John and His Wife Lavinia Have Been Married for 63

Multiple Choice

John and his wife Lavinia have been married for 63 years. John is being discharged from the nursing home. You have worked hard at teaching him how to complete ADLs himself, but he insists that Lavinia help him with everything once he gets home. Lavinia has severe osteoarthritis and has trouble completing her own ADLs. What do you tell John to encourage him to complete ADLs himself?

A) "John, you are lazy. You must complete your own self-care tasks.
B) "John, your doctor will not let you out of this nursing home until you can complete your own self-care tasks."
C) "John, I know Lavinia is very willing to help you do everything at home. But she is in a lot of pain, and she has trouble completing her own self-care tasks. Don't you think that if you could complete your own self-care tasks, you would make life easier for Lavinia?"
D) "John, I will not allow Lavinia to do everything for you. You must complete your self-care tasks yourself!"