Question 1

As a child, Ann got the message that she needed to be successful in order to be loved. She has a barrier to love which is rooted in the assumption that receiving love from others is based on:

Accepted Answer

A)   putting her own needs before others.
B)   a single characteristic of her personality.
C)   a need for recognition.
D)   a belief in her ability to achieve. B

Question 2

Jeff is in a relationship in which he has unrealistic expectations of how his girlfriend must act in order to be worthy of his love. He is unwilling to share his thoughts and feelings when she tries to discuss the situation with him. Jeff is most likely to be a person whose love is:

Accepted Answer

A)   inauthentic.
B)   romantic.
C)   controlling.
D)   authentic. A

Question 3

__________ is when we make the very thing we fear come true by being unavailable to others in any kind of loving way.

Accepted Answer

A)   Risk of loss
B)   Self-fulfilling prophecy
C)   Free choice
D)   Commitment B

Question 4

A common barrier to loving and being loved is:

Accepted Answer

A)   lack of self-love.
B)   allowing yourself to be vulnerable.
C)   having responsibility toward the person you love.
D)   letting go of fear.

Question 5

A person whose love is inauthentic:

Accepted Answer

A)   does not need to be in charge or make decisions for the other person.
B)   perceives personal change as a threat to the continuation of the relationship.
C)   is unlikely to be dishonest in the relationship.
D)   has responsibility toward the person loved.

Question 6

The following is a rebuttal to the myth of eternal love:

Accepted Answer

A)   When the relationship fades, this is a sure sign that love never really existed.
B)   The notion that love will endure forever without any change is realistic.
C)   While love can last over a period of time, it is to be expected that it will take on different forms as the relationship matures.
D)   With genuine love, you and your partner will never outgrow the love you share.

Question 7

Love means making a commitment to the person I love, which

Accepted Answer

A)   entails surrendering our total selves to each other.
B)   implies that the relationship is permanent.
C)   entails a willingness to stay with each other in times of pain, uncertainty, struggle, and despair, as well as in times of calm and enjoyment.
D)   implies we cannot commit to other things in life.

Question 8

If I am overly dependent on my relationship for meaning and survival, then I am

Accepted Answer

A)   free to challenge the relationship.
B)   able to challenge and confront when I feel unhappy with what is going on within the relationship.
C)   not free to challenge our relationship.
D)   likely to encourage personal growth on an equal basis for both myself and the person I love.

Question 9

Self-love is not ________________; rather, self-love means accepting and respecting ourselves even though we are imperfect.

Accepted Answer

A)   narcissistic
B)   psychotic
C)   neurotic
D)   high self-esteem

Question 10

Love is a __________ experience that undergoes transformation.

Accepted Answer

A)   simple
B)   selflessness
C)   complex
D)   tolerant

Question 11

An "impaired giver" is a person who:

Accepted Answer

A)   has a high need to take care of others, yet little tolerance in accepting what others want to give to them.
B)   creates a relationship in which the receiver has a feeling of security.
C)   expresses love unselfishly while being aware of meeting his or her own needs.
D)   lives up to the fact that love is selfless.

Question 12

Rose is angry at her spouse because he refuses to take a vacation. She is so angry that she is shunning him, refusing to talk to him and ignoring his requests to discuss the matter. Rose's tactics are:

Accepted Answer

A)   a cry for help, since their relationship is deteriorating.
B)   her way of getting separateness within the relationship so her identity can be maintained and preserved.
C)   deliberate and aimed at controlling her spouse.
D)   an expression of her need to be loved.

Question 13

All of the following are "myths and misconceptions about love," EXCEPT for the assertion that:

Accepted Answer

A)   love implies constant closeness.
B)   we fall in and out of love.
C)   love is an active choice.
D)   love is exclusive.

Question 14

Frankl noted that in the Nazi concentration camp where he was imprisoned, some prisoners who survived while others perished:

Accepted Answer

A)   kept alive the images of those they loved and retained some measure of hope.
B)   lost memories of love and didn't have to feel the pain of longing.
C)   identified with their captors and loved their fellow prisoners.
D)   were able to transcend their situation by praying for their captors.

Question 15

A seminal work on romantic love as an attachment process posited that adults, like infants, can be categorized as any of the following EXCEPT :

Accepted Answer

A)   secure.
B)   avoidant.
C)   permissive.
D)   anxious-ambivalent.

Question 16

In regard to love and anger,

Accepted Answer

A)   denied or unexpressed anger can lead to the death of a relationship.
B)   anger needs to be dealt with in a constructive way before it reaches explosive proportions.
C)   love and anger can be compartmentalized; for when you deny your anger, you are nurturing your relationship.
D)   they are incompatible.

Question 17

In The Art of Loving , Erich Fromm describes the condition of self-love within a relationship as:

Accepted Answer

A)   having respect for our own integrity and uniqueness.
B)   becoming selfless, losing ourselves in the one we love.
C)   looking for love in order to feel love for ourselves.
D)   having a 50/50 relationship.

Question 18

In a hospice care study, dying patients were asked about the most important aspects of their lives. They found 100% of the stories exploded with:

Accepted Answer

A)   suffering.
B)   pain.
C)   regret.
D)   love.

Question 19

A __________ life is often lived in isolation and alienation.

Accepted Answer

A)   self-love
B)   loveless
C)   loving
D)   trusting

Question 20

The following is a misconception about love:

Accepted Answer

A)   In most intense, long-term relationships there are times when the alliance is characterized by deadness, frustration, strife, or conflict.
B)   When we love someone, we do not need to have other relationships.
C)   One of the signs of genuine love is that it is expansive rather than exclusive.
D)   Despite our need for love we often put barriers in the way of our attempts to give and receive love.

Exam 6: Love