Emily Is Having Serious Problems with Her Family

Multiple Choice

Emily is having serious problems with her family. She is extremely distressed and asks you to come over to her house to talk about it. At one point in the conversation, she says: "My family doesn't understand me. Everything I like seems to go against their values. Even though I know they love me, they don't accept me for who I am." Which of the following would be the most effective relational listening response in this situation?

A) "Why do you think they feel that way? Did you do something to offend them?"
B) "Well, you know what they say. Families are like fudge-mostly sweet with a few nuts."
C) "I think you need to speak up more directly. That's the only way you will gain their respect."
D) "I can see you're hurting right now. I'm sorry. I know how important your family is to you."