Deck 8: Love and Communication in Intimate Relationships

Question 1

Which of the following statements regarding love is TRUE?

A)Love is a relatively simple emotion.
B)Love occurs universally across cultures.
C)Love,by strict definition,cannot occur in gay or lesbian relationships.
D)Love is a more important emotion in western civilization than in more primitive societies.

Answer 1

B

Question 2

What seems to be the most important determinant of sexual satisfaction?

A)communication skills
B)sexual experience
C)love,in combination with intimacy,commitment,and equality
D)trust and understanding

Answer 2

C

Question 3

Approximately ___ percent of same-sex unmarried households contain children.

A)10
B)20
C)30
D)40

Answer 3

D

Question 4

The notion that same sex relationships are atypical or psychologically immature is

A)supported by a recent ten year longitudinal study.
B)not supported by research.
C)has not been studied by researchers due to the difficulties of obtaining a sample.
D)neither supported nor refuted.Research findings are conflicted.

Question 5

Which of the following types of couples has sex MOST often?

A)gay men
B)lesbians
C)heterosexuals
D)Gender and sexual orientation are not associated with differences in sexual frequency.

Question 6

Researchers have found that women

A)view sex and love as separate and distinct.
B)generally seek emotional relationships.
C)promise sex to elicit statements of love from partners.
D)are aroused by pushy,forceful male behavior.

Question 7

Which of the following types of couples has sex LEAST often?

A)gay men
B)lesbians
C)heterosexuals
D)Gender and sexual orientation are not associated with differences in sexual frequency.

Question 8

Abby has no sexual attraction to males or females.Abby might be called

A)asexual.
B)celibate.
C)despondent.
D)antisocial.

Question 9

It is _____________ that love is important to gay men and lesbian women.

A)rarely acknowledged
B)well documented
C)counterintuitive
D)heterosexist to suggest

Question 10

In a large sample of over six thousand young adults in the United States,the factors which were most associated with long-term committed relationships were

A)acceptance of each other and similar religious values.
B)high levels of love and varied sexual behaviors.
C)outside social support and the health of their parents' relationships.
D)trust and sexual frequency.

Question 11

When couples were asked to talk about difficult issues,which couples were less likely to make up afterwards?

A)newly married heterosexual couples
B)unmarried heterosexual couples
C)lesbian couples
D)gay male couples

Question 12

Ellen and Marcia are a lesbian couple in a committed relationship.They have a daughter who lives with them.What percentage of Americans would not consider them to be a family?

A)10
B)25
C)50
D)75

Question 13

According to research,what similarity is there between friendship and love?

A)levels of acceptance and satisfaction
B)levels of confiding and spontaneity
C)trust and understanding
D)All of these

Question 14

Which of the following was found by researchers to differentiate love from friendship?

A)levels of acceptance and satisfaction
B)levels of confiding and spontaneity
C)fascination and exclusiveness
D)trust and understanding

Question 15

Jean has decided to give up every kind of sexual activity for three months.This choice is best described as

A)abstinence.
B)chastity.
C)celibacy.
D)dysfunctionality.

Question 16

People who _______________________ are more likely to be sexually involved than ___________________.

A)share power equally;people in inequitable relationships
B)have parents who are still married;people with divorced parents
C)are over forty years of age;people in their twenties
D)are gay or lesbian;people who are heterosexual

Question 17

Cara has abstained from all sexual activity since she and her fiancé broke up last year.Cara is practicing

A)celibacy.
B)asexuality.
C)protective abstinence.
D)all of these

Question 18

Asexuality occurs in ____ % of the population.

A)1
B)2
C)5
D)7

Question 19

Which of the following statements about love is accurate?

A)Love completes an individual.
B)When there is real love between two people,it conquers all differences.
C)The dark side of love is "anger and frustration."
D)Love refers to both a subjective feeling and an activity.

Question 20

Researchers have found that men are more likely than women to

A)have feelings of love diminish after repeated sexual encounters with a particular person.
B)separate sex and love.
C)feel that sex without love and affection is not enjoyable.
D)associate love with self-esteem.

Question 21

The area of the brain associated with feelings of love is

A)the hypothalamus
B)the hippocampes
C)ventral tegmental area
D)occipital lobe

Question 22

Which of the following is NOT an element of love according to Sternberg?

A)arousal
B)passion
C)commitment
D)intimacy

Question 23

Which statement best reflects the core idea of attachment theory?

A)For a love relationship to endure,there must be a balance between love,commitment,and passion.
B)Feelings of love are due to physiological arousal and the labeling of that feeling as love.
C)One can distinguish among six types of love.
D)Adult love relationships replicate the qualities of the infant/caregiver bond.

Question 24

Researchers studying the science of love have found that the act of _____________ triggers and sends a flood of chemicals which trigger feelings of closeness.

A)kissing
B)hugging
C)breast feeding
D)anal sex

Question 25

According to Helen Fisher,_______________ has been found to stimulate feelings of attraction.

A)dopamine
B)epinepherine
C)seratonin
D)norepinepherine

Question 26

Brianna and Aiden have known each other since high school.After many years of marriage,they divorce.Nonetheless,they continue to be involved in each other's lives and rely on each other in times of need.This relationship is an example of which type of love?

A)agape
B)pragma
C)storge
D)eros

Question 27

Jerome is a very successful minister.He makes himself very available to his congregation and there is a strong feeling of bonding and community among the members.This description comes closest to which type of love?

A)ludus
B)pragma
C)storge
D)agape

Question 28

Carmen often complains that the men she meets are distant and cannot commit to her.She falls in love easily and is very sexual.Her relationships are marked by extremes of happiness,jealousy,and dark despair.Most likely,Shaver and his colleagues would classify her as

A)secure.
B)anxious/ambivalent.
C)avoidant.
D)manic.

Question 29

Maribel and Lina no longer feel passion toward each other but are committed and happy with each other.According to the triangular theory of love,

A)they have a more mature relationship.
B)they like rather than love each other.
C)their love is more companionate.
D)their love is more romantic.

Question 30

Throughout the semester,a couple spends every moment entwined together.They see required classes as interruptions to their lovemaking.This is an example of which type of love?

A)eros
B)pragma
C)storge
D)agape

Question 31

According to Sternberg,all of the following are aspects of intimacy EXCEPT

A)mutual understanding.
B)the sharing of self and possessions.
C)mutual emotional support.
D)self-sacrifice.

Question 32

As a child,Sean usually played quietly when his mother left him.He felt confident of her return and happily greeted her.As an adult,Sean feels very comfortable with the fact that his wife is a public figure and must travel often.He trusts her completely.Sean's attachment style is most accurately described as

A)indifferent.
B)confident.
C)secure.
D)consummate.

Question 33

After meeting on a summer vacation,Mark and Elena fall deeply in love.A few weeks later they become engaged and move in together.This is an example of ______________ love.

A)mature
B)consummate
C)companionate
D)fatuous

Question 34

Which item best reflects the concept of commitment in love?

A)deciding you love someone
B)communicating your love and affection
C)acting to maintain love in a relationship
D)asking for emotional support

Question 35

After several dates,Marcos is enthralled with Ben.They call each other several times a day and never spend an evening or a night apart.Once,when Marcos called and a roommate said Ben could not come to the phone,Marcos felt devastated and was sure Ben had lost interest.This is an example of which type of love?

A)eros
B)ludus
C)mania
D)storge

Question 36

Eric sees himself as the ultimate playboy.Each week he meets a new woman and is extremely attentive,affectionate,and charming until he has sex with her.He then quickly begins thinking of his next challenge.This behavior exemplifies which type of love?

A)ludus
B)mania
C)storge
D)agape

Question 37

Connie and Eduardo are getting married because,"it's time that we did so." They are moving into a tiny,no-charm apartment because "it's near our jobs,and is cheap." For their honeymoon,they visit a cousin in another town because "we would rather put the money toward mutual funds." This couple's love is best described by the term

A)pragma.
B)agape.
C)storge.
D)mania.

Question 38

Which kind of love is considered ideal but very difficult to maintain?

A)companionate
B)romantic
C)consummate
D)fatuous

Question 39

Which of the following does NOT typify the securely attached adult?

A)belief in the longevity of romantic love
B)comfort with others getting close
C)skepticism regarding media images of love
D)acceptance and support for partners

Question 40

Lee's storgic love has the same characteristics as Sternberg's ______________ love.

A)companionate
B)consummate
C)romantic
D)fatuous

Question 41

______________ is the process through which symbols,words,gestures,and movements are used to establish human contact,exchange information,and reinforce or change our attitudes and behaviors and those of others.

A)Conflict resolution
B)Communication
C)Confrontation
D)Transactional analysis

Question 42

When are we not communicating when in the presence of another person?

A)when we are silent
B)never
C)when we grunt and sigh
D)when we refuse to answer a question

Question 43

The distance that two individuals keep as they engage in face-to-face interaction

A)reveals the status differences between them.
B)indicates how the participants want to define the relationship.
C)is a reflection of age differences.
D)lets each of them know the mood of the other.

Question 44

The most dramatic increase in the rates of extradyadic relations was found in

A)men between the ages of 65 and 90
B)men between the ages of 20 and 25
C)women between the ages of 35 and 50
D)women between the ages of 45 and 60

Question 45

Which of the following terms refer to a marriage in which partners mutually agree to allow sexual contact with others?

A)open marriage
B)contractual marriage
C)consensual marriage
D)mutuality marriage

Question 46

Extending mutual eye contact a bit beyond the norm is usually a sign of

A)fear.
B)threat.
C)arousal.
D)interest.

Question 47

The biggest problem with nonverbal communication is

A)its lack of precision.
B)that it does not communicate emotion.
C)that there are very few ways to communicate nonverbally.
D)that it will not be noticed by other people.

Question 48

Jane moved to Mexico with her company.For the first several months,she found social gatherings rather unpleasant because she found that Latino men were always trying to invade her personal space.Most likely,what was happening here?

A)It is a cultural norm to approach and flirt with all seemingly unattached females.
B)Latino men's sense of masculinity depends on their ability to dominate and control women.
C)These men were actually trying to threaten her,not flirt with her.
D)The norm for interpersonal proximity may be less for Latinos than for Anglos.

Question 49

Which of the following statements about touching is NOT accurate?

A)Touch may be the closest form of nonverbal communication.
B)Touching behaviors differ across cultural and ethnic groups.
C)Touch is a life-giving force for infants,who can die without it.
D)People who touch a lot are less likely to talk about themselves.

Question 50

Which of the following refers to the concept of the "social context of communication"?

A)roles
B)ethnicity
C)personality
D)relationship dysfunctions

Question 51

Which of the following statements accurately reflects a positive aspect of jealousy?

A)Jealousy is an indication of the depth of a person's love for another.
B)Jealousy can enrich relationships and spark passion by increasing attention.
C)The pain of jealousy helps a couple get in touch with their passionate feelings.
D)As people care about each other more,feelings of jealousy are likely to increase.

Question 52

______________ is a person's position or ranking in a group relative to others.

A)Role
B)Status
C)Culture
D)Subculture

Question 53

Proximity in a relationship communicates

A)a level of intimacy or relationship.
B)our mood.
C)our degree of self-confidence.
D)who is the most powerful person in the relationship.

Question 54

Which of the following has the greatest impact on the psychological context of communication in regards to sex?

A)gender role
B)status
C)race and ethnicity
D)personality

Question 55

Jealousy in a relationship is most often an indication of

A)love.
B)commitment.
C)devotion.
D)insecurity.

Question 56

______________ is the sexual or romantic relationships outside of a primary or dating couple.

A)Extradyadic involvement
B)Enmeshment
C)Boundary Bending
D)Extra-intimate love

Question 57

Research on the brains of love-struck men and women have found that in male brains,there is more activity in the area that ________________,while in women there is more activity in the area that _____________________.

A)governs gross motor activity;that controls heartbeat
B)is associated with math and science ability;governs appetite
C)integrates visual stimuli;governs memories
D)governs appetite;integrates visual stimuli

Question 58

Which of these is NOT a type of nonexclusive partnership?

A)open marriage
B)swinging
C)polyamory
D)All of these are types of nonexclusive partnerships.

Question 59

Jealous responses are most common in

A)married couples
B)cohabiting couples
C)unmarried,cohabitating couples
D)single,uncommitted couples

Question 60

What percent of Americans had at least one concurrent or extradyadic sexual relationship in the previous twelve months?

A)2%
B)11%
C)15%
D)21%

Question 61

Constructive feedback is likely to produce

A)understanding.
B)defensiveness.
C)distrust.
D)misunderstanding.

Question 62

The assumption that attractive people have more desirable social characteristics is called

A)self-serving bias.
B)the halo effect.
C)self-fulfilling prophecy.
D)a sexual attribution.

Question 63

Which of the following is NOT true concerning communication in established relationships?

A)The couple develops a shared sexual script.
B)Women overtly initiate sexual encounters as frequently as men.
C)Women continue to signal their willingness with nonverbal cues.
D)Sexual communication becomes increasingly overt and direct.

Question 64

Couples satisfied with their relationships do NOT demonstrate which of the following patterns in their communications?

A)revelation of only positive thoughts and feelings to each other
B)accurate encoding and decoding of nonverbal messages
C)approximately an equal level of affective disclosures
D)attempts to engage in conflict in nondestructive ways

Question 65

Before beginning a sexual relationship,Penny would be wise to assess her partner's

A)social status.
B)white blood count.
C)power issues.
D)sex history.

Question 66

What is trust?

A)a belief in the integrity of another
B)a promise not to hurt another
C)love
D)honesty

Question 67

Researchers have found that gay men tend to place less emphasis on sexual exclusiveness in their relationships.

Question 68

Men and women in satisfied relationships tend to have all of the following characteristics EXCEPT

A)the ability to reveal private thoughts or feelings to each other.
B)a willingness to accept conflict in the relationship.
C)the ability to encode and decode messages accurately to each other.
D)the ability to avoid potentially sensitive conflicting subjects.

Question 69

Which of these is an example of a kind of argument which might affect the health of a woman?

A)a dispute over whether the couple should buy a new car
B)an argument in which the husband is verbally hostile
C)a disagreement about children
D)All of these would affect the woman equally.

Question 70

Relationships in which people share power equally are more likely to be sexually involved than those in inequitable relationships.

Question 71

Through the process of ________________,we reveal ourselves to our partner,and may even learn about ourselves.

A)extradyadic relationships
B)flirting
C)feedback
D)self-disclosure

Question 72

The sense most involved in sexual intimacy is

A)sight.
B)sound.
C)touch.
D)smell.

Question 73

Habib has been telling Sarah that he has been worrying about their communication.Throughout this process,Sarah asks him questions so she can clearly understand what he's saying.Sarah is demonstrating

A)feedback.
B)self-centeredness.
C)agape communication.
D)"I messages."

Question 74

What are the differences in terms of how homosexuals and heterosexuals communicate about sexual interest?

A)Gay men and lesbians prefer very direct communication about sexual interest.
B)Gay men and lesbians cannot necessarily make assumptions about the sexual orientation of people they are interested in,and so must search for clues.
C)Physical appearance is of greater importance among lesbians and gay men.
D)Both lesbians and gay men are more likely to initiate sexual activity much earlier in the relationship,compared to heterosexual couples.

Question 75

Which of the following is NOT one of Gottman's seven principles for a good relationship?

A)Let your partner influence you.
B)Create shared meaning,
C)Work on solving your unsolvable problems.
D)Overcome gridlock.

Question 76

Men are more likely than women to separate sex from affection.

Question 77

At a party,Dave sees Barbara and approaches her.She smiles and flips her hair.What message is Barbara likely sending to Dave?

A)I'm not interested,don't come any closer.
B)I'm interested,let's talk.
C)I'm involved with someone,maybe another time.
D)I am a lesbian and am not interested in a relationship with a man.

Question 78

Which of the following is NOT one of Gottman's seven principles for a good relationship?

A)Nurture fondness and admiration.
B)Be yourself;don't let your partner influence you.
C)Enhance your love map.
D)Turn toward each other.

Question 79

Which of these is an example of a kind of argument which might affect the health of a man?

A)a dispute over whether who should pay the bills and have control over the couple's finances
B)an argument about who lost the keys
C)a disagreement about children
D)All of these would affect the man equally.

Question 80

The ongoing process of restating,checking the accuracy of,questioning,and clarifying messages is called

A)self-disclosure.
B)reaction tempering.
C)building empathy.
D)feedback.