 15

In heterosexual couples in which the woman earns substantially more than the man,the man performs the majority of household labor.

Question 16

Gender differences are apparent in the ways people manage conflict.Feminine people,in general,tend to respond to conflict by:

A) Defering or compromising to reduce tension.
B) Issuing ultimatums.
C) Refusing to listen or discuss an issue.
D) Asserting that the partner is blowing things out of proportion.
E) All of the above

Question 17

Both men and women are more satisfied in romantic relationships when their partner engages in intimate self-disclosure,gives emotionally supportive responses,and is sensitive and empathic.

Question 18

Typically,men do not value friendships as much as women.

Question 19

Lesbians report greater satisfaction with their romantic relationships than either gay men or heterosexuals.

Question 20

In cross-sex friendships,women generally talk less than men.

Question 21

Think about how you perceive your future long-term romantic relationship(s)(which may include a preference not to have one).How does your conception of long-term romantic relationships reflect or challenge gendered ideas of how romantic relationships should function.Be sure to draw on material from chapter 9 to answer this question.

Question 22

Identify the following:

-Co-rumination

Question 23

Identify the following:

-The Mommy Myth

Question 24

Identify the following:

-Second shift

Question 25

In the movie When Harry Met Sally,Harry says to Sally that men and women cannot be friends.Your book discusses some challenges and benefits of cross-sex friendships.Note at least two challenges and two benefits of cross-sex friendships.For each of the challenges you mention,note one way that friends could help to navigate that potential issue.

Question 26

Identify general patterns of similarities and difference in how masculine and feminine communication occurs within same sex friendship.(To make this question more challenging and integrate chapter 7 material,add: Explain how these differences grow out of gendered family socialization.)

Question 27

One way to pose questions for this (and several other)chapters is to present them as advice column questions,with the students being the "experts" who respond.Another similar option is to present a question as if it is the student's friend asking him/her for advice since the friend knows the student is in a Gender and Communication class.Students tend to enjoy these questions and they give them the opportunity to integrate the material in ways that are applicable to their lives.It is often helpful to integrate material from several chapters in the questions.Some examples include:

Question 28

Identify the following:

-Alternative paths model

Question 29

Reflect on a non-romantic,close,same-sex friendship.In what ways does your friendship match or deviate patterns of friendships described in the book?

Question 30

Identify the following:

-Male deficit model

Question 31

The author of your textbook writes that gendered orientations influence four dimensions of long-term love relationships: modes of expressing care,needs for autonomy and connection,responsibility for relational maintenance,and power.Discuss how heterosexual couples may differ from same-sex couples on two of the four dimensions.

Question 32

It is not unusual for women friends to talk explicitly about their relationship to one another.

Question 33

Identify the following:

-Covert intimacy

Question 34

Socialization into gendered speech communities can make it challenging for men and women to be friends.