Question 1

How can adults help children cope with fear?

Accepted Answer

Take children's fears seriously. Model what to fear and what not to fear. Allow children to play out fears in a safe environment.

Question 2

According to the chapter, which of the following is never inappropriate?

Accepted Answer

A)   Express feelings
B)   Act on one's feelings
C)   Feel what one feels
D)   Talk about feelings C

Question 3

When children are sad or angry, why do some adults react strongly?

Accepted Answer

A)   Because those adults are immature
B)   Because a child may mirror a deep pain or anger inside the adult
C)   Because those adults do not know any better
D)   Because those adults haven't been trained well enough to always hide their feelings B

Question 4

When two people disagree about how feelings should be expressed, what is important for each person to consider?

Accepted Answer

A)   Who is right and who is wrong
B)   How to prove a point
C)   Both perspectives
D)   How to get the other to change his/her mind

Question 5

Which of the following is not one of the ways to help children cope with feelings?

Accepted Answer

A)   Relaxation
B)   Self-calming
C)   Playing pretend
D)   Rewarding

Question 6

What are the characteristics of a permissive parent?

Accepted Answer

A)   They may take the role of friends and guides
B)   They provide limits and controls
C)   They use the "Do-as-I-say" approach
D)   They view the parent role as one of power

Question 7

Charlie fell while running on the playground. He looks up towards the nearest adult. In regards to social referencing, which teacher response helps Charlie decide for himself how to react?

Accepted Answer

A)   "You're okay."
B)   "You fell down. Are you okay?"
C)   "Big boys don't cry."
D)   "Ohhhh, OUCH!"

Question 8

How does playing pretend help children cope with feelings?

Accepted Answer

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Question 9

What are the characteristics of an authoritative parent?

Accepted Answer

A)   They may take the role of friends and guides
B)   They provide limits and controls
C)   They use the "Do-as-I-say" approach
D)   Parent needs come before child needs

Question 10

How can adults help children cope with anger?

Accepted Answer

A)   By downplaying the feeling
B)   By putting the child in time-out so he will learn not to have those feelings
C)   By helping the child redirect the energy and work through the feeling
D)   By refusing to label the feeling

Question 11

How can adults help children cope with fears?

Accepted Answer

A)   By linking up a brave, gentle, outgoing child with one who is fearful
B)   By telling them not to be afraid
C)   By disregarding their feelings
D)   By refusing to label the feeling

Question 12

A young child sucking on his/her thumb is an example of what?

Accepted Answer

A)   A child who needs a pacifier
B)   A child who needs to eat
C)   A child who is happy
D)   A child who is self-soothing

Question 13

Shea got mad at his teacher and yelled, "I hate you!" Which of the following is an example of Shea's teacher redirecting his angry feelings?

Accepted Answer

A)   "Hate is a strong word!"
B)   "Do not say hate to me."
C)   "You are really mad at me right now."
D)   "You need to take a time out and think about what you said."

Question 14

Three of the following are examples of ways of expressing feelings that are acceptable to some adults and not to others. Which one does not belong?

Accepted Answer

A)   Yelling and screaming
B)   Stating negative wishes or imagining violent happenings
C)   Taking out anger symbolically such as pounding pillows
D)   Name calling and using obscenities

Question 15

A kindergarten teacher said, ""I see how angry you are." "It really makes you mad when she grabs your doll!" Which of the following did the teacher demonstrate?

Accepted Answer

A)   Redirecting the energy and helping the child get it out
B)   Accepting and labeling the feeling
C)   Calming the energy; soothing the chaos
D)   Teaching problem solving

Question 16

An important aspect of socialization is helping children recognize, accept, sort out, identify, label, integrate, express, and cope with which of the following?

Accepted Answer

A)   behaviors
B)   emotions
C)   satisfaction
D)   perspective

Question 17

Which of the following best describes social referencing?

Accepted Answer

A)   It should always be avoided
B)   It is a way adults can calm children's fears or warn them of danger
C)   It is a way of disempowering children and making them feel small
D)   It is a filing system in some schools

Question 18

Which of the following best describes Susan Isaacs's advice to parents about teaching children healthy expressions of feelings?

Accepted Answer

A)   The advice suggests that determination, obstinacy, and outbursts of temper are normal, and it takes patience to socialize children
B)   The advice is outdated in today's society
C)   Children do not need patience; they need a strong hand to make them obedient
D)   Parents need to shout when they are upset so the child will understand how feelings can be hurt.

Question 19

Simultaneous feelings include all of the following, except

Accepted Answer

A)   They are sometimes called mixed feelings
B)   They are difficult for children because children can focus only on one feeling at a time
C)   They are verbalized by adults to help children cope
D)   They are easy for children to deal with and explain

Question 20

Which of the following is a way adults can help children deal with fears?

Accepted Answer

A)   By ignoring them and waiting for the fear to go away
B)   Force them to confront whatever they are afraid of no matter how unwilling they are
C)   Help them play out their fears
D)   Do not take their fears seriously

Exam 9: Working With Families on Addressing Feelings and Problem Solving