Deck 4: Intimate Relationships

Question 1

Carlos and Charlie share a strong sexual bond and work hard to make their relationship last over the long term.According to Sternberg's triangular theory of love,this couple is experiencing _______.

A) empty love
B) fatuous love
C) companionate love
D) romantic love

Answer 1

B

Question 2

While talking,Ken and Louis periodically turn toward to each other.Ken and Louis are in the _______ stage of flirting.

A) swivel and turn
B) touch
C) synchronization
D) approach

Answer 2

A

Question 3

Which of the following is the correct order for the five steps of flirting?

A) approach, talk, swivel and turn, touch, synchronization
B) talk, swivel and turn, approach, touch, synchronization
C) swivel and turn, approach, synchronization, touch, talk
D) synchronization, approach, swivel and turn, talk, touch

Answer 3

A

Question 4

Stephanie has been married for five years.She and her husband enjoy intimacy and passion,but their relationship lacks a sense of commitment.According to the triangular theory of love,this couple is experiencing _______.

A) empty love
B) fatuous love
C) companionate love
D) romantic love

Question 5

According to the _______,humans have a natural tendency to grow fonder of a novel stimulus the more they are exposed to it.

A) proximity effect
B) mere exposure effect
C) matching hypothesis
D) field of eligibles theory

Question 6

According to Sternberg's triangular theory of love,the three fundamental components of love are _______.

A) intimacy, infatuation, and passion
B) passion, commitment, and infatuation
C) intimacy, passion, and commitment
D) passion, liking, and infatuation

Question 7

What is meant by the term reciprocity of attraction?

A) People tend to love their partner unconditionally.
B) People tend to love those with higher self-esteem.
C) People need to feel that their partner returns a similar level of affection.
D) People need to feel worthy of their partner's love.

Question 8

Bart is seeking a potential romantic partner who is between 25 and 35 years of age.All individuals who meet Bart's criteria are referred to as _______.

A) being within his proximity
B) achieving synchronization
C) his field of eligibles
D) realizing selection similarity

Question 9

Which of the following statement about flirting behaviors is true?

A) Flirting is more common in Western societies.
B) Flirting usually begins when a man touches a woman's arm or shoulder.
C) Flirting behaviors vary widely from society to society.
D) Flirting behaviors are similar in all humans and usually follow predictable patterns.

Question 10

In the 1700s,marriages were _______.

A) motivated by love and intimacy
B) motivated by a couple's desire to make a lasting commitment
C) formed based on the decision of the couple
D) formed to increase the wealth of both families

Question 11

Quincy and Roberta have a sexually charged relationship,know little about each other,and have no interest in pursuing each other as long-term partners.According to the triangular theory of love,this relationship is based on _______.

A) intimacy
B) commitment
C) romance
D) infatuation

Question 12

According to the matching hypothesis,people _______.

A) seek out others who have had similar life experiences
B) seek out others who have characteristics similar to their own
C) are attracted to others who live and work in their geographical area
D) are attracted to others who share their level of physical attractiveness

Question 13

Ana is a 25-year-old unmarried female.If living during the 1700s,Ana would _______.

A) be forced to pay a "singles" tax
B) be considered unmarriageable
C) engage in bundling in order to find a mate
D) raise her sibling's children

Question 14

When a man and a woman are flirting with each other,it's usually the woman who _______.

A) talks more than the man
B) approaches the man to begin a conversation
C) initiates the first touch
D) ends the flirtation

Question 15

Which of the following is a research finding about the effects of physical attractiveness?

A) Attractive children are less popular with both classmates and teachers.
B) Attractive applicants are paid less than their less attractive colleagues.
C) Attractive people are found guilty less often in court.
D) Attractive people are responded to less favorably in public than lesser attractive people.

Question 16

According to the triangular theory of love,which type of love is based on commitment only?

A) empty love
B) fatuous love
C) companionate love
D) consummate love

Question 17

People are more apt to become romantically involved with others who _______.

A) possess characteristics different from their own
B) possess characteristics similar to their own
C) live in a state other than their own
D) are more attractive than themselves

Question 18

Janette is in a bar and is making eye contact with a man across the room.Janette is in the _______ stage of flirting.

A) synchronization
B) approach
C) touch
D) swivel and turn

Question 19

"Bundling" was a method used for _______.

A) hurrying the courtship process
B) prolonging intimacy
C) identifying unmarriageable women
D) forcing unmarried men to pay a bachelorhood tax

Question 20

Which of the following is an example of the proximity effect?

A) Carla and Dan attended the same college and married each other.
B) Erin is attracted to Francine because they look alike.
C) Greg and Geoff are friends because they both like baseball.
D) Helga and Ian have very wealthy parents.

Question 21

Xavier and Yolanda solve conflict by fighting until they reach a conclusion both can accept.What does Gottman call this type of communication?

A) volatile
B) validating
C) conflict-avoiding
D) self-disclosing

Question 22

Violet and Vicky have a relationship that possesses intimacy,passion,and commitment.According to the triangular theory of love,what type of love includes these components?

A) consummate love
B) fatuous love
C) companionate love
D) romantic love

Question 23

Pauline strives to give her partner whatever he wants without the expectation of receiving anything in return.According to the styles of love theory,Pauline is engaging in _______ love.

A) mania
B) agape
C) storge
D) pragma

Question 24

Which theory states that people follow individual psychological motifs in relating to a love partner?

A) styles of love
B) triangular theory of love
C) field of eligibles
D) proximity effects

Question 25

Which of the following describes Gottman's conflict-avoiding communication style?

A) conflicts are resolved through calm discussion
B) conflicts are resolved by fighting them out
C) conflicts are resolved by reaching a mutually acceptable conclusion
D) conflicts are downplayed and resolution is not important

Question 26

According to the styles of love theory,selecting partners in a businesslike way is characteristic of _______ love.

A) eros
B) agape
C) storge
D) pragma

Question 27

According to Gottman,couples that use _______ communication resolve conflicts through calm discussion and compromise.

A) volatile
B) validating
C) conflict-avoiding
D) self-disclosing

Question 28

Zora and Anthony insult each other to the point that their interactions are abusive.According to Gottman,Zora and Anthony use _______ as their main communication style.

A) defensiveness
B) criticism
C) contempt
D) stonewalling

Question 29

While attending a conference,Morris meets Noemi,and they immediately become lovers.Although they feel very passionate about each other,their relationship may not last very long.This is an example of which style of love?

A) eros
B) ludus
C) storge
D) agape

Question 30

According to the styles of love theory,storge love is characterized by _______.

A) passion
B) intimacy
C) friendship
D) selflessness

Question 31

According to Gottman,complaining is _______.

A) healthy because it is an expression of one's needs
B) unhealthy because it is a form of blaming
C) unhealthy because it expresses disrespect
D) healthy because it leads to stonewalling

Question 32

When Oliver meets a new woman,he is extremely attentive,affectionate,and charming until he has sex with her.He then quickly becomes bored and begins thinking of his next challenge.His behavior is an example of _______ love.

A) mania
B) ludus
C) storge
D) agape

Question 33

Sexual self-disclosure _________________________________________.

A) promotes conversation about sexual likes, desires and turn -on's so that discussion of dislikes, concerns, and negative past experiences can be avoided.
B) is recognized as a unique strength of most Western cultures.
C) is unnecessary since intuition should be enough to understand one's intimate partner without taking the mystery out of the relationship.
D) allows for the sharing of information important for reducing risky sexual behaviors and leading to greater health and safety for both partners.

Question 34

According to the styles of love theory,what is mania love?

A) a love based on passion and eroticism
B) a selfless, unconditional type of love
C) a possessive, dependent type of love
D) a love based on caring and friendship

Question 35

According to Gottman,it is _______ that determines the happiness and success of a relationship.

A) how much a couple fights and argues
B) a couple's style of fighting and arguing
C) the level of passion in the relationship
D) the amount of romance in the relationship

Question 36

Ted and Ursula are truly committed to each other and enjoy intimacy,but have lost the passion in their relationship.According to the triangular theory of love,what type of love lacks passion?

A) consummate love
B) fatuous love
C) companionate love
D) romantic love

Question 37

According to Gottman,_______ allows each partner to deny responsibility for the problems that are causing conflict.

A) defensiveness
B) criticism
C) contempt
D) stonewalling

Question 38

Beatrice becomes unresponsive and withdraws during disputes with her partner.According to Gottman,this is an example of _______.

A) stonewalling
B) defensiveness
C) contempt
D) criticism

Question 39

According to the textbook,the amount of self-disclosure a person engages in is usually a function of their _______.

A) initial physical attraction to another person
B) need to be in a relationship
C) level of self-confidence
D) perceived closeness of the relationship

Question 40

According to Gottman,_______ is the result of blaming an unmet need on one's partner.

A) complaining
B) criticism
C) contempt
D) controlling

Question 41

According to the textbook,acceptance of sexual myths and stereotypes can sabotage a relationship because they _______.

A) lead to low self-esteem and overdependence
B) cause an imbalance in decision-making power
C) lead to false expectations
D) cause one partner to control another

Question 42

Which of the following is the most common type of relationship violence?

A) men against men
B) men against women
C) women against women
D) women against men

Question 43

Which of the following statements about jealousy is true?

A) It should be a part of every relationship.
B) Men are usually more jealous than women.
C) It's a sign of true love.
D) It is one of the most frequent causes of the breakup of romantic relationships.

Question 44

The most serious outcome of a controlling relationship is ________.

A) violence
B) loss of personal freedom
C) isolation
D) frequent arguments

Question 45

Which of the following is one of Markman,Stanley,and Bloomberg's "five keys" to understanding intimate communication?

A) When a relationship is failing, there is no hope.
B) Only large changes can lead to huge changes.
C) Each partner must take his or her share of the responsibility for making the relationship work.
D) Relationship skills come naturally.

Question 46

As soon as John and Alma started sleeping together,it became apparent that John knows much more about sex than Alma does.John should _______.

A) take an understanding and gentle approach when discussing sexual issues with Alma
B) leave Alma and find someone who knows more about sex
C) suggest that Alma take a course in human sexuality
D) be patient; Alma will catch on eventually

Question 47

In their five rules for enhancing intimate communication,what do Notarius and Markman mean by using the "speaker-listener tool" when discussing relationship problems?

A) Only the partner who has the floor may speak, and the other must listen attentively.
B) Each partner can take a break from the discussion at any time.
C) Each person must focus on his or her feelings and their role in the problem.
D) The couple must try to stay on one topic at a time.

Question 48

In addition to their five rules for enhancing intimate communication,Notarius and Markman also emphasized that one of the most important attributes of successful relationships is _______.

A) shared interests
B) politeness
C) the ability to forgive and forget
D) financial security

Question 49

Frances is incessantly suspicious of her partner even though her partner is extremely faithful.Frances is experiencing _______ jealousy.

A) normal
B) pathological
C) control
D) excessive

Question 50

Which of the following is the most common type of relationship violence?

A) male perpetrator and male victim
B) male perpetrator and female victim
C) female perpetrator and female victim
D) female perpetrator and male victim

Question 51

People with low self-esteem are prone to _______ in relationships.

A) overdependence
B) independence
C) promiscuity
D) aggression

Question 52

In their five rules for enhancing intimate communication,Notarius and Markman state that _______.

A) each partner can call for a break at any time
B) couples should never take a break until the argument is finished
C) couples should drop the subject if they can't come to a solution within 30 minutes
D) couples should ask for help from a third person if the discussion turns into an argument

Question 53

_______ is an important component of intimacy and is related to relationship success and happiness.

A) Stonewalling
B) Sexual self-disclosure
C) Complaining
D) Conflict-avoiding

Question 54

According to Notarius and Markman's five rules for enhancing intimate communication,it is recommended that couples should _______.

A) only fight about important matters
B) learn to become more aggressive in expressing their needs
C) promise to never raise their voices during an argument
D) incorporate couples meetings into their relationship

Question 55

For some people,the embarrassment of talking about explicit sexual topics is so great,especially when the topic under discussion relates to themselves,that they _______.

A) end the relationship rather than disclose personal sexual information
B) have to seek counseling in order to discuss such topics
C) should practice discussing such topics with someone they know very well
D) should just get over it

Question 56

Griselda and Gilberto are trying to communicate more effectively with each other when a problem arises.According to Notarius and Markman's five rules for enhancing intimate communication,which of the following is a technique they can use?

A) focus only on the problem
B) force each other to discuss the problem
C) talk without taking a break until the problem is resolved
D) identify the person who is at fault and hold them accountable

Question 57

Georgina is extremely controlling and requires her partner to call her every hour to report her whereabouts.Based on the information from the textbook,Georgina _______.

A) was probably very spoiled as a child
B) probably has low self-esteem
C) is probably extremely independent
D) is probably too caring

Question 58

_______ jealousy is based on a real threat to the relationship.

A) Normal
B) Delusional
C) Control
D) Excessive

Question 59

Eduardo is unable to communicate his dissatisfaction with the sexual side of his relationship with his partner.According to the text,what might be a common outcome in this type of situation?

A) loss of trust
B) withdrawal
C) infidelity
D) frustration

Question 60

One strategy that couples can use to maintain positive communication is to work on preventing any of the "four horsemen of the relationship apocalypse." Which of the following are the four horsemen?

A) criticism, contempt, defensiveness, criticism
B) contempt, defensiveness, commitment, stonewalling
C) stonewalling, criticism, contempt, complaining
D) criticism, contempt, defensiveness, stonewalling

Question 61

List and explain ten reasons why relationships fail.

Question 62

Explain the terms matching hypothesis,proximity effect,and mere exposure effect.Discuss the ways in which each of these concepts pertains to the mate selection process.

Question 63

Ophelia left her abuser a few weeks ago but decided to give the relationship a second chance.According to the textbook,which of the following is a possible outcome of Ophelia's return?

A) The violence will stop.
B) The couple will enter counseling.
C) The abuser's violent behavior will escalate.
D) Ophelia will become violent.

Question 64

According to the text,which of the following is a form of emotional abuse?

A) misrepresenting the victim's feelings
B) criticizing
C) trivializing the victim's ideas
D) using sarcasm

Question 65

Explain John Allen Lee's styles of love theory.Define and provide examples of three love styles.

Question 66

Which of the following is a characteristic of a potential abuser?

A) being overly responsible
B) engages in controlling behavior
C) has been in many past relationships
D) initially appears to be charming

Question 67

Identify and explain the four phases of the cycle of abuse.

Question 68

Michaela's partner regularly grabs and twists her arms and waves a fist at her.This type of behavior is considered _______ abuse.

A) emotional
B) verbal
C) physical
D) spiritual

Question 69

Explain the concept of couple meetings as discussed by Notarius and Markman in their five rules for enhancing intimate communication.List three of the "five rules."

Question 70

Statistics show that _______ of all women who are murdered in the United States are killed by their male partners.

A) one-third
B) one-half
C) one-quarter
D) one-fifth

Question 71

Usually,the only way to stop relationship violence is for the victim to ______.

A) leave the relationship
B) obey the abuser
C) seek counseling
D) have a child

Question 72

Jay regularly belittles,accuses,blames,insults,puts down,and humiliates his partner.This type of behavior is considered _______ abusive.

A) emotionally
B) verbally
C) physically
D) spiritually

Question 73

Which of the following is the order in which the phases of the cycle of violence occur?

A) honeymoon, explosion, tension-building
B) tension-building, explosion, honeymoon
C) explosion, honeymoon, tension-building
D) honeymoon, tension-building, explosion

Question 74

During the _______ phase of the cycle of violence,an event occurs that creates strain between the members of a couple.

A) tension-building
B) explosion
C) honeymoon
D) resolution

Question 75

Matt has started to become physically violent and hit his partner Natalia.Their relationship is in the _______ phase of the cycle of violence.

A) tension-building
B) explosion
C) honeymoon
D) resolution

Question 76

Lucia was beaten by her partner.Her partner has asked for forgiveness,promises he will never hit her again,and bought her a present.This relationship is in the _______ phase of the cycle of violence.

A) tension-building
B) explosion
C) honeymoon
D) resolution

Question 77

Which of the following is a guideline for safely leaving an abusive relationship?

A) Trust that the abuser will not seek out the victim after leaving the relationship.
B) Keep phone numbers of trustworthy people available at all times.
C) Ask the abuser to stay away after leaving the relationship.
D) Have a discussion with the abuser regarding one's desire to leave the relationship.

Question 78

Abusive relationships are about the use of _______ and _______ that is achieved through a variety of physical,verbal and emotional tactics.

A) power; jealousy
B) control; criticism
C) power; control
D) jealousy; criticism

Question 79

As victims look back on the violent relationship,they typically report that the abuser _____.

A) showed signs of violence when they first met
B) always had unpredictable mood swings
C) did not show signs of violence when they first met
D) was sensitive to criticism