Deck 4: Intimate Relationships and Communication

Question 1

The first relationships people form outside their families are

A)friendships.
B)professional relationships.
C)romantic relationships.
D)dependent relationships.

Answer 1

friendships.

Question 2

______________ includes the activities,abilities,and characteristics that our culture has deemed appropriate for us based on whether we are male or female.

A)Gender identity
B)Sexual identity
C)Sexual orientation
D)Gender role

Answer 2

Gender role

Question 3

Which of the following is NOT a characteristic of commitment?

A)responsibility
B)passion
C)reliability
D)faithfulness

Answer 3

passion

Question 4

Jealousy is

A)proof that love exists.
B)a harmless emotion.
C)a measure of insecurity.
D)unrelated to self-esteem.

Question 5

A common issue that can hurt a relationship is expecting

A)your partner to change.
B)that your partner loves you.
C)physical and emotional intimacy.
D)that you can trust your partner.

Question 6

Mindfulness can be cultivated by

A)speeding up our thought process.
B)planning and thinking ahead.
C)concentrating on multiple tasks.
D)maximizing awareness of our mind's operation.

Question 7

_____________ is an idealized or obsessive attraction toward another person.

A)Infatuation
B)Passion
C)Intimacy
D)Commitment

Question 8

Real friends

A)can be tense and unhappy with each other.
B)do not share each other's difficulties.
C)do not have to show respect for each other.
D)include passion in their relationship.

Question 9

_______________ is NOT a sign of an unhealthy relationship.

A)Physical or emotional abuse
B)Conflict
C)Codependency
D)Communicative withdrawal

Question 10

Intimate partnerships differ from friendships in that intimate partnerships

A)do not require exclusiveness.
B)are more accepting and less critical.
C)are more stable and enduring over time.
D)include the presence of sexual desire.

Question 11

Which of the following has been part of the change in attitudes and practices toward sex among Americans over the last few decades?

A)Most people no longer equate sex with love and commitment.
B)Americans have largely ceased to worry about the relationship between traditional norms and values and sex.
C)More Americans consider marriage to be the best arrangement for permissible sex.
D)Social norms are less of a determinant for those making decisions about sex.

Question 12

Of the following,which would be the longest-lasting element of successful love?

A)euphoria.
B)preoccupation with the loved one.
C)commitment.
D)idealization of the loved one.

Question 13

Which of the following is a recommended use of the period immediately following a breakup?

A)avoid making new friendships
B)reconnect with neglected acquaintances
C)focusing on helping others
D)engage in casual dating without investing in serious commitment

Question 14

Characteristics of friendships include all of the following EXCEPT

A)respect.
B)trust.
C)exclusivity.
D)loyalty.

Question 15

Emotional intelligence includes

A)responding impulsively to feelings.
B)responding reactively to feelings.
C)recognizing feelings as they occur.
D)rejecting all emotional support.

Question 16

Reciprocity refers to

A)give-and-take between friends.
B)mutual respect.
C)over-dependence.
D)sexual desire.

Question 17

The element that is LEAST characteristic of enduring love relationships is

A)a pursuit of common goals.
B)closeness to each other.
C)passion and intensity.
D)the promise of a shared future.

Question 18

The roots of our identity and sense of self are found in our

A)childhood.
B)peer group.
C)profession.
D)community.

Question 19

Anxious/avoidant relationships with parents may produce children who,when they reach adulthood,

A)find it easy to establish relationships.
B)are satisfied living a solitary lifestyle.
C)tend to stay married to the same person for a lifetime.
D)are inclined to run from relationships.

Question 20

Friendships usually include all of the following characteristics EXCEPT

A)companionship.
B)mutuality.
C)reciprocity.
D)sexual passion.

Question 21

Which of the following is NOT a component of good listening?

A)judging
B)respecting
C)empathy
D)genuineness

Question 22

Which of the following is NOT among the important guidelines for ending a relationship?

A)"Give the relationship a fair chance before breaking up."
B)"Be fair and honest."
C)"Be tactful."
D)"Move on as quickly as possible."

Question 23

The three keys of good communication in a relationship include all of the following EXECPT

A)negative criticism.
B)self-disclosure.
C)listening skills.
D)feedback skills.

Question 24

If you and your partner find that you argue again and again over the same issue,you should

A)seek professional help.
B)end the relationship.
C)accept the differences between you.
D)deal with the issue at another time.

Question 25

Your partner has expressed a desire to talk about his or her unhappiness with your relationship.You sit down together,and your partner begins to talk.Which of the following is a good strategy for you during this engagement?

A)Maintain eye contact and nod when appropriate.
B)Don't ask for help understanding,even if you don't comprehend what your partner is saying.
C)Offer advice about how your partner could better communicate.
D)Try to mentally prepare a reply that expresses your own needs while you partner communicates his or hers.

Question 26

All of the following are drawbacks to online relationships,EXCEPT that

A)people can misrepresent themselves.
B)people can communicate in a relaxed way.
C)investing emotional resources in an unrealistic romance may be painful.
D)the relationship may become dangerous.

Question 27

Once the euphoria of initial romance dies down,which of the following characteristics will help determine the quality and depth of the relationship with one's partner?

A)style of dress
B)physical attractiveness
C)general interests
D)future aspirations

Question 28

If you want to pursue an online relationship,

A)use sexually oriented websites that will get your message across.
B)hold out for a "perfect" partner;after all,you have thousands to choose from.
C)give out only your name and place of employment/school;never give out your phone number.
D)find out the other person's situation and intention for the relationship.

Question 29

In cultures where parent-arranged marriages are common,marriages are often

A)stable and permanent.
B)likely to end in divorce.
C)part of polygamous relationships.
D)contingent on the fertility of the partners.

Question 30

It appears that your partner may NOT be interested in what you are saying if he or she responds by

A)looking in your eyes.
B)touching your hand.
C)looking around the room.
D)leaning toward you as you speak.

Question 31

When you want to have a serious discussion with your partner,

A)do so immediately without preparation.
B)state your concern in a general,not too detailed way.
C)focus on the whole person,not just one behavior.
D)avoid blaming,accusing,or belittling him or her.

Question 32

Which of the following forms part of the basis for first attraction between two people?

A)values
B)appearance
C)religious affiliation
D)educational level

Question 33

_______________ is a constructive response to another's self-disclosure.

A)Criticism
B)Feedback
C)A nonverbal cue
D)Issue clarification

Question 34

Of the following,which is the MOST constructive conflict resolution strategy?

A)providing selective information to minimize conflict
B)identifying options to get what each person wants
C)keeping track of who "wins" and who "loses"
D)using sexual intimacy to smooth over disagreements

Question 35

One advantage cohabitation has over marriage is that

A)the health insurance benefits are better.
B)most societies are prefer cohabitation.
C)inheritance rights are better.
D)partners have a greater sense of autonomy.

Question 36

All of the following are steps in effective conflict resolution EXCEPT

A)clarifying the issue.
B)finding out what each person wants.
C)not giving in to compromise.
D)reviewing and negotiating.

Question 37

The most important question for potential mates is likely

A)"How much money do you make?"
B)"How much do we have in common?"
C)"How attractive are you?"
D)"Will your parents like me?"

Question 38

Which of the following factors is NOT associated with the increasing popularity of cohabitation?

A)increased availability of contraceptives
B)younger average age at marriage
C)greater social acceptance of premarital sex
D)a larger pool of single and divorced people

Question 39

Which of the following is NOT a constructive strategy for conflict resolution?

A)finding out what the other person wants
B)clarifying the issue
C)reviewing and renegotiating
D)issuing an ultimatum

Question 40

"Revealing personal information that we ordinarily wouldn't reveal because of the risk involved" describes

A)nonverbal communication.
B)self-disclosure.
C)feedback.
D)constructive listening.

Question 41

Approximately what percentage of divorced people marry again?

A)15 percent
B)50 percent
C)75 percent
D)95 percent

Question 42

Sexual orientation is best described as

A)sexual attraction to individuals of the opposite sex.
B)one's choice of sexual partner.
C)a consistent pattern of emotional and sexual attraction based on biological sex.
D)one's preference regarding the type of sexual activity in which one wants to engage.

Question 43

Evidence seems to indicate that children in single-parent families are more likely to

A)demonstrate self-confidence.
B)have academic difficulty.
C)avoid relationships with others.
D)have early professional success.

Question 44

Which of the following is NOT a characteristic that helps couples avoid marital dissatisfaction after the birth of a baby?

A)having a strong relationship before the baby is born
B)earning a high annual income
C)planning for the birth of the child beforehand
D)communicating about feelings and expectations

Question 45

The high American divorce rate is probably the result of

A)high emotional expectations of marriage.
B)a growing need to be independent.
C)increased mobility in our society.
D)the trend of marrying at younger ages.

Question 46

After a divorce occurs,the recovery period usually does not start for about

A)three months after the divorce.
B)six months after the divorce.
C)one year after the divorce.
D)one month for every year of marriage.

Question 47

The birth of the first child is most likely to

A)cause very little change in a marriage.
B)reinforce traditional marital roles.
C)cause an equal degree of change for fathers and mothers.
D)reduce relationship stress.

Question 48

Which of the following is NOT one of the general identified parenting styles?

A)authoritarian
B)authoritative
C)permissive
D)absent

Question 49

Which of the following statements about same-sex relationships is TRUE?

A)Queer couples are less love-driven when pursuing committed relationships.
B)Same-sex couples tend to place greater emphasis on role assignments than heterosexual couples.
C)Those in queer partnerships have to deal with more societal hostility than those in heterosexual relationships.
D)The use of the word "queer" tends to reference male same-sex relationships.

Question 50

Commitment is based on

A)the level of romance in a relationship.
B)conscious choice.
C)the amount of sexual intimacy in a relationship.
D)feelings and emotions.

Question 51

Family rituals can best be described as

A)methods by which parents control their children.
B)ceremonies performed for religious reasons.
C)traditions that build family ties.
D)regularly repeated daily activities.

Question 52

Which of the following statements about gender roles in marriage is FALSE?

A)Married women,even those who work,do most of the domestic tasks.
B)Married men suffer more job-related stress than married women.
C)Society is moving toward equalization of responsibilities in marriages.
D)Married men have assumed an equal share of child-care responsibilities.

Question 53

One difference between heterosexual and homosexual couples is that same-sex partnerships tend to

A)be more egalitarian.
B)have clearly defined roles for each partner.
C)have one partner provide for the other financially.
D)have special legal protections.

Question 54

The divorce process usually begins with

A)legal separation.
B)emotional separation.
C)physical separation.
D)social isolation.

Question 55

The primary problems for single-parent families headed by women are

A)social.
B)academic.
C)religious.
D)economic.

Question 56

Which of the following is NOT a predictor of happy marriage?

A)good communication
B)previous positive sexual experience
C)agreement on religious values
D)feeling good about the personality of the other

Question 57

All of the following contribute to the increasing popularity of singlehood EXCEPT

A)career goals.
B)the desire for financial independence.
C)greater sexual freedom.
D)low divorce rates.

Question 58

During what time of child development and growth is marital satisfaction most likely to increase?

A)when the last child leaves home
B)when the child is in elementary school
C)during the infant and toddler stage
D)when the child is in high school

Question 59

Today,most people marry mainly

A)to form an economic unit.
B)to raise children.
C)for personal,emotional reasons.
D)for a greater sense of autonomy.

Question 60

Legally,marital status affects all of the following EXCEPT

A)Social Security benefits.
B)federal tax status.
C)medical decision making.
D)the right to use contraceptives.

Question 61

If you are the rejected person in a failed relationship,you should go out and begin a new relationship immediately.

Question 62

The foundation of most relationships is sexual compatibility.

Question 63

It is possible to work on unresolved,past issues within an adult relationship.

Question 64

If Jake and Sally marry without changes in the basic elements of their relationship,the marriage may end in divorce because

A)Jake is not supportive of Sally.
B)they made a premature commitment,with one partner more serious than the other.
C)Jake values his friends more than he does Sally.
D)Sally has become too competitive in the relationship and is unwilling to compromise on her position.

Question 65

Intense passion is required for love to endure.

Question 66

Our adult styles of loving may be based on the type of attachment we established in infancy with our mothers,fathers,or other caregivers.

Question 67

Intimacy and sex are the same.

Question 68

Current research reveals that men and women find it equally easy to separate love and sex.

Question 69

Sally's jealousy could be an indicator of

A)possessiveness.
B)love.
C)intimacy.
D)commitment.

Question 70

A helpful skill in relationships is to be able to observe our emotions without judging them or immediately acting on them.

Question 71

Lovers are usually more accepting and less critical than friends.

Question 72

Which of the following statements about the major qualities that usually appear in strong American families is FALSE?

A)Family members rarely seek counseling.
B)Family members express appreciation for one another.
C)Family members communicate with one another.
D)Family members share a sense of spiritual wellness.

Question 73

Having the conviction that you are always right is harmless competitiveness.

Question 74

People who have a positive self-concept are more likely to develop successful intimate relationships.

Question 75

Tone of voice is the most accurate conveyer of a person's emotional state.

Question 76

The satisfaction in a relationship may increase when the intensity and excitement of initial passionate love subsides.

Question 77

In order to develop an identity as a couple,individuals need to lose some autonomy.

Question 78

Violence in dating and marriage relationships can be precipitated by jealousy.

Question 79

Out of necessity,commitment and passion do diminish over time.

Question 80

If Jake begins to spend too much time with his friends,what must he come to understand about a committed relationship if he wants it to work?

A)that taking breaks from each other is not incompatible with a having a committed relationship
B)that Sally must learn to accept that his lifestyle is part of his personality
C)that a successful relationship will require him to give up some autonomy
D)that Sally should be encouraged to spend more time with her friends